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Gratis Polygami Support Group
af Ann om Jan.12, 2012, i løbet af Hej Verden, polygami info., Afsnit 4
Polygami 411 er et gratis polygami støttegruppe for alle mennesker, der bor polygami eller forventer en dag at leve et polygamt livsstil.
Polygami 411′s primære fokus er på deling:
Hvad nogle af vores tanker er, mens de bor polygami
Hvad vi er følelse, mens de bor polygami eller hvad vi føler om evt lever polygami
Hvad vi kender til andre, der lever flerkoneri
Hvad Det er som at være 1., 2nd, 3rd, eller 4. kone – en kone deler en mand.
Hvad det er som at have en co-kone eller søster-kone (Men vi henviser til den anden kone – selvfølgelig ønsker vi at afstå fra hjælp blasfemisk navne.)
Hvordan vi interagerer med de andre koner
Udveksling af erfaringer at leve polygami
Hvordan polygami har påvirket eller påvirker vores liv
Ting af ovennævnte karakter ...
Vi er her for at lære om os selv og / eller lære om andre, der lever flerkoneri.
Vi er her for at hjælpe og støtte hinanden ved at vide der er andre som os, at bor polygami. Der er mange personer, der har svært ved at acceptere polygami, men vil gerne at omfavne det.
Vi er her for at dele følelse, tanker, og viden om levende polygami. Vi har alle en fælles interesse i polygami.
Ingen her er en myndighed om polygami, og det er ikke vores mål.
Alle spørgsmål om polygami er velkommen her. Vi opfordrer alle til at deltage i diskussionen. Brug fiktive, falske navne, eller aliaser her, men holde historierne reelle og faktuelle.
Vær opmærksom på: polygami 411 er pro-polygami, derfor dem, der er stanch mod flerkoneri kan finde denne blog upassende for dem.
Polygami, Sundhed, Skønhed & Ernæring.
af Ann den jan.09, 2012, i løbet af polygami info., Afsnit 4
Anti-Aging R Us er en helt ny hjemmeside helliget til anti-aging tips og råd til kvinder og mænd. Sitet fokuserer på de bedste og nyeste vejledning og instruktioner om sundhed, skønhed, og ernæring.
Designeren af hjemmesiden meddelte mig, at hans Anti-Aging R Us hjemmeside er en enestående site for de kvinder og mænd her på flerkoneri 411. Anti-Aging R Us har værdifulde tips til at hjælpe modvirke virkningerne af stress, der kan opstå som følge af en polygam livsstil. Polygami er en livsform, der til tider er meget stressende for kvinder og mænd. Stress accelererer aldringsprocessen.
Anti-Aging R Us hjemmeside giver god information om, hvordan man holde sig sund, og hvordan man kan føle og se yngre ud længere. Sitet aksjer basale og enkle forslag og henvisninger til at hjælpe dig i din søgen efter at se og føle dit absolut bedste.
Jeg har altid været sundhedsbevidste og i skønhed og ernæring. Hvis du er interesseret i sundhed, Wellness, og anti-aging, Dette er en fantastisk informativ hjemmeside for dig. Få en hoppe på at bremse og vende den aldrende proces. Må ikke forsinke! Uddan dig selv nu, ved at besøge http://antiagingrus.com/ 
Dette er en åbent hus. Ingen grund til at banke. Bare komme videre i.
Another Reason for Polygamy
by ana on Jan.02, 2012, under polygamy info., Section 4
Why do some men embrace polygamy, and leave their wives alone with many children, dividing their time between wives? It’s a question I’ve asked myself time and again. It baffles me that there are women who are in polygamous marriages and they have many children, for instance, 5, 6, or 8. Although they had all those children, their husbands still married other women, becoming polygamous. So I asked a Muslim brother his take on why these men leave their families part-time, so to speak, to begin anew.
For the purpose of this post, I will refer to the brother-in-faith as Ahmad. Ahmad replied by stating his thoughts are that when a woman has children, more times than not, her children become a priority over the husband. She devotes more time and attention to the child out of necessity. It’s her job as a mother. He stated there is a special bond between a mother and child. (I remember reading an Iyah (verse) in the Quran in which Allah refers to the mystic tie between mother and child. I pray Allah forgives me, if I’ve misspoke.) Of course, there are some poor excuses for mothers out there; therefore, there are exceptions to the rule.
Ahmad stated his thoughts are that men long for the love and attention they received from the wives before the children arrived. They just can’t receive it though because of the wives’ duties and responsibilities to the children. The husband becomes jealous of the affection the mother gives to the child or children. Some men then seek out other wives or they may just run across other women who show some interest in them and the women become the second wives.
I asked Ahmad what happens when the new wife has children. He stated the husband then may take a third wife and if it happens again, he may take a fourth. So the cycle goes. Ahmad stated the husbands, themselves, may not know what is transpiring. He stated it get worse when the grandchildren arrive.
Ahmad proceeded to elaborate. He stated there are some men who handle the jealousy issue and lack of affection and attention from the wives by viewing it as the test that it is. They may not know it’s a test, but they forgo their pleasure and satisfaction in this world life. In turn, they will have many beautiful, precious, and virtuous wives in Paradise. Allah has promised it for those men who believe and do righteous deeds. How beautiful is that? What are your thoughts about it?
I pray Allah blesses Ahmad for sharing his wisdom with us all.
This is an open house. No need to knock. Just come on in.
What Causes Wives (in Polygamous Marriages) to Dislike One Another?
by ana on Dec.14, 2011, under polygamy info., Section 4
What causes one wife to dislike another? Does obsession; control; possession; or love make one wife dislike the other wife whom her husband married that resulted in them becoming polygamous? I think it is a question that all wives who are in polygamous marriages need to ask themselves and contemplate. Consequently, we may begin to understand why we have so much pain, agony, and heartache when our husbands become polygamous.
Did we ever really love our husbands that much? Do we really love our husbands that much? Do we only believe we love them that much? Where was all the love for them before they married another? Why didn’t we feel the love that intensely before they became polygamous?
Could it be we feel and think our husbands belong to us and now others have claimed them too? Is it the need to want our husbands to live the way we want them to live, and do what we want them to do? How did our husbands become so important to us that our love for them overshadows all else in our lives?
We could take it a step further and ask if it is Satan who uses his whispers to tell us the husbands are ours; they belongs to us and we don’t want them to live this way (polygamous).
To understand ourselves is a big step for us to move forward in our marriages and our lives. We then can leave the past behind and focus on what our true, real purpose and goal in life are. We can then see beyond our husbands and turn our attention to Allah (Great and Glorious is He). Isn’t it where our attention should be?
This is an open house. No need to knock. Just come on in.
Helpful Tips for Living Polygamy – Part Two
by ana on Nov.24, 2011, under polygamy info., Section 4
Polygamy 411 continued “Helpful Tips for Living Polygamy” in two parts, due to the amount of comments received. We hope each and every one of you join the discussion and share your knowledge, insight, and experience about polygamy. Everything you say is significant. We welcome all comments that are constructive and not meant solely to bash or criticize.
We have all come together here at polygamy 411 to help one another cope with a lifestyle (polygamy) that is very difficult to live. Yet, the rewards for embracing it and living it with acceptance and enthusiasm may be more than any of us could imagine.
Polygamy was live by our Beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH – Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and, from what I understand, many of the other Prophets mentioned in the Holy Quran lived it, as well.
We urge all to join the discussion. Don’t concern yourself with grammar, punctuation, writing skills or the like. We are only interested in what you have to say.
For “Helpful Tips for Living Polygamy – Part One”, click the link: http://polygamy411.com/2011/10/26/helpful-tip-for-living-polygamy/
“Allah has indeed heard (and accepted) the statement of the woman who pleads with thee concerning her husband and carries her complaint (in prayer) to Allah: And Allah (always) hears the arguments between both sides among you: for Allah hears and sees (all things).” Quran: Surah 58, Iyat 1
This is an open house. No need to knock. Just come on in.
Nyttige Tips til Living polygami – Part One
af Ann om Oct.26, 2011, i løbet af polygami info., Afsnit 4
Living polygami er ikke let for nogen af os. Jeg ved, dette baseret på mine polygame ægteskab og om, hvad jeg kender til andre, der er i denne type af ægteskab.
Hvordan er dit forhold til din co-kone? Har du haft problemer i forbindelse med hende eller dem? Hvad er din største klage over din mand, hvordan han lever dette liv (polygami) og håndterer konflikter?
Har du et godt tip eller en idé om, hvordan man kan forbedre et polygamt ægteskab eller hvordan du kan få et bedre forhold med en co-wife/wives? Venligst dele dine tips og ideer her på flerkoneri 411, så vi kan hjælpe hinanden.
Jeg stammer ideen til dette indlæg fra et par af vores kommentatorer, over tid, der har foreslået jeg skrive om co-koner. En af vores nyere kommentatorer til polygami 411 har venligst delt med os værdifulde tips om at gøre vores liv bedre, mens de bor polygami. Jeg opfordrer alle til at deltage i drøftelserne, så vi kan blive bedre personer og blive lykkeligere i vores ægteskab.
Jeg takker Allah (Store og Glorious er han) for at give vores vidunderlige kommentatorer, der tyder på dette emne. Alle ideer til indlæg er altid velkommen.
Dette er en åbent hus. Ingen grund til at banke. Bare komme videre i.
What’s Wrong in Polygamous Marriages?
by ana on Oct.09, 2011, under polygamy info., Section 4
This is the problem with many polygamous marriages, as I see it:
In the days of the Prophet Muhammad (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), he propagated Islam. All came together to worship and serve Allah – the purpose Allah created us for. His marriages were to cement relations between tribes etc. He was the leader of his family. He taught them Islam. Everyone that accepted Islam ate, drank and slept it, so to speak.
We have men with multiple families and they are not leaders. They don’t follow the way of the Prophet Muhammad. They don’t rehearse the Quran with their families. I don’t mean to follow the way of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) by wearing a long beard and looking like him (perhaps a cultural thing). I’m referring to Islam and belief – Belief in Allah and all that Allah says in the Quran. Allah tells us what a believer is. Allah, throughout the Quran, outlines who a Believer is, and did not list to wear a beard as a criteria for a Believer. Wearing a beard isn’t righteousness. It’s not what I refer to here.
So we have men with multiple families and the members of the families don’t get along because the leaders of the families aren’t teaching them Islam. They’re just fulfilling their family members basic needs, feeding them, clothing them etc. and fulfilling their own needs (sex), as well. And some of the men aren’t with their families long enough to teach them anything. What good is the husband if he shows up just to see the wife and grab himself some sex here and there? There is no singleness of purpose in the marriages. The marriages are simply separate marriage units in which each member is simply trying to satisfy their own desires. No one cares about the other. They have no reason to come together.
Alex, ideally, should read Quran with me; we should discuss it and we should apply everything we do to it. The same should happen with him at his other wife’s house with her, if she is Muslim. If we were all trying to worship and serve Allah, no one would have a problem doing as Allah says, to give and return the salaam (Islamic greeting), for instance. We would all be cordial to one another. We would be compassionate towards one another etc. Why? Because we would all have the same goal and purpose.
We have husbands that are slack in their duties and responsibilities. They aren’t fulfilling them. Our marriages in Islam aren’t very much different from non-Muslim marriages. The man simply has more than one. Instead of “cheating”, he goes grab himself another marriage. Islam plays a small part in any of it. It simply gives him the permission to engage in polygamy, so it seems.
If the men/husbands stepped up to the plate and were the leaders and commanders of their families, there would be less chaos, craziness, and confusion that we see in our marriages. Islam is not about looking and “acting” the part; it’s about being the part.
This is an open house. No need to knock. Just come on in.
Questions and Discussions about Polygamy
by ana on Sep.25, 2011, under polygamy info., Section 4
Any questions you have about polygamy or discussions you would like to have about it, we will entertain on this post. You could direct your questions to the forum, to a particular person or to me.
Our goal is to support those that have a sincere interest in polygamy and don’t oppose it. We are here to support and encourage those that live polygamy, believe they may one day live polygamy or have a general interest in wanting to know more about a life of polygamy.
We discourage any debates about whether polygamy in Islam is permissible or not. This is not the forum for those who are against polygamy or have a strong hatred or distaste for it that they want to keep.
What questions do you have for us? What would you like to discuss? Please be certain your questions or discussions relate to polygamy. Even if it’s with reference to your husband’s favorite recipe, his likes or dislikes; if you could tie it into polygamy and marriage, we are here to discuss it with you.
P.S. Please do not include links to other sites for information. Just as those here were able to find polygamy 411, they could find other sites as well. It is OK to refer to information that you obtained else where, but links are not acceptable here.
This is an open house. No need to knock. Just come on in.
Polygami 411 har genovervejet og vil igen åbner snart!
af Ann om Sep.20, 2011, i løbet af polygami info., Afsnit 4
Efter yderligere overvejelser, baseret på mange e-mails, vi har modtaget fra de berørte personer, og diskussioner med andre, at jeg nært er knyttet til, vi har bestemt der er en alvorlig, stor efterspørgsel efter bloggen. Således, Polygami 411 vil genåbne i meget nær fremtid. Der vil være visse retningslinjer, at vi vil placere i kraft, at alle skal følge. Første, for eksempel, emnet for diskussionen er alene om polygami.
Vi beder alle til kun:
1. Gør udsagn om sig selv. Gør ikke negative udsagn om andre mennesker.
2. Før at reagere på en andens indlæg, stille spørgsmål til præcisere, at en korrekt forstår, hvad den anden person faktisk betyder.
En ivrig læser og medlem af vores blog familie gav meget værdifulde råd og foreslog ovenstående retningslinjer. Derudover, Hun oplyste,: “Når Gud gør polygami muligt, dette bliver en central kendsgerning i ens liv, og det er hverken muligt eller produktivt at udelukke religiøse emner.” Det er uundgåeligt, at vi vil diskutere religion. Den skal, dog, ophold i forbindelse med. Man skal slutte den til emnet polygami.
Bemærk venligst godt: Kommentarer er ikke velkommen fra dem, hvis mål er at gøre denne blog personlig med hensyn til nogen. Angreb på nogen ville ikke blive tolereret.
Min intention er at gøre alt, hvad jeg kan for at skabe en harmonisk atmosfære her på flerkoneri 411, så vi kunne alle drage fordel af de diskussioner og lære og vokse sammen.
Vi ved polygami 411 ser frem til at alle lykkeligt deltager igen her meget snart.
Dette er en åbent hus. Ingen grund til at banke. Bare komme videre i.
Et sidste farvel til polygami 411!
af Ann om Sep.15, 2011, i løbet af polygami info., Afsnit 4
Som Salaamu Alaikum & Fred til alle:
Jeg har modtaget en meget speciel e-mail, som jeg må dele med jer alle fra “Maryam” hvem er en meget smuk medlem af vores blog familie her på polygami 411. Hun erklærede:
“Hej Ana,
Ohhhh. Ok, Home, Jeg forstår. Du har ret, mennesker var bare ikke
at give slip på emnet. I går lagde jeg mærke til, at det havde været en MÅNED
for at diskutere samme emne.
Jeg er helt forstå, hvorfor man var nødt til at gøre, hvad du havde at gøre.
Jeg håber, at du ikke tage anstød, men din blog var ligesom mit daglige sæbe
opera. Jeg vil savne at vide, hvad der skete med Nura, Af, og Lynn. I
vil savne høre alle dine historier. Inklusive, Jenny. Ja, hun
pralede en masse, men jeg forstod, at hendes måde at tænke på er påvirket
af hendes kultur. Mere, Måske var hun ikke prale, Måske hun bare
ønskede os, hendes søstre i islam til at føle sig lykkelig for hende.
Jeg er glad for hende, men jeg tror ikke, at mennesker, der kæmper
økonomisk værdsat for at høre alt, hvad der.
Anyways, Jeg beder til Allah, at han vil bringe glæde og lykke til alle
der søger for hans hjælp. Især dig, da du har gjort så meget
godt.
I aftes, Jeg blev færdig kapitel fem af din rejse. Whewww. Det har været
en vanskelig rejse. Men du sætter din lid til Allah og Alhamduillah
du er tilfreds nu.
Din blog også hjulpet mig. Du ved hvordan? Jeg var meget imponere være så
kendskab til islam og praktisere det bedre end fødte muslimer.
Specielt dig. Du har været et godt eksempel for mig.
Måske du vil overveje en dag laver en blog hjælpe konverterer
forstå islam bedre. Eller kender du nogen gode blogs for denne? Måske
du kan anbefale til din Wali at gøre sådan blog. Jeg ville være den første
en til at følge den.
Ok, Home. Pas godt på dig selv. Jeg vil slutte din dagbog og
så tjek tilbage snart er et stykke tid for at se, hvis du havde en forandring i hjertet
og genåbne.
Allah Hafiz
Maryam”
***Vær opmærksom på: Maryam lavet en rettelse til hendes udtalelse ovenfor, der er som følger:
“I igen at læse mine tidligere e-mail, og hvad dælen var jeg siger her: “Din blog også hjulpet mig. Du ved hvordan? Jeg var meget imponere være så vidende i islam og praktisere det bedre end fødte muslimer. Specielt dig. Du har været et godt eksempel for mig.”
LOL. Jeg mente, Jeg var imponere at se så mange konvertitter praktisere islam bedre end mig og er så vidende i islam. Det var et godt eksempel for mig, især dig. “
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Som Salaamu Alaikum!
Velkommen til Polygami 411! Vores hjem er for muslimer og ikke-muslimer. Det er for alle, der ønsker at tale om polygami, eller enhver, der befinder sig i et polygamt ægteskab eller overvejer at indtaste en. Vi kan godt lide at have selskab. Gør dig det behageligt, og deltage i diskussionen ved at efterlade en kommentar. Vi glæder os til at se dig her igen snart, og ofte.
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