Polygamy 411

I called my friend again. I advised him that I had called Carolinah and apologized to her.  I knew my apology was weak and insincere.  I felt extremely bad.  I knew what I had done was so very wrong and sinful.  My friend advised me to offer Salat and ask Allah SWT to forgive me. He furthermore said, “Don’t do it again.”  He told me to call Carolinah back and apologize to her with sincerity, which I did.

I called Carolinah and said I was very sorry for what I had said.  She asked if Alex had told me to call her.  I said, “No.”  Her question shocked me. I thought to myself…Alex must be teaching her at least one thing about Islam and that is to be obedient to her husband. 

Carolinah then asked, “Why did you do it, Ana?”  Her tone was that of a mother speaking to a child.  I thought-what kind of crazy question is that?  Yes, granted, I had acted like a child, but still.  I wondered whether she spoke to Alex the same way and how he could stand it. 

I became defensive.  I said I did it because I did.  She then called me a hypocrite and said something like…a Muslim wouldn’t do that.  I yelled, “Muslim doesn’t mean perfect.”  I stated, a person striving to be a  Believer should ask Allah’s forgiveness and repent.  I screamed, “Don’t you tell me anything about Islam because you know nothing.”  We screamed over each other’s voices and I hung up the phone.

Alex didn’t leave me that night.  I guess Carolinah calmed down.