Polygamy 411 has focused more on how living polygamy affects husbands and wives, and has focused very little on the effects that polygamy has on children. CM (a very special friend of polygamy 411, a reader, and commentator) wrote a comment that inspired me to explore the topic, and ask about the effects polygamy has on children. The comment that CM made is as follows:
As I have read some of the comments from the “younger readers”, whose thoughts I have enjoyed and appreciated, I have developed a curiosity on the effect of polygamy on children. I know you and Alex don’t have children, but maybe your readers can share some insights. I have not seen a lot of info on this topic as most everything I have found seems to about the relationships between the men and the women. However, I think it is an important topic and I hope you don’t mind my bringing it up on your blog.
Do polygamous men make good fathers? Does traveling back and forth between the different homes affect the children’s relationship with their fathers? What are the challenges that polygamous men face in parenting their children? What are the challenges children face being raised in polygamous marriages? Are there effective solutions to these challenges? Do mothers encourage relationships between the half or step siblings? Do they encourage relationships between the children and the other wives? Etc.
These are just a few of the many questions that we should ask. I realize there are as many answers as there are families, but I think exploring this topic is essential to any discussion of polygamy and I would love to hear what others have to say about it.”
CM is correct; polygamy 411 would not be complete without us discussing the effects of polygamy on children. Polygamy 411 asks everyone who has information on the subject or those who would like to anonymously share their experiences, to join us at polygamy411.com, so, perhaps, we could further help one another. I think the forum would benefit all parties that are in polygamous marriages and have children, or those who are considering becoming part of polygamous marriages, and have children.”
CM, I thank you very much for your comment and questions that inspired me to write this post, and for all the support that you have given me and others at polygamy 411 over the years.
This is an open house. No need to knock. Just come on in.