Second Wife tries to Inflict Punishment on Polygamous Husband and First Wife…
by ana on Jun.08, 2009, under my story today
Carolinah didn’t like that Alex had gone away on vacation with me, and had celebrated his and my anniversary at that time. She had found out about it from text messages I sent her. (What Allah wants revealed, no one can conceal. What Allah wants concealed, no one can reveal.)
So, Carolinah decided she’d take matters into her own hands, as you already know. There was total turmoil and immense confusion in our lives for a while. But, Alex did come home as originally scheduled and the night was still. What happened the next couple days is important.
When a husband considers taking direction from one wife when he has two, what type of effect does that have on a marriage? A second wife tells her husband that she doesn’t want him there and tells him to go to his first wife; she then tells him when to come back home to her (the second wife) – is that an innovation?
Please tell me where Islam dictates that a wife can order the comings and goings of her husband and take control of the life of the husband’s other wife, as well…
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May 29th, 2009 on 9:56 PM
I only wish I had that kind of pull on my husband. He tells me he is a man and he does what he wants….blah blah blah…go read my blog and you will see…..
May 29th, 2009 on 11:31 PM
I don’t know many men like Alex. Most men wouldn’t tolerate from women the things that Alex accepts. You really don’t wish you had the kind of pull Carolinah has. What woman really does? Women usually want "strong" men (I’m glad you don’t know the true identity of Alex. It’s not easy talking about a husband the way I do.) What did I tell you in a previous post…what Carolinah wants, Carolinah gets. I don’t have the energy or strength to be a he/woman. I am longing for the peace and tranquility we should have in a marriage. It’s tough, very difficult trying to be on guard all the time, ready to fight.
I knocked on your door to visit you recently, but got turned away. I think something was up with my password. I’ll try to visit you again very soon.
I wonder where Donald is…Do you think we exhausted him?
May 29th, 2009 on 11:54 PM
Ana, I have been reading for weeks and finally decided to comment. You are an incredibly strong woman and your story in so interesting and so moving. I believe that all partners in a marriage should play an equal part. When one wife has control over the husband that interferes with the other wife’s daily business it should not be tolerated. If she does not want to speak with you, and work things out between you she should not have the oppertunity to interfere with your personal time. I wish the best for you and hope that you will find a way to be at peace and be satisfied, with or without Alex and Carolinah.
Krystelle
May 30th, 2009 on 12:53 AM
Hi Krystelle, I’m glad you’re here. Warm, friendly people like you that take time out of your busy schedule to stop in and visit helps me maintain my sanity through all this. You help more than you could imagine. There are probably so many people, more than we realize, that are living polygamy in so much pain. Being able to talk with people like you, whether you live polygamy or not, and everyone here who have commented, is truly a blessing. Thank you for all your well wishes and I wish the same for you too…peace, satisfaction, and happiness! smile
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May 30th, 2009 on 3:06 AM
try again and if it doesn’t work email me and then I will resend another invite and see if that helps…..