Taloženje u poligamija
prema Ana na Svibanj.05, 2009, vrijeme moja priča danas
Ja doista osjećam da sam naseljavanju u poligamija i to je lijepa stvar. Što je tako čudno o tome za mene je koliko mrzim vidjeti ga ide, Ja sam sretan kad Alex me ostavlja (iako je ostaviti da se s njegovim drugim “supruga” Carolinah). U biti, to je lijepa tuga. Ja sam sretan kad je lišće, kao što sam se vratiti na moje druge život, raditi stvari koje sam uživati radiš kad je daleko.
Budući da je sadržajem kada je Alex je otišao nije ništa novo za mene. Koristio sam naći radost u njegov odlazak za poslovna putovanja čak i prije nego je on "u braku" Carolinah. Ne da mi nije kao što se s Alex,Upravo sam uživao mito vrijeme, vrijeme za sebe bez rutinu slijediti. jedem kad god želim,ne moraju napraviti krevet u jutarnjim satima,ne za sebe zabrinutost kako sam pogled. Ja exericise, ili lounge okolo i čitanje, samo biti slobodan kao ptica, kad nisam na računalu, naravno. Ja sam sve to sada na redovnoj osnovi, što je lijepa stvar. Nemojte me krivo shvatiti; Još uvijek imam neke usamljene trenutke kad sam početi osjećati žao za sebe i misli Alex i Carolinah cross my mind. Ali ja sam radiš puno bolje, squashing one misli sada.
Moj odnos je poboljšana u druge načine, kao i. Moj brak čini se da su se promijenile iz braka s dating osjećati. Alex je na tri dana sa mnom i tri dana daleko raspored. Pravo prije nego što dođe kući, Ja bi bili sigurni kuće je lijepo i čisto, sve svježe, i mene, ali ja sam uvijek svježe i čiste. Ja jednostavno ne uzimaju ništa zdravo za gotovo više. Vi znate da ide u pripremu datum, dobro, Stavio sam da se pripreme na moj brak.
JA je uzeo moj egipatski prijatelj savjet previše. On je rekao da misli da je dobro za ženu da promijeni svoje odijelo par ili nekoliko puta dnevno. Dao sam par puta probati; nekoliko činilo jednostavno previše za mene. Ja sam obično u boravku ionako nose u večernjim satima, jer ja ne radim. Možda ću imati jednu stvar o tome kada Alex dolazi kući, a zatim promijeniti u nešto drugo kasnije u večernjim satima, nakon lijepe vrućim tušem ili kadom. Sam prebaciti moje frizuru previše, nekoliko puta tijekom večeri. To je sve prilično zabavno. Alex i ja smo večeru, gledati TV, i samo se opustite. Nedavno, smo bili odlaska u kino vrlo malo, kao i. On je dobio ulaznice za nas da ide u grad u kazalište sljedeći mjesec. Tako, mi smo bili dodajući neke aktivnosti u naše živote, izlazak iz kuće.
Alex i moj život imaju puno više romantike i igrati u njemu sad. Ja gledati prema naprijed u intimne trenutke. Oni nisu rutinski dio braka više ... dovoljno je rekao. Kad sam se na posao, co-radnik od mina i njegova majka (Radila je tu također) koriste za često reći, "Dosta je." Koristio sam da mislim da je tako slatka.
U svakom slučaju, Shvatio sam dobar u poligamija kada je prvi put postao dio mog života. Međutim, Nisam mogao usredotočiti na to i nije stalo dobro. Dobrog bila neznatna tijekom agonije, patnja i nemir da sam bio iskusiti. Četiri slova riječi bi opisala kako se osjećam o dobro u vrijeme – **** dobro!
Sada budući da sve mrak je na početku da se povuku, a svjetlost je početak da se sjaji, Ja mogu vidjeti dobro u onome što je odlučeno za mene moj Stvoritelj. Ja samo molite sam zadržati ide naprijed u novi dan, svaki dan.
To je otvorena kuća. Ne trebate kucati. Samo doći u.
11/20/09


November 21st, 2009 na 3:18 PM
A very nice article, thanks Ana. Unfortunately often the ‘settling down’ is not a permanent thing, but often there are ‘set-backs’, kada, due to ‘more time to think’ some gains are reversed again, or so it seems to me when listening to my dear first wife from time to time. May Allah be our helper always.
November 21st, 2009 na 4:24 PM
Stan Lee, co-creator of Spider-Man and other Marvel superheroes, popularized the saying ‘Nuff said’ godina. If you watch the movie Spider-Man 3, Stan has a cameo where he says that. Just a bit of comic-book trivia for y’all.
I’m thinking ’nuff’ is the four letter word you were referring to Ana…??
Seriously though, it’s great to hear you smiling! Da, I can hear the smile in your words.
November 21st, 2009 na 6:38 PM
Haji Rafiq, thank you for reminding me to be aware of the possible and probable setbacks that await me. I want to be on guard. , other wives in polygamy and me to handle the setbacks better than we did in the past, and we keep progressing. Our dear friend Judith mentioned previously that we must all be prepared to encounter setbacks, kao i. It’s important to have reminders. That is what we’re supposed to do for one another, remind each other. I thank you, Haji Rafiq!
To je otvorena kuća. Ne trebate kucati. Samo doći u.
November 21st, 2009 na 7:02 PM
Donald, that was pretty clever, but no, the four letter word wasn’t “nuff”
I got a good laugh out of that one. You’re very jocular today. It’s nice to hear you’re happy.
Since you mentioned the Spider Man movie and Stan’s cameo, I remember him saying that-”nuff said”. It was awesome. I saw the movie. U svakom slučaju, “nuff said.” Thank you for enlightening us with a bit of trivia.
To je otvorena kuća. Ne trebate kucati. Samo doći u.
November 21st, 2009 na 9:17 PM
I’m glad you’re settling into things now
It makes me so happy to hear that. I can’t wait for my husband to finally get married, so I can have time to myself lol.
November 21st, 2009 na 12:31 PM
Amina, my biological sister, just the other day, said she wish her husband would go away sometimes. I’ve heard other women say that as well. Until a wife gets semi used to it, it’s just a whole other ball game when a husband leaves to go be with another woman
Amina, I’d really like to know if your husband takes another wife. From what I’ve been hearing, the women that wouldn’t mind their husbands doing so, it usually doesn’t happen lol.
To je otvorena kuća. Ne trebate kucati. Samo doći u.
November 22nd, 2009 na 1:35 PM
La! La! La!
Kao salaamu alaykum Ana.
That’s my happy, life is good, trill!
I’m so happy to hear you enjoying all the positives. Time to do your own thing is absolutely beautiful.
Certainly it is an added blessing when you are not on the same page in a few aspects of your life goals and focus. Međutim, it is a huge blessing even if you are!
shaytaan will naturally try to kick that good outlook away from you, but let that devil be damned (hee, hee, hee!) and just keep on trucking, my sweet!
La! La! La!
November 22nd, 2009 na 2:13 PM
Wa Alaikum Kao Salaam, Nikad
It most certainly is good to here from you. I’ve missed you much
Yes, life is surely much, much brighter than it was. I’ve had some valuable counseling from you and all my dear friends here. Alhumduallah! Yes, we definitely have to keep our guard up for our avowed enemy the shaytaan. He’s always on his job. He never sleeps.
Tako, let’s continue to be of good cheer, Nikad! Big hug for you. May Allah continue to bless us immensely.
To je otvorena kuća. Ne trebate kucati. Samo doći u.
November 23rd, 2009 na 4:38 PM
The enemy of ‘settling-in’ : Da, it seems the best thing for Polygamy is a strict routine. I have major problems whenever I try to ask for some flexibility. Why can we not be flexible? One religious leader prayed for me when I got married for the second time: “May Allah grant you love, happiness, peace of mind, satisfaction and health” and I pray “Amin! and a little bit of flexibility”.
November 23rd, 2009 na 7:07 PM
You’re funny, Haji Rafiq. I definitely could see how you would have some problems when you ask for flexibility. Za mene, I think I suspect there is some type of benefit in it for the other person, more so Carolinah, when I’m asked to be flexible (a change in the schedule, na primjer). I feel something is being taken away from me. I think I’m getting the short end of the stick. Being first wife, I’ve already felt a lot was take from me when my husband took a second wife. So I’m trying to hold onto what I have left. I know whatever is for me would never pass me and whatever passes me was never for me. Do I truly believe? So you see; I’m in need of a lot of work.
That was a beautiful prayer the religious leader made for you. Insha Allaha, you’ll get a little bit of flexibility. I wouldn’t expect much though