Polygami 411

This is the problem with many polygamous marriages, as I see it:

In the days of the Prophet Muhammad (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), he propagated Islam. All came together to worship and serve Allah – the purpose Allah created us for. His marriages were to cement relations between tribes etc. He was the leader of his family. He taught them Islam. Everyone that accepted Islam ate, drank and slept it, so to speak.

We have men with multiple families and they are not leaders. They don’t follow the way of the Prophet Muhammad. They don’t rehearse the Quran with their families. I don’t mean to follow the way of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) by wearing a long beard and looking like him (perhaps a cultural thing). I’m referring to Islam and belief – Belief in Allah and all that Allah says in the Quran. Allah tells us what a believer is. Allah, throughout the Quran, outlines who a Believer is, and did not list to wear a beard as a criteria for a Believer. Wearing a beard isn’t righteousness. It’s not what I refer to here.

So we have men with multiple families and the members of the families don’t get along because the leaders of the families aren’t teaching them Islam. They’re just fulfilling their family members basic needs, feeding them, clothing them etc. and fulfilling their own needs (sex), as well. And some of the men aren’t with their families long enough to teach them anything. What good is the husband if he shows up just to see the wife and grab himself some sex here and there? There is no singleness of purpose in the marriages. The marriages are simply separate marriage units in which each member is simply trying to satisfy their own desires. No one cares about the other. They have no reason to come together.

Alex, ideally, should read Quran with me; we should discuss it and we should apply everything we do to it. The same should happen with him at his other wife’s house with her, if she is Muslim. If we were all trying to worship and serve Allah, no one would have a problem doing as Allah says, to give and return the salaam (Islamic greeting), for instance. We would all be cordial to one another. We would be compassionate towards one another etc. Why? Because we would all have the same goal and purpose.

We have husbands that are slack in their duties and responsibilities. They aren’t fulfilling them. Our marriages in Islam aren’t very much different from non-Muslim marriages. The man simply has more than one. Instead of “cheating”, he goes grab himself another marriage. Islam plays a small part in any of it. It simply gives him the permission to engage in polygamy, so it seems.

If the men/husbands stepped up to the plate and were the leaders and commanders of their families, there would be less chaos, craziness, and confusion that we see in our marriages. Islam is not about looking and “acting” the part; it’s about being the part.

This is an open house. No need to knock. Just come on in.

Any questions you have about polygamy or discussions you would like to have about it, we will entertain on this post. You could direct your questions to the forum, to a particular person or to me.

Our goal is to support those that have a sincere interest in polygamy and don’t oppose it. We are here to support and encourage those that live polygamy, believe they may one day live polygamy or have a general interest in wanting to know more about a life of polygamy.

We discourage any debates about whether polygamy in Islam is permissible or not. This is not the forum for those who are against polygamy or have a strong hatred or distaste for it that they want to keep.

What questions do you have for us? What would you like to discuss? Please be certain your questions or discussions relate to polygamy. Even if it’s with reference to your husband’s favorite recipe, his likes or dislikes; if you could tie it into polygamy and marriage, we are here to discuss it with you.

P.S. Please do not include links to other sites for information. Just as those here were able to find polygamy 411, they could find other sites as well. It is OK to refer to information that you obtained else where, but links are not acceptable here.

This is an open house. No need to knock. Just come on in.

Efter yderligere overvejelser, baseret på mange e-mails, vi har modtaget fra de berørte personer, og diskussioner med andre, at jeg nært er knyttet til, vi har bestemt der er en alvorlig, stor efterspørgsel efter bloggen. Således, Polygami 411 vil genåbne i meget nær fremtid. Der vil være visse retningslinjer, at vi vil placere i kraft, at alle skal følge. Første, for eksempel, emnet for diskussionen er alene om polygami.

Vi beder alle til kun:

1. Gør udsagn om sig selv. Gør ikke negative udsagn om andre mennesker.

2. Før at reagere på en andens indlæg, stille spørgsmål til præcisere, at en korrekt forstår, hvad den anden person faktisk betyder.

En ivrig læser og medlem af vores blog familie gav meget værdifulde råd og foreslog ovenstående retningslinjer. Derudover, Hun oplyste,: “Når Gud gør polygami muligt, dette bliver en central kendsgerning i ens liv, og det er hverken muligt eller produktivt at udelukke religiøse emner.” Det er uundgåeligt, at vi vil diskutere religion. Den skal, dog, ophold i forbindelse med. Man skal slutte den til emnet polygami.

Bemærk venligst godt: Kommentarer er ikke velkommen fra dem, hvis mål er at gøre denne blog personlig med hensyn til nogen. Angreb på nogen ville ikke blive tolereret.

Min intention er at gøre alt, hvad jeg kan for at skabe en harmonisk atmosfære her på flerkoneri 411, så vi kunne alle drage fordel af de diskussioner og lære og vokse sammen.

Vi ved polygami 411 ser frem til at alle lykkeligt deltager igen her meget snart.

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