Evidently Alex realized by now his transition from monogamy to polygamy was not as easy as he had thought. Every night, once the schedule took effect, I called Alex on his cell phone when he was at Carolinah’s house. One night I called hysterically, pleading for him to come home. Alex phoned me the next morning from his work. ...…
I guess you’re wondering how Carolinah, initially, adjusted to polygamy-our (her, Alex and my) new way of life…I certainly wondered! Somehow or another, the conversation came up between Alex and me. He said Carolinah was upset, or angry. I can’t remember his exact words. I knew Carolinah and I both were distressed. Whose fault was it? Alex advised me that ...…
Alex came home one day and asked me to forgive him. After he married Carolinah, on a few occasions he asked me to forgive him. I don’t know exactly what he asked forgiveness for. Was it forgiveness for marrying Carolinah, for hurting me, or both? I never asked Alex for clarification. Maybe I didn’t ask what he meant, as I didn’t seriously ...…
On one of those unusual occasions when Alex and I had a civil conversation about his marriage to Carolinah, one late evening, he said Carolinah worried a lot that he might leave her. He said, “She thinks I’m going to leave her.” He said he promised her that he would never leave her. He said he promised her that he would ...…
The first vacation that Alex and I took after he married Carolinah was very, very nice. We talked with each other more and enjoyed each other more than we did on any other vacation we had taken before. The excursions and activities took a back seat. What was terribly different though, in a not good ...…
I still continued, in a state of hysteria, to reach out to Alex on days that weren’t my turn. I know you’re probably thinking that what I was doing was “messed up.” You are right. I just did it and kept doing it. Although sincerely distraught, I knew, in the back of my mind, exactly what I was ...…
When men consider engaging in polygamy, do they consider where everyone is going to live? Alex does not like living in the state in which we live. For him, it’s too expensive and blah, blah, blah…but, I’ve lived here all my life and I like it here. I am not concerned about the cost. Allah SWT always provides. Alex, however, periodically brought up ...…
Sometimes women say they are receptive to polygamy and to being an extra wife. They haven’t eliminated the option completely (saying no way, no how, is the easy part). But what happens when a woman actually becomes the other wife and emotions kick in. What happens when she really begins to know the husband - like turns to love; there’s passion, desire….or maybe the ...…
The non-Muslim holidays that came soon after Alex married Carolinah were easy for me to take. Alex was with me those days, as scheduled. I had become used to Alex and me being off work and home together those days, although we didn’t celebrate. I don’t think Carolinah much cared about Alex not being with her those days, as I gathered from ...…
I was getting very agitated. The stress of living polygamy was taking a toll on me. I was really beginning to feel like I didn’t exist-just the way Carolinah wanted me not to exist. I never heard anything from her, hadn’t spoken with her, hadn’t received a message from her…nothing. So one day, during a weekend, ...…
