<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?> <rss version="2.0" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:wfw="http://wellformedweb.org/CommentAPI/" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" xmlns:sy="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/syndication/" xmlns:slash="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/slash/" ><channel><title>Polygamy 411 &#187; my journey &#8211; part 1</title> <atom:link href="http://polygamy411.com/category/my-journey-in-polygamy/feed/" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml" /><link>http://polygamy411.com/en/</link> <description>a support group for Muslims and Non-Muslims in polygamous marriages or with an interest in polygamy</description> <lastbuilddate>Tue, 22 May 2012 17:15:48 +0000</lastbuilddate> <language>en</language> <sy:updateperiod>hourly</sy:updateperiod> <sy:updatefrequency>1</sy:updatefrequency> <generator>http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2</generator> <item><title>Note about Reading My Story</title><link>http://polygamy411.com/en/note-about-reading-my-story/</link> <comments>http://polygamy411.com/en/note-about-reading-my-story/#comments</comments> <pubdate>Tue, 21 Dec 2010 19:18:48 +0000</pubdate> <dc:creator>ana</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[my journey - part 1]]></category> <category><![CDATA[my journey - part 2]]></category><guid ispermalink="false">http://polygamy411.com/?p=7060-en</guid> <description><![CDATA[I have written &#8220;My Journey&#8221; and &#8220;My Story Today&#8221; in book like form  (read from top to bottom), which does not conform to how one normally reads a blog. To set the posts up this way, I had to change the dates of the writings. This explains why the dates of the posts do not ...]]></description> <wfw:commentrss>http://polygamy411.com/en/note-about-reading-my-story/feed/</wfw:commentrss> <slash:comments>10</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Hello World!</title><link>http://polygamy411.com/en/hello-world/</link> <comments>http://polygamy411.com/en/hello-world/#comments</comments> <pubdate>Sat, 25 Apr 2009 14:05:39 +0000</pubdate> <dc:creator>ana</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[my journey - part 1]]></category><guid ispermalink="false">http://polygamy411.com/?p=1-en</guid> <description><![CDATA[To protect the true identity of the parties and to stay true to my life experiences, the names of the characters here (at polygamy 411)&#160;are fictitious; however, my situation, circumstances, and experiences are real. I&#8217;m Anabellah. You could call me Ana.&#160; I have been in a polygamous marriage, referred to by many as polygyny, for ...]]></description> <wfw:commentrss>http://polygamy411.com/en/hello-world/feed/</wfw:commentrss> <slash:comments>4</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>My Background Information</title><link>http://polygamy411.com/en/monogamy-polygamy-and-me-background-information/</link> <comments>http://polygamy411.com/en/monogamy-polygamy-and-me-background-information/#comments</comments> <pubdate>Sat, 25 Apr 2009 00:49:59 +0000</pubdate> <dc:creator>ana</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[my journey - part 1]]></category><guid ispermalink="false">http://www.polygamy411.com/?p=686-en</guid> <description><![CDATA[I should&#160;give you a bit of background information on Alex and me&#8230;the beginning.&#160; Before&#160;Alex and I&#160;married, he said he could take care of me. 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Alex advised me one evening that Carolina was thinking about becoming Muslim.&#160; He said ...]]></description> <wfw:commentrss>http://polygamy411.com/en/he-she-and-me-polygamy-how-it-began/feed/</wfw:commentrss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>The Fairytale Begins to Crumble&#8230;</title><link>http://polygamy411.com/en/the-fairytale-begins-to-crumble/</link> <comments>http://polygamy411.com/en/the-fairytale-begins-to-crumble/#comments</comments> <pubdate>Thu, 23 Apr 2009 00:39:47 +0000</pubdate> <dc:creator>ana</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[my journey - part 1]]></category><guid ispermalink="false">http://www.polygamy411.com/?p=225-en</guid> <description><![CDATA[So, everything seemed as usual in our home; I was content; I guess you could even say I was happy.&#160;But, I did notice Alex was still in his mind,&#160;somewhat distant.&#160; And then, spontaneously, out of nowhere, &#160;he said to me, &#8220;I&#8217;m going to marry Carolina.&#8221; Wow, I didn&#8217;t see that one coming&#8230;. I just remember ...]]></description> <wfw:commentrss>http://polygamy411.com/en/the-fairytale-begins-to-crumble/feed/</wfw:commentrss> <slash:comments>9</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Polygamy-After the Initial Reaction&#8230;</title><link>http://polygamy411.com/en/polygamy-after-the-initial-reaction/</link> <comments>http://polygamy411.com/en/polygamy-after-the-initial-reaction/#comments</comments> <pubdate>Tue, 21 Apr 2009 21:10:11 +0000</pubdate> <dc:creator>ana</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[my journey - part 1]]></category><guid ispermalink="false">http://www.polygamy411.com/?p=305-en</guid> <description><![CDATA[OK, so now I knew he was going to have an extra wife. Alex and I were going to be part and parcel&#160;of polygamy. The next morning Alex called me on his way to work, to check on me.&#160; He said his stomach&#160;had been in&#160;knots and still was, as he was driving. 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Alex had&#160;already&#160;said when his marriage to Carolinah would take place.&#160;I asked Alex if he loved&#160;Carolinah.&#160; He said, &#8220;I care about her.&#8221;&#160;&#160;When I first realized Alex&#160;was seeing&#160;Carolinah again,&#160;he had told me ...]]></description> <wfw:commentrss>http://polygamy411.com/en/polygamy-questions-asked/feed/</wfw:commentrss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Emotions Rise in Polygamy</title><link>http://polygamy411.com/en/emotions-rise-in-polygamy/</link> <comments>http://polygamy411.com/en/emotions-rise-in-polygamy/#comments</comments> <pubdate>Sun, 19 Apr 2009 22:11:45 +0000</pubdate> <dc:creator>ana</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[my journey - part 1]]></category> <category><![CDATA[emotions]]></category><guid ispermalink="false">http://www.polygamy411.com/?p=346-en</guid> <description><![CDATA[The weeks and days before&#160;my forthcoming&#160;experience&#160;with&#160;polygamy came rapidly,&#160;sparking within me various feelings and emotions. I was extremely angry at Alex for what he was about to do&#8230;polygamy?&#160;&#160; In the evenings when he arrived home, I ranted and I raved. I yelled at him from the top of my lungs, spurting out obscenities. I can&#8217;t repeat ...]]></description> <wfw:commentrss>http://polygamy411.com/en/emotions-rise-in-polygamy/feed/</wfw:commentrss> <slash:comments>2</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Polygamy Helps Us Know OurSelves and Others!</title><link>http://polygamy411.com/en/polygamy-helps-you-know-self-and-others-better/</link> <comments>http://polygamy411.com/en/polygamy-helps-you-know-self-and-others-better/#comments</comments> <pubdate>Sat, 18 Apr 2009 23:26:45 +0000</pubdate> <dc:creator>ana</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[my journey - part 1]]></category><guid ispermalink="false">http://www.polygamy411.com/?p=363-en</guid> <description><![CDATA[It&#8217;s amazing that for almost five years I didn&#8217;t truly know myself, nor did I know my husband Alex. I was so self-absorbed, self-centered and outright arrogant. 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He said he didn&#8217;t really want to marry a woman who had children, as he had just raised his ex-wife&#8217;s children. So, I thought that&#8217;s all well and good;&#160;let&#8217;s move on.&#160; So, Alex ...]]></description> <wfw:commentrss>http://polygamy411.com/en/polygamy-for-others/feed/</wfw:commentrss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>The Day Polygamy Began &#8211; My Husband Married Another Woman&#8230;</title><link>http://polygamy411.com/en/the-day-polygamy-began-my-husband-married-another-woman/</link> <comments>http://polygamy411.com/en/the-day-polygamy-began-my-husband-married-another-woman/#comments</comments> <pubdate>Tue, 14 Apr 2009 23:46:39 +0000</pubdate> <dc:creator>ana</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[my journey - part 1]]></category> <category><![CDATA[husband]]></category><guid ispermalink="false">http://www.polygamy411.com/?p=459-en</guid> <description><![CDATA[The day Alex married Carolinah was surprisingly uneventful for me.&#160;Allah&#160;SWT gave me ease.&#160;Alex, I&#8217;m assuming,&#160;went to work. He married Carolinah that evening.&#160;I went to work. I went shopping with a friend after work, and then went home and actually went to sleep.&#160; No boo hooing&#8230;.just peaceful sleep. But the next day&#8230; two and three, weren&#8217;t ...]]></description> <wfw:commentrss>http://polygamy411.com/en/the-day-polygamy-began-my-husband-married-another-woman/feed/</wfw:commentrss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>The Phone Call&#8230;Polygamy Created Animosity?</title><link>http://polygamy411.com/en/the-phone-call-polygamy-created-animosity/</link> <comments>http://polygamy411.com/en/the-phone-call-polygamy-created-animosity/#comments</comments> <pubdate>Mon, 13 Apr 2009 23:41:44 +0000</pubdate> <dc:creator>ana</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[my journey - part 1]]></category><guid ispermalink="false">http://www.polygamy411.com/?p=480-en</guid> <description><![CDATA[It was New Years Eve. 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