HAPPY RAMADAN!!!-RAMADAN MUBARAK!!!
by ana on Aug.14, 2010, under polygamy - the aftermath, Section 2
Have a happy, blessed Ramadan!
To everyone who do not know, I’m referring to the Holy Month of Ramadan (the holy month of fasting for Muslims). The video below is of the speech given by President Obama at an Iftar at the White House on August 13, 2010. He addresses Ramadan and more, referencing Muslims.
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August 22nd, 2009 on 12:45 AM
RAMADAN MUBARAK! to you too. May all your fasts and prayers be accepted as complete. Ameen.
August 22nd, 2009 on 12:42 PM
Ramadhan Kareem to u all!
I found a nice hadeeth.
The Messenger of Allah said,
“The reward of every good deed of a person is multiplied from 10 to 700 times. Allah says: ‘The reward of observing saum (fasting) is different from the reward of other good deeds; Saum is for Me, and I Alone will give its reward. The person observing saum obstains from food and drink only for My sake.’
The fasting person has 2 joyous occasions, one at the time of breaking his fast and the other at the time of meeting his Rabb (Lord). Surely, the breath of one observing saum is better smelling to Allah than the fragrance of musk.”
In a narration by Muslim.
August 14th, 2010 on 4:02 PM
To avoid any confusion
, please note: the two comments above were from last year’s (2009) Ramadan post. The video from last year was removed from public use; therefore, we no longer have access to it.
The video above is from this year (2010) Ramadan.
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August 22nd, 2010 on 9:52 PM
Ramadan Mubarak! Ana, I have recently discovered your blog and I am so grateful. My husband and I are currently in discussions about him taking a second wife. We have been married for 12 years and he has been interested in doing so for a long time now. This Ramadan I have actually finally come to accept it. I don’t want to fight it. I am tired of wondering if he will ever do it and really tired of not trusting him. I fear that he will “just marry someone” anyway if I don’t go along with it or possibly even fall into an unlawful situation. I don’t want that. What I’ve found is that there is a huge lack of support for Muslim women in polygony. I can’t tell most of my Muslimah girlfriends that we are considering/planning for this. They would consider me a traitor. If my husband does it, will their husbands do it next? This is their fear. Anyway, my husband actually wants me to help him find the wife. He says there is no way it will work unless I am supportive and the second wife and I get along. I have just begun researching this topic seriously and looking for support and fortunately found your blog. Insha Allah, I will be coming back often and hope to learn from the posts/comments that are on the blog. Jazakalah Khair for your efforts.
August 22nd, 2010 on 10:20 PM
Malaika, Ramadan Mubarak to you too! I’m so happy you found polygamy 411, and have joined us. I love your spirit. Reading your comment made me smile and I felt very happy. Here is someone you (Malaika) who no longer wants to fight her fate, if polygamy happens for you – IT MAY NOT; Allah knows best. I admire the position that you take. I sounds like you want to submit your will to the will of Allah, whatever that may be. May Allah be well pleased with you.
I think it may be much easier for someone like you who acknowledge polygamy is permissible for men and your husband possibly could marry secretly or fall into a haram condition of commiting adultery should he not engage in polygamy. I’m sure it’s some what comforting that your husband loves and considers you enough to make you part of the planning process and he mutually consulted with you.
I’ve heard there are many sisters that shun women that are polygamous as though it’s contagious. It’s very sad, as it was the way of the Prophet Muhammad. Granted the thought of polygamy for oneself can be very distasteful and taxing on the mind. I’m speaking from experience. Living it could be a living nightmare; I’m speaking from experience. Letting others know about my polygamous state is still very difficult for me. No one knows but my and Alex’s immediate families and one ex-coworker who I communicate with no longer. Letting others know may be a tough one for you. I’m trying to come to terms with fearing what others think and say, as we are not suppose to fear the reproaches of other, only Allah. I need a lot of work and Allah’s help. I don’t see myself speaking freely about it to anyone anytime soon, which is sad.
You and your husband are approaching the prospect of becoming polygamous with a good attitude and good intentions. Malaika, if your husband becomes polygamous, I truly believe you will see how life changes for you for the better; it’s as if Allah immediately rewards you in other areas of your life. It happened to me; however, I was too distraught to be grateful and appreciate it all at the time. Now, I am very grateful and appreciative. Don’t get me wrong,; I’m not loving polygamy, but I’m liking it better. It’s not that bad as long as I stay focused on Allah and not on Alex and Carolinah. You’re going to have to learn to master the thought waves of your mind
May Allah reward you immensely, Malika. We are here for you!!!
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