Ne több feleségek kevésbé megegyezik Házasságtörés & Prostitúció?
által Ann Nov.19-én, 2009, alatt többnejűség a média
RAWANG, November 14 - Ne feleségül fiatal szűz lányok; feleségül egyedülálló anyák vagy özvegyek helyett. Ez volt a közelmúltban tett javaslatot egy állami hivatalnok Kelantan a leendő polygamists.
De a gondolat hívta fel a golyóálló egyes kritikusok, aki azt mondta, ahelyett, hogy több erőfeszítést kell tenni, hogy csökkentse a válások, és segítse az egyedülálló anyákat.
A kérdés a többnejűség folyik heves vita most, A vitatott Kelantan hivatalos javaslatát, és kialakult egy poligámia Club augusztusában alakult a felesége polygamist.
Hatijah AAM, 55, mondta kezdődött a klub azzal a céllal, megfékezése társadalmi bajokat, mint a prostitúció és a házasságtörés. Azt 300 tagjai.
"Miután az egyazon férfi 30 év, olyanok vagyunk, mint testvérek,"Hatijah mondta a The Straits Times. Ülő mellé, Ibrahim Noraziah, 52, A fiatalabb felesége Hatijah férje, mosolygott.
Noraziah találkozott Hatijah férje után a saját partnere halt meg.
"Ő volt a gyerekek feed. El tudod képzelni,? Segítségre volt szüksége,"Mondta Hatijah.
A két házas 72 éves Muhammad Ashaari, pátriárka egy klán szült öt házasságot - ő azóta elvált egy felesége, míg egy másik halt meg egy autóbalesetben, miközben zarándoklatra a Mekka szent városában a 2003.
Az ő 38 gyerekek, 19 fiai és négy lánya is polygamists. Ashaari van 200 unokák és 12 dédunokák.
"Néhány ember úgy gondolja poligámia rossz, de ez valójában egy szép dolog,"Mondta Hatijah.
A legtöbb malajziaiak emlékszem Ashaari mintha vezetett a deviáns iszlám szekta, amelyet betiltottak 1994 mert ő azt állítja, hogy képes volt feloldozza bűnei, és hogy egy iszlám messiás keletről tűnik előtt egy megjövendölt világvége.
Ashaari stroke-ot kapott a 2003, és most nem tud beszélni. Harmadik felesége nem volt jelen az interjút, mint ő hajlamos rá.
A család története csupán egy példa a poligám házasságot Malajziában.
A muszlim férfiak számára engedélyezett maximum négy felesége szerint az iszlám jog. A kritikusok szerint ez a gyakorlat kegyetlen és torz lett az eredeti célra.
A gyakorlat ideje alatt elterjedt, Mohamed próféta korában, hogy a sok özvegyek és árvák, Ennek következtében a férfiak halnak meg a gyakori háborúk.
Az aktivisták azt mondják legmodernebb polygamists Malajziában feleségül fiatalabb nők és elhanyagolják az első felesége.
Míg Hatijah családja úgy tűnik, hogy harmonikusan él, jogi csoportok azt állítják, hogy a legtöbb visszaélés poligám családok is szenvednek és féltékenység.
Nővérek iszlám (SIS), egy nem kormányzati szervezet, amely kimondja, hogy a muszlim nők jogainak és a gyakorlat ellen kampányol, azt mondja, a többnejűség nem megoldás a prostitúció.
"Házasság - akár poligám vagy sem - nem lehet csodaszer a kérdés összetett, mint szexmunkát,"SIS program vezetője Masjaliza Hamzah mondta a The Straits Times.
"A társadalom abba látva házasságot, mint az egyablakos választ a kérdésekre, és tapasztalt aggodalmak nem csak a nők szexmunkások, hanem az egyedülálló anyák, özvegyek és az idősebb nők. "
Ő idézte a Korán verseket, amelyek hátráltatják a többnejűség, , és rámutatott, hogy bár Mohamed próféta gyakorolták, nem engedte fia-in-law, hogy feleségül egy másik nőt, ha ő elvált a Próféta lánya.
Csak 2.8 százaléka muszlim házasságok itt poligám.
A különböző államok is, hogy különböző kritériumok leendő polygamists.
Kuala Lumpur írásos beleegyezése vagy a kilátást a meglévő feleségek. A Perak, egy férfi ígérete kezelésére felesége meglehetősen elegendő.
Hanafiah Hamzah, Egy 53 éves televíziós operatőr, azt mondta, idegenek néznek le rá, amiért több mint egy feleség. "A társadalom lenézi polygamists. Az emberek mindig azt hiszik, hogy a szex,"Mondta a The Straits Times.
Hanafiah feleségül vette első felesége, aki most 47, két évtizeddel ezelőtt. Hét évvel később, ben elvette második feleségét, most 36.
Bár mindkét feleség szívélyesen egymásnak, bevallja, hogy nem könnyű.
"Nem igazságos, hogy mindketten. Ha a feleség vagy a gyermek beteg, aki nem megy?
"Ha a barátaim azt mondják, hogy akarnak lenni poligám, Mindig elmondom nekik, jobb, ha nem. Az első feleségem soha nem használt panaszkodni, de most egyszerűen csalódott lesz. Ez az én hibám,Mondta.
Masjaliza mondta, van némi stigma, hogy a gyakorlat: "Az emberek nem viselnek, mint egy kitűzőt a becsület. Van egy szint a kényelmetlenség. Lehet, hogy az emberek szégyellik. "
Valóban, Míg egyes felső vezetők az uralkodó és az ellenzék Umno PAS több felesége, többségük részt hivatalos feladatok kíséretében csak egy felesége.
De ez nem gátolja Hatijah, aki a ágazik szét poligámia Club Indonéziában.
A kormány arra figyelmeztetett, hogy a klub lehet a trükk.
A család már "nagyon keményen próbálja megtéveszteni a közvélemény be újraindult a betiltott vallási kultusz a vallási, gazdasági és társadalmi tevékenységek, Wan Mohamad Abdul Aziz Sheikh, főigazgatója Tanszék Iszlám Fejlesztési Malajzia, mondta a New Straits Times. - Straits Times
Hitel esetében a fenti információk: A malajziai bennfentes, Csütörtök, November 19, 2009
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Mivel Salaamu Alaikum!
Üdvözöljük a Poligámia 411! Otthonunk a muzulmánok és nem muzulmánok. Ez mindenki számára, aki szeretne beszélni poligámia, vagy bárki, aki a poligám házasságot, vagy fontolgatja egyikébe való belépéskor. Mi, mintha cég. Helyezd magad kényelembe, és csatlakozzon a vitát hagyják a comment. Bízunk benne, hogy látni itt is hamarosan, és gyakran.
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November 20th, 2009 a 8:36 AM
Salaam sis
thanks for sharing. That is really interesting, and sad in some points.I have never heard of this polygamy club.
November 20th, 2009 a 12:59 PM
Amina,Wa Alaikum As Salaam Sister!
Welcome to polygamy411.com. I’m glad you’ve joined us and found the article interesting. I don’t know whether you’ve read the other three articles about the polygamy club that are on this site; if not, you could put the words polygamy club in the search box on this page, and access the other three articles as well.
Please feel free to visit and comment anytime. We enjoy having you here.
Ez egy nyitott ház. Nem kell kopogtatni. Csak gyere a.
November 22nd, 2009 a 10:35 PM
There is no evidence in the medical literature that polygyny reduces the incidence of extramarital affairs.
In the Journal of Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome,
it was reported that 44% of polygynous married males in Nigeria had sexual contact with someone other than one of their wives in the month prior to an anonymous survey.
The plural wives of these men also had a similar percentage of extramarital relationships with men other than their husbands.
November 22nd, 2009 a 11:01 PM
Chatelaine, thank you much for the stats and information. I could see how polygyny would not reduce the incidences of extramarital affairs. There are quite a few men that engage in polygamy who are lacking in spirituality, don’t fear God, and engage in polygamy for all the wrong reasons. I definitely could see how women would have extramarital affairs, valamint. Some probably give out payback sex to get even with their husbands. They feel if a husband can go out there and do it, why not do it as well.
I’ve spoken with Alex a number of times about that out of concern for my own health and wellbeing, based on what I know of Carolinah. I question her morality based on what Alex has told me and what she has told me, as well. I know you’re probably thinking I should question his morality, as well.
Ez egy nyitott ház. Nem kell kopogtatni. Csak gyere a.
November 23rd, 2009 a 9:15 PM
Főoldal,
Thank you for your honest and forthright blog. You are a genuinely spiritual person, and I admire that.
I have some medical studies on polygyny and the effects of polygyny on first wives. May I post some of them, or links to these articles, for your review ? I will only do so with your permission. God Bless,
Chatelaine
November 23rd, 2009 a 11:53 PM
Chatelaine,
I’m very appreciative that you have joined us, have commented, and are willing to share information. This is polygamy411, so it would be perfectly fine and quite generous of you to share the medical studies with all of us. Thank you much for caring and sharing.
Ez egy nyitott ház. Nem kell kopogtatni. Csak gyere a.
November 24th, 2009 a 1:15 PM
Chatelaine,
I posted the infomation that you provided, regarding the medical study of polygyny on women and children.
I would gladly post more should you elect to send them. Thank you much!
Ez egy nyitott ház. Nem kell kopogtatni. Csak gyere a.
December 15th, 2009 a 4:38 PM
I was reading few articles and I found quite interesting. I realized that women fail to understand men. Every man has strong desire for women. They feel women as their food. somehow it is truth women taste good except their big mouth. The truth is the matter that only Islam legislated men on marriage. It is historical fact powerful men want to have more than 100 women and weak men go to prostitute or masturbate or sex with animals or sex with boys or commit rape. thats why it is very important to teach men about God.
December 15th, 2009 a 6:03 PM
Shahin, welcome to polygamy 411 and thank you for your comment. It is an interesting one in deed.
December 15th, 2009 a 6:20 PM
Shahin:
Your comment, “women fail to understand men” is probably true. What is your view of men’s understanding of women? Köszönöm.
December 15th, 2009 a 8:28 PM
Salaam To All,
Regarding Man’s Understanding of Women:
Generally speaking, men do not understand women at all. The greatest difficulty is that both sexes seem to think they should view the world in the same manner and just agree on the same priorities. But this is simply not the case.
Men and women think, feel, cognate differently and do not have similar priorities at all except for basic human needs required for survival.
Women are monogomous by nature and this is placed in them as an instinct by Allah in order to assure the continuum-of or return-to the divine Patriarchal Order for the sake of the community’s peace and security.
Men are polygamous by nature and for the very same purpose. Women expect men to love them in the same way they love, but this is impossible for men to do as they do not have this singular sense of loyalty to one spouse. Which is why they shake their heads in dispassionate perplexity at a woman’s jealous rage. If a man is jealous, it is only because his lordship has been abandoned or challenged. If a woman is jealous, it is because she fears replacement and desolation.
Just as a woman loves her children, and each one because they are hers and each one for differing reasons, so also a man may love his wives and without any feeling of compromise at all.
Azonban, men often fail to address each woman’s concerns for her well being and that of her children. She requires to be recognized fro her unique contributions to both him and the community. Her well being is dependent upon his recognition of her importance to him and the reasons he married her, which far outweigh any sexual purpose, as sex is instintive and basic until elevated to worship (which is why Marriage is called a Mosque — more on that later).
It is the gifts she brings to him as a companion and helper on his road to attain the practice of moral imperatives in Islam that concern her as to why he chose her. If simply for sex, she will feel used, but if he recognizes her contributions to his mental physical and spiritual welfare as well as reputation in the community, she will respond enthusiatically in all manner of ways and tolerate his weaknesses all the more as he approaches the maturation of manhood.
Without the woman, who indeed does the man govern or lead? This is his singular most important trial of manhood, which most fail to address.
More on this later
wasalaam,
dr omar
December 15th, 2009 a 11:37 PM
Salaam Dr. Omar,
I’m learning so much here from you. You’re a wealth of information and it all is not only very, very interesting, but so very refreshing, valamint. I thank you so much for devoting so much time and energy to helping all of us understand male/female interaction so much better. The knowledge that you have been sharing with us I’m sure is helping to alleviate some of the unnecessary pain and suffering that many of us have been experiencing. I think I can speak for many here; I hope.
If I’m not disturbing your sequence of writing, I was wondering if you would shed some light on the favorite wife concept. You indicated a husband could love his wives for differing reasons, but isn’t one usually a favorite? And if a man loves one more, why does he bother to have others that he sometimes neglect and the other wives always know which one is the favorite?
December 16th, 2009 a 2:50 AM
Salaam Dear Ana,
A wife neglected is not a wife. She is a chattel and most likely a burden to the neglectful husband. It is better they divorce peacefully.
As for the favorite: Yes this is true. Just as a mother will have a favorite child, a man will also have a favorite wife, and it is for this reason the koran says it is impossible for any man to treat them equally. Equality here has nothing to do with material justice and everything to do with passion. Most … is this cause for jealousy? It shouldn’t be but it is unless the less favoured (passionately loved wife) accepts the situation and her “less loved” status. “Whoa”, many women might say “and why should I do that?” jól. my response is: “What choice do you have; especially if you love the man?”
Think of it like this. Suppose you’re the eldest wife and you come to an age (mentioned by the prophet) when you are no longer physically desireable but your man is still virile and even handsome (a real silver fox)? Most … are you willing to deny truth and hold him hostage to your faded charms? Or are you honest enough to accept God’s dispensations and graciously help him in the choice of another more passionately desireable wife (usually younger, but not always)?
Most women women refuse to give in to reality and keep up the pretense and hold him hostage. This is a form of self-idolatry and dishonesty. The prophet said then when a man’s wife comes to that “age” he should “divorce her but keep her in his household and treat her with kindness.” Valamint, if he’s commanded to treat her with kindness, but no longer desires her for sex, shoudln’t she also treat him with kindness as well as protect him from zina by accepting the reality and also accepting another wife? Hmmmm ….
Most … to take this a step further. Not all men have similar sex drives. Ambitious and successful men–criminal or not–usually have very high sex drives and stay that way until well into old age. Some men, have lower testsoterone levels, and hence, lower sex drives which also decline with age. That’s why the romantic image of an old couple sitting on the porch holding hands appeals to most women, but most men can take or leave it, especially leave it if they’re ambitious and can also sit with an attractive woman.
This is not to say that a “good” man would simply ignore her or forget her contributions to his success or lose his love or affection for her. A … Not at all. Azonban, most women, when confronted with this situation, would force him to ignore her because of her self-centered attitude.
Now then, considering Jannah’s restoration of youth and beauty, isn’t it reasonable for such a lady to be patient and endure the trial and wait for the reward? Sure it is; especially when we know the present life will seem but a “few hours” when confronted to eternity.
Getting back to the less favored wife. She is in a similar position, inasmuch as the man will have greater desire for another wife. Mindazonáltal, this does not mean the man doesn’t desire or love her. Sure he does. Why else woiuld he keep her? did he marry her out of pity? Out of respect? Out of need?
Hmmm …. what are the reasons for marriage then? #1 is Piety … #2 is social status … #3 is money … #4 is beauty …. Hmmmmm now think about this very carefully and it will re-arrange your priorities and your Islam as a woman and Human Being.
If these are reasons for marriage, who then is the best wife? => The one with all four reasons of course, someone like Khadijah. How many of you out there have all four? This should well be a lesson then in humility, and I hope that it works in that fashion for the readers.
Most, should a man marry one for beauty, and another for piety, yet prefer the bed-company of the former to the latter… Should the Pious one be jealous enough to rant and rave and run off at the mouth and then force the man to abandon her? Of course not, and were she to do so, she would not be considered pious. Ezért, jealousy is not a pious quality and should be completely disgarded from the larders of feminine wisdom. It is merely the nafs rising up to allow Satan to tempt the woman to destroy what Allah has provided for her benefit.
Így … stop “érzés” sorry for yourselves and start thinking. Establish your identity, understand your position and gifts, and just get on with life and stop wasting time and oppotunity for the multiple blessings granted by polygamy.
Valamint … there is more to be said on this. But it it can wait.
Thank you for the opportunity to share what Allah has given me to teach. I am almost moved to tears, because no one here wishes to listen, except my good wives. Alhamduillah.
wasalaam,
dr omar
December 16th, 2009 a 7:41 PM
The sister asked me ” what is man understanding of woman”. I do not know any man understand woman except he wants her. I am not sure that man understand woman. Traditionally, man want to have women for children. Individually, man want woman for sex. Azonban, there are three classified men. One kind of man persist on bad. Second kind of man reproaching and third kind of man is peaceful and satisfied. If a woman fortunate to find second or third categorical man that means that woman is lucky and if woman find the first categorical man it means she is going to have bad times. He will beat her, curse her, yell at her, never feel regret of his misdeed. High quality of man as Allah prescribe in the chapter 89, they are very few and second classified men are also become bad because of environment. So I guess women have to live by low class men.
December 16th, 2009 a 11:37 PM
Shahin:
Thank you for sharing your answer with us. It is a simple question, but a complex topic, thank you again.
December 17th, 2009 a 2:15 PM
Valamint, the main problem with women is that we need them. Regarding the ‘favourite’ wife topic: The wife can of course influence that a lot. If she is kind, understanding (and a little bit flexible) we love her more for it. Therefore please help us balance you! (sorry for the grammar). I would not really speak of a ‘favourite’ but each has her own value and charm. Regarding visits to ‘outsiders’. I would not know when to find the time. There is always someone waiting for me.
December 17th, 2009 a 2:24 PM
I think this guy is lying. this hadith is not truth. “divorce her but keep her in his household and treat her with kindness.” This guy is trying to blame everything on women and fake hadith as dalil. Azt hiszem,, this guy is womanize and trying to using Islam as his pass card. I swear by Allah I would beat this to hell for misinterpreting hadith and using fake hdith. May Allah destroy these liars.
December 18th, 2009 a 1:07 PM
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Köszönöm!
Főoldal
December 18th, 2009 a 6:35 PM
Salaam To all and especially Shahin,
I do not like to be accused of lying, so I’ve posted the following hadith which are genuine. There are scholars also who concur with what I’ve said above about the husband who no longer desires an elder wife. I would also remind everyone that the prophet said the majority of the people in hell were women. So it is best to take that statement under advisement and do some extremely careful soul searching.
One:
“If a woman fear cruelty or dessertion on her husbands part, i. if the hudband notices something unpleasant about his wife, such as old age,or the like and wants to divorce her,but she asks him to keep her and provide for her as he wishes,There is no blame on them if they reconcile on such a bsis.” Bukhari, 49. # 859
Two:
also Book 7, # 134 is similar
Three:
“Aish said: And if a woman has reason to fear ill-treatment from her husband or that he might turn away from her, that it was revealved in a case of a woman who a long association with her husband, and now he intends to divorce her, and she says: “Do not divorce me, but retain me (as wife in your house) and you are permitted to live with another wife. It is in this context that the verse (4:128) was revealed.” Muzulmán 43: #7165
Four:
“Yahya related to me from Malik from Ibn Shihab that Rafi ibn Khadij married the daughter of Muhammad ibn Maslama al-Ansari. She was with him until she grew older, and then he married a young girl and preferred the young girl to her. She begged him to divorce her, so he divorced her and then he gave her time until she had almost finished her idda period and then he returned and still preferred the young girl. She therefore asked him to divorce her. He divorced her once, and then returned to her, and still preferred the young girl, and she asked him to divorce her. Azt mondta,, “What do you want? There is only one divorce left. If you like, continue and put up with what you see of preference, and if you like, I will separate from you.” She said, “I will continue in spite of the preference.” He kept her in spite of that. Rafi did not see that he had done any wrong action when she remained with him in spite of preference.” Muwatta 28.22.57
There are more as well, but this should suffice for now.
wasalaam,
dr omar
December 18th, 2009 a 6:43 PM
Ibn Kathir states:
Making peace is better than separation. An example of such peace can be felt in the story
of Sawdah bint Zam’ah who WHEN SHE BECAME AGED, THE PROPHET WANTED TO DIVORCE HER, but she made peace with him by offering the night he used to spend with her to A’isha so that he would keep her. The Prophet accepted such terms and kept her.
I think this should close the subject. If you disagree, it is only because you do not wish to accept something you cannot change.
Wasalaam,
dr omar
December 18th, 2009 a 7:36 PM
Salaam To All,
This topic — a ‘unattractive or less desired wife’ — is a sensitive issue due to many a woman’s inability to take responsibility for her own physical and or emotional state. Például, the lady who overeats, becomes a glutton and obese, or the proverbial “nag” who still expects her husband to service her physical needs. The truth is that MOST men (Nem minden) cannot because their own body or psyche will simply not respond to such undesireable stimulii. Old age is similar, excepting those cases where the husband and wife have grown so close that the physical attraction is no longer as issue. Persze, this is an “ideal” but it is also rare.
The sexual response in both men and women is extrememly complicated; is bound to unalterable physiological channels that are fixed in the body; and is also subject to ‘conditioning’ by virtue of experiences that fix certain pathways to pleasure centers in the brain; such as various forms of fetish.
This is not to mention phermones that dictate or disallow attraction in the first place. Hence, since these factors are complicit in any and all relations, it is not possible to alter them but it is possible to accept their realities and result. the acceptance is what is important, rather than the ‘denial’ based on selfishness and/or ignorance. Because it is acceptance that brings peace, and it is peace between husband and wife — even though everythings not “tökéletes” — that is Islam.
Posted below are some scholarly remarks on the subject for your review. Often, people are drawn into controversy based on opinion rather than knowledge. Very few of us take the time to do the research needed, and often fall back on ‘vélemény’ és “érzések” to defend our ignorant positions. This only cause more “unpeace”, especially between husband and wife.
The late Muslim scholar Sayyid Abu A‘la Mawdudi sums all this up in his comments on Sura 4:129:
This means that it is not possible for a man to accord complete equality of treatment to two or more wives under all circumstances and in all respects. It is possible that one is ugly, the other beautiful; one is old, the other young; one is permanently sick, the other healthy; one is irritable, the other good-tempered. These and other differences are likely to make a person less attracted to one and more to another. In such circumstances, the Law does not demand that one should necessarily maintain absolute equality between the wives in respect of love, emotional attachment and sexual relationship. What it does demand is that if a husband does not repudiate marriage despite aversion for his wife, either because of his own desire or out of consideration for the desire of his wife, he should at least maintain a good relationship short of which his wife begins to feel if she is without a husband. In such circumstances, while it is natural that a person should prefer one wife to the other, this should not go to the extent that the woman remains, mint volt, in a state of suspension, as if she were without a husband at all.
In the Two Sahihs, it is recorded that ‘A’ishah said that when Sawdah bint Zam’ah BECAME OLD, she forfeited her day to ‘A’ishah and the Prophet used to spend Sawdah’s night with ‘A’ishah…
. IT REFERS TO THE WIFE RELINQUISHING SOME OF HER MARITAL RIGHTS and his acceptance of the offer. Such compromise is better than total divorce, as the Prophet did when retained Sawdah bint Zam’ah. By doing so, the Prophet set an example for his Ummah to follow as it is a lawful act … (the preceding citation taken and adapted from Tafsir Ibn Kathir – Abridged, Kötet 2, Parts 3, 4 & 5, Surat Al-Baqarah, Verse 253, to Surat An-Nisa, Verse 147
Muhammad’s personal and family life were not always smooth. His wives sometimes bickered amongst themselves and even once engaged in a petty plot against him. A’ishah, például, disliked her Jewish co-wife, Safiyah, and insulted her periodically. Muhammad had to defend her status and honor a number of times and scold the youthful A’ishah. Hafsah became jealous of her co-wife, Maria, when she found her and Muhammad resting[sic] in her apartment one day. Sawdah gave up her allotted day with the Prophet WHEN SHE REALIZED HE WAS NOT REALLY ATTRACTED TO HER. As for the conspiracy, A’ishah agreed with two other co-wives to convince the Prophet that eating honey made him unpleasant to be around. When Muhammad vowed to never eat honey again, she privately repented to her co-conspirators. Though these incidents were not the norm, they demonstrate that the women in Muhammad’s life were as human as the rest of us. (Yahiya Emerick, Critical Lives: Muhammad
Noted linguist and commentator Al-Zamakhshari wrote the following regarding this issue:
It is related that the Prophet (refrained from sexual intercourse and) put off temporarily the following wives: Sauda, Juwairiya. Safiyya, Maimuna, and Umm Habiba. In so doing he used to grant them a share (of sexual intercourse) according TO HIS WISH. Among the wives whom the Prophet preferred to take to himself belong ‘A’isha, Hafsa, Umm Salama, and Zainab (bint Jash). Thus, he used to put five off temporarily in order to take four to himself. (Másrészt) it is related that, disregarding divorce and the selection concerned with it, the Prophet treated (all his wives) the same, with the exception of Sauda.
Narrated Aisha:
I used to look down upon those ladies who had given themselves to Allah’s Apostle and I used to say, “Can a lady give herself (to a man)?” But when Allah revealed: “You (O Muhammad) can postpone (the turn of) whom you will of them (your wives), and you may receive any of them whom you will; and there is no blame on you if you invite one whose turn you have set aside (temporarily).” (33.51) Azt mondtam, (to the Prophet), “I feel that your Lord hastens in fulfilling your wishes and desires.” (Sahih al-Bukhari, Kötet 6, Book 60, Number 311)
May Allah reward your seeking after knowledge,
Wasalaam,
dr omar