Since the day my husband Alex married another woman, Carolinah, and became polygamous, I wondered if a friendship between her and I was necessary. Is there a need for a friendship between wives who share the same husband? The answer to the question for me is “No!” Not only because I don’t like Carolinah, but because I don’t think there is an Islamic reason that calls for a friendship between her and me. I understand polygamous wives that live together have a need to befriend one another for peaceful living conditions. Is there the same need for friendship between the wives when they don’t live in the same household with each other?
I believe I should say “As Salaamu Alaikum” to Carolinah, and return the greeting if she gives it to me. I think being kind and cordial are in order, if we ever communicate. I, however, don’t think I should bother her, otherwise.
Do we befriend every Muslim we meet? If not, then what makes my husband’s wife any different from other Muslims? Oh, she’s his wife…
Instructions are given to men in Islam that opt to engage in polygamy. I have come across no instructions for me as a Muslim female with regards to being married to a polygamous man.
Should I try to make life easier for my husband Alex by befriending his other wife Carolinah? Would being her friend actually make my husband’s life easier or more complicated?
My husband’s wife Carolinah and I are not friends, nor do I want a friendship with her. Why should wives married to the same man be friends?This is an open house. No need to knock. Just come on in.