ハローワールド!
当事者の真のアイデンティティを保護するために、私の人生経験に忠実に, ここに文字の名前 (一夫多妻で 411) 架空のものです; しかし、, 私の状況, の状況, と経験は本物です.
私はAnabellahです. あなたは私アナ呼び出すことができます。 私は一夫多妻の婚姻にされている, 一夫多妻のような多くのことに言及, 2年間でほんの少しのため。 私の夫の名前はアレックスです。 彼 “married” Carolinah (キャロル) 私と結婚している間。&nb既婚が使用してください “married” 引用符で囲んだ, 私は、アレックスとCarolinahの結婚式ではなかったという理由だけで。 私は、式典に出席した誰とも話さなかった, また私はそれのいずれかのマニュCarolinah照してくださいでした. 私はそれが発生したことをアレックスの言葉を受け入れなければならない。 アレックス, Carolinah, と私は一夫多妻生活, これは合法です。 イスラム教徒としての私へ, すべての意図や目的のために.
私は一夫多妻制で言うことができるか、ここを言っていることは何のためにアッラーの許しを求める 411 それは無意識でしょう, または何らかの方法で欺く他人。 ここで一夫多妻で私の意図 411 人生の方法で対処で他人を支援することです (一夫多妻) それは私に適しています そして同時に、私はそれを発見した 非常に困難です。.
私は一夫多妻でここであなたと共有したいと思います 411 私の旅と答え あなたの質問の多く, として正直にそして可能な限り迅速に. インシャーアッラー, あなたの感情の一部を共有します, 感想, と私と他者との経験, 同様に.
私は、アッラーはイスラムでは複数の妻を持っている人のためにそれが合法的作ったことを覚えておくことが必要. だから, 心の一夫多妻でご確認ください。 411 一夫多妻バッシングブログではありません。 私は、アッラーが合法的なされたこと違法にする必要はありません。 これが私の闘争の一部となっています, 私は真実と私の個人的な欲望との戦いとして.
一夫多妻制で 411, 私はしないでください, できない, しなくなり、 一夫多妻制を実践する方法を誰にも言わない, また私はそれがあなたのために右であるかどうかについて助言を与える. 私は私の持っているあなたと共有することができます 経験, 自分自身について学んだ, と他人から学んだ.
全ての賞賛はアッラーのためです.
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Salaamuのアライクムとして!
へようこそ一夫多妻 411! 私たちの家は、イスラム教徒と非イスラム教徒のためのものです. それは、一夫多妻について話をしたい皆のためです。, または一夫多妻婚になっているか、誰もがいずれかを入力して検討している. 我々は、会社を持つよう. 自分が快適な確認し、コメントを残して、議論に参加. 我々は再びすぐに、しばしばここを楽しみにしています.
ホテル 4 以下!
March 2nd, 2009 の 8:41 PM
As salaamu Alaikum,
I have been married just shy of seven years. My husband married another woman, besides me, just a little over two years ago. I am finally beginning to be at peace with it, and actually feel very happy. That’s weird; I can smile now while writing about it instead of crying. It was a tough road and I felt like I wasn’t going to finish the journey.
We all have a tendency to place blame and rationalize why we don’t like something. The main reason we reject polygamy is because it goes against our personal desires. すべての後に, who wants to share love, especially a husband – unless we’re just tired of him, therefore encourage him to take another wife. If that is the case, polygamy probably wasn’t our test; something else was.
とにかく, I’m blogging about polygamy, as I now feel I can be a whole lot more objective about it. I thank Allah SWT much for it, as He has allowed me to see my many faults, my shortcomings, and my weakness in my Faith. It has made me a better person. インシャーアッラー, it will help me get into Paradise.
これは、オープンハウスです. 必要はありませんノックして. だけで来る.
March 3rd, 2009 の 11:55 午前
Salaamuのアライクムとして,
I contemplated divorcing Alex so many times after he married Carolinah. しかし、, after giving it much thought, I said I was not going to give her the satisfaction of prevailing. I said I was going to win because, besides having the husband that Allah SWT has chosen for me, I would be victorious over Satan. Satan wants me to be ungrateful to Allah SWT.
Do we feel at times we would rather have no one than to share? Do we ask ourselves questions like, “Why should I have to share?” or do we say, “Not me, I’m not going to do that.” Do we sometimes become arrogant like Iblis, and let that attitude influence our feelings about polygamy?
September 9th, 2009 の 11:57 午前
As salaamu alaikum wa rahamtullah… my dearest sister in Islaam. I am seriously struggling with this very trial as I type. My husband is intended to a sister now and I feel like I’m losing it. It consumes me constantly. I barely eat to a point where I have lost almost 30lbs in a few short months. Everyone arounds me says I look sickly and like I have suffered a major loss. To be honest this is exactly how I feel. Financially our sitution is not very good. Emotionally our marriage is unstable. I don’t want to leave my husband either even though I asked him to choose between the two. I don’t want to drive him from me I just want him to see and understand what I’m feeling and going through. Help me please!!
September 9th, 2009 の 10:31 PM
Umm Mahmood, As Salaamu Alaikum wa rahamtuallah. I truly know the severe hurt and pain that you are suffering, as I have lived it myself. It is agonizing more than anyone can imagine without having gone through it. The significant weight loss in a few short months, and feeling constantly consumed by all that is happening to you, as your husband prepares to take another wife, if it pleases Allah SWT, are too well known to me. What you must understand is that what you are feeling is “ノーマル”, are the usual feelings that many sisters have experienced that are in Islamic polygamous marriages. You could read many comments on the blog here and learn that you are not alone in your feelings. Perhaps many others will come forward as well so you could hear from them about their experiences.
You say you feel like you have suffered a major loss. From what I have read from other sources, and have learned here on the blog from many, what you’re feeling is real. If your husband takes another wife, you will leave behind something, whether it will be your husband all together or you will no longer have your husband all to yourself anymore. Either way, there will be a loss as you divorce or transition from monogamy to polygamy, leaving monogamy behind. I’ve heard it referred to by some that the change in your marriage is like a death of it, the marriage. I suppose that is why we grieve the way that we do. We go through the same stages in our transition from monogamy to polygamy as we do when we loose a loved one to death. We experience anger, sadness, denial, depression and much more, たとえば、.
The important thing for you to do is try to hold on and be strong as best you can. Turn all your attention to Allah SWT and try to remember Him, as best you can. It is important that you try to stay focused (on Allah and your trial) now at a time when it is so terribly difficult to think of anything other than your crisis situation. The important thing for you to do, as much as you can, is try to take good care of you.
You said you want your husband to understand what you are feeling and going through. I don’t really know if he can. Again I ask the question how a husband can cause his wife so much hurt and pain by taking another wife and still say he loves her. But apparently it is possible. I wouldn’t expect to get many answers from him, if I were you. Your marriage is bound to continue to be unstable for a while, but you must put your faith and trust in Allah that with hardship comes ease and things will get better if you decide to stay.
You should take into consideration that your husband probably loves you just as much as he always has, and that taking another wife does not diminish his love for you. I don’t think it would be that easy for your husband to chose between you and his new intended, otherwise he would have divorced you, if the decision was that easy for him.
You must try not to blame yourself for your husband’s decision to take another wife, although it will be difficult not to. The blame part is a stage as well. You are not to blame for his decision. You must remember that. I still, 2 years and nine months later, play the blame game with myself, and have to squash it.
You’re going to be alright sister. We all are here for you!
これは、オープンハウスです. 必要はありませんノックして. だけで来る.