Polygamy 411

I should give you a bit of background information on Alex and me…the beginning.  Before Alex and I married, he said he could take care of me. I said fine and good, but I will keep working.  I liked what I did and the money I made.  I think if a man gives you money, you give him control.  No way did I want Alex to have that much control of me.  I needed to make my money.

Alex and I shared the expenses.  Why should he pay for everything?  In sharing expenses, he’d have plenty of money to help his family and friends. That is what he continued to do-help his family and friends.  I didn’t know Alex one day would think he had plenty enough money to take care of another wife.

I permanently stopped working, about one year after Alex married Carolinah.  No…I didn’t stop working to put a burden on Alex, as that would only put a burden on me.  I fully knew I had enough money to take care of myself, if Alex and my marriage did not work out.  Furthermore, I kept in mind that Alex had a legal responsibility to me given by our State Marriage License.

I took my emotional, psychological and physical well-being into consideration before retiring my career (one year after Alex married Carolinah.)  The tremendous amount of stress that I had suffered from living my new life polygamy (living it now for a year), not only effected my mental and physical health, but my work as well…not sleeping at night, unable to focus at work, being depressed and just not caring anymore, most definitely took a toll on me.