Polygamy 411

Whatever Carolinah wanted, I got it too, whether I wanted it or not.  Alex never even asked me what I wanted. Alex based what I got on Carolinah’s wants, needs and likes. I got very tired of Alex giving me what Carolinah wanted and I got very tired of telling Alex just how tired of it I was.

I never asked Alex for monies before he married Carolinah, not until we began living polygamy.  I just bought whatever Allah allowed me, before then.  Alex became somewhat generous once he married Carolinah.  I saw a few things that I liked in a catalog and Alex said go ahead, order them.  He gave me his credit card.

One day Alex said he was going to buy me a new coat.  He said he had not seen me in a long coat.  The red flag immediately went up.  I guess Carolinah was in need of a coat.  I told Alex I didn’t need a coat.  I supposed he never noticed I already had at least five coats in the closet, two of which were long.  That …… me off.  It angered me so much that I went out the next day and bought myself a new coat.

One time, I asked Alex to forgive a loan that I had made with him before he and Carolinah married. I had to plead with him, and prove my reason not to pay.  Another time something emergent came up and I asked Alex for some money.  He said OK…just like that…the money was in my account it seemed like the next day.  The same amount of money showed up immediately in Carolinah’s account, as well.  I guess since Carolinah was in need of money too, I didn’t have to beg this time.

I felt like such a fool when I’d tell my best friend and his wife how upset I was about what I received from Alex.  They always made me remember Allah SWT.  They advised me to show my gratitude to Allah SWT for what Allah has given me. By living polygamy, I’m learning valuable lessons.  Allah SWT is who I should be special to.   Every time I got angry or upset about what Alex gave me, I was really ungrateful to Allah SWT. Everything comes from Allah SWT, not from Alex.