Men that live Polygamy
by ana on Feb.26, 2009, under polygamy - the aftermath, Section 1
I have received many questions about husbands from both single Muslim sisters and Muslim wives in polygamous marriages - questions such as: Does a husband feel more inclined to be with one of his wives more than the other? Is there something in particular that he likes more about the one wife than the other that makes the inclination strong? Does the excitement of having more than one wife wear off quickly or is the feeling pretty much constant? Is he happy in polygamy?
Here at polygamy 411, Muslim women would like to hear some of the husbands’ thoughts on polygamy, and some of their answers to the questions posed above.
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April 22nd, 2009 on 8:49 AM
Hi,
I was asked to make a comment in regard to these questions.
I am a 39 year-old man who has lived with 2 wives for 10 years.
I would say that overall – I do not prefer to be with one specific wife, per se. That can change from time to time. For instance, I might not enjoy being with a wife when she is upset with me, and another is not.
But it is not a constant. I have had minor experiences where one wife gets angry if I decide to read at night, and the other does not care.
A husband has many responsibilities to his wives – to love, care and provide for,
A wife has responisbilities, aslo. If she uses her time with him to make him feel welcome, loved, fed, etc., any husband will love to spend time with that wife.
If she spends that time being negative, complaining to him, bitching, etc. then his desire to be around her will diminish.
That is any relationship, not just polygamy.
I don’t know that the excitement wears off, but I definitely would not want to go back to just one wife…
Hope this is helpful,
Moroni Jessop
April 22nd, 2009 on 11:07 PM
Moroni Jessop
Thank you Moroni Jessop for your help. It’s so funny. I felt as though I was at a seminar and you were our guest speaker.
You clearly, simply, and intelligently answered the questions that I had about husbands and polygamy. You were sincere, frank, and didn’t beat around the bush with a lot of rhetoric and fluff. I’ll probably have more questions for you, as well, if I won’t be imposing.
I encourage all my visitors to reach out to you and visit you at your site, http://www.moroni-family.blogspot.com, if they have any questions of a husband who has firsthand knowledge and experience in living with more than one wife.
I thank you very much for so graciously accepting my invitation and welcoming our questions.
This is an open house. No need to knock. Just come on in.
Ana