最初の, 2番目の, サード, または4妻-物質、それをか?
で アン Jan.14に, 2010, 間に 一夫多妻 - 余波, セクション 2
かどうかは妻が最初に重要, 2番目の, third, または数値順に一夫多妻の結婚で4番目, それはすべきではないが、. が偏見や否定的なことと関係が多い2番目の, third, また第三目の妻. 方法がある汚名を否定的な削減することが? すべての後に, 方法は誰のを追跡するための番号ではない人?
私は方法の視点でランキングを維持するためだと思う. キーは私たちにとって常に最も我々の創造の視力の名誉を覚えて最も正しいです。場合我々は念頭に置いて、その事実を保つ, 私たちは正義のために懸命に努力すると考えている, 常にどのように取るに足りない数は覚えている. それは間違ってランクの妻の立場を考慮すると彼女の番号順に一夫多妻の結婚に基づく名誉です.
A second, third, 一夫多妻の結婚または4番目の妻がいる, 多くの場合, 悪い評判を受けて, その多くの社会とその認識とは関係ありません. 多くの社会では, アメリカを中心に, 最初の最高の象徴である。勝者は常にスポーツやコンテストの任意のタイプの最初にある, 行や物事の順2番目ので. 最初の勝者は; 最初のが最高だ. Second, third, または4番目はちょうどであること- ランナーアップはいわば, ライン内の次の, ほぼ良いとして, しかし、第三に十分ではない。従って, この否定的な認識は、一夫多妻結婚したために引き継がれ、多くの2番目の, third, と4番目の妻.
2番目の妻は対処する必要はありません番付, しかし、いわゆるホーム破壊者であることの汚名を, 侵入者, 愛人, 妾, その他のあまり丁寧タイトル, 私は2番目の妻は一夫多妻結婚当初より威信と名誉があるかもしれないと言って冒険と起動する。, 秒は、おそらく何かが間違って最初の妻は、保証夫で始まる2番目の妻をとっていると信じていたとして2番目の妻の優越この感覚を数まで、おそらく支配の3つの妻のシーンに来て. 必要数は結婚の式を入力してください3, 2番目の妻は、おそらく時間もの劣等その意味を感じ始める.
理想的に, 一夫多妻の結婚でこのランキングのいずれもする必要があります. 私の意図は断定努力を何が最も重要であることを忘れないにすることです. 何が最も重要である数値ランクされていません, しかし、義. 最も我々の創造の視力の名誉が最も正しいです.
私はページZainab会議の喜びをした後、この記事を書いて触発された, 信仰の妹、私は祈るアッラーも満足している彼女.
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Salaamuのアライクムとして!
へようこそ一夫多妻 411! 私たちの家は、イスラム教徒と非イスラム教徒のためのものです. それは、一夫多妻について話をしたい皆のためです。, または一夫多妻婚になっているか、誰もがいずれかを入力して検討している. 我々は、会社を持つよう. 自分が快適な確認し、コメントを残して、議論に参加. 我々は再びすぐに、しばしばここを楽しみにしています.
ホテル 4 以下!
January 14th, 2010 の 10:45 PM
HI I know you follow megans-polyblog and I feel greatly that we have been scammed in a way. I know now she is a blunt liar. She posted a picture up of her so-called ultrasound and I found that same picture on another family’s blog at
http://iflifegivesyoulemons.com/2009/01/07/25-week-ultrasound-december-18-2008/
Plzzzz help me expose this person for who they really are, A LIAR!
UGHHH I was so loving her blog! It sucks that she is fake!
and just in case the little wench does delete it here is the proof of her post and also just in case something does happen to the other persons blog here is the screen shot of them both!
http://img189.imageshack.us/img189/4874/meganslies.jpg
http://img705.imageshack.us/img705/3584/meganslies3.jpg
January 15th, 2010 の 9:06 PM
Islam Ana,
I am glad that you posted this “ranking” issue. Of all people I know all of this too well. Being a #2, I was called everything by everybody that did not understand what we were trying to do. In my mind, being called second was purely based on chronology and not some superior or inferior thing. I think that western ideology lends to this crass over-inflated ranking stigma wherein any wife after the first wife is a lesser wife.
I do think that the mentalities of #1, #2, and so on are influenced to feel inferior and or superior at different times based solely on how the outside world has dictated to judge polygynous marriages and based on our adopting of western standards. These things play on our self esteem when in face feeling a certain way about being first or second or having a second or third come in is in no way an insult to the other anyone. I think that we all need to just re-examine why we practice polygyny and get over the chronology although it will always be there with different wonderings at how it would have been had a wife been a different number.
but who am i to talk…
January 15th, 2010 の 9:27 PM
敬礼 “妻”の,
I totally agree with you that how we feel about being in a polygynous relationship, and what number wife we are has a lot to do with the society’s perspective on polygyny. It unequivocally affects the way we view and feel about ourselves, our self-esteem.
You suggested we all re-examine why we practice polygyny, and get over the chronology. You are so right and I’m glad you’ve mentioned it and worded it as you did. I’ve just very, very recently began trying to change the way I think and feel about #2, 3s and 4. I think I’ve been reacting, as I have out of a sense of arrogance and pride, which we know was Iblis’ (Satan’s-for non-Muslims) downfall.
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January 16th, 2010 の 5:18 PM
Try being a number 3!! Even folks who accept our situation look at me as though I had 3 heads lol..seriously though, I think each wife has their individual perspective and their own pros and cons list about their so-called number.
I’m really enjoying this blog and
I love Ana’s twitter btw
January 16th, 2010 の 6:11 PM
New#3,
Thank you for commenting and sharing your perspective on what it’s like being number 3. I certainly can imagine the reactions you get from many people when they learn not only that you are in a polygamous marriage, but are number 3 同様に.
As I’ve previously mentioned, I’m beginning to have an entirely new outlook on the numbering factor of wives in polygamy. I admire you a lot for hanging in there and being strong in your position. It’s wonderful!
I’m glad you’re enjoying the blog and our twitter, 同様に. I appreciate your positive feedback. It means much to me that you share what’s going on with you and polygamy, and to know your thoughts about the blog. All of what I’ve been hearing from you and everyone has helped me to grow and become a better person. Thank you again new#3
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January 16th, 2010 の 7:13 PM
Asalaam Alaykum, iv been off line for a long time and i had made a few post here but i see they are now gone im a 4th wife in Egypt, an American revert InshaAllah i pray all are doing very well in this and i find you page to be very exceptional to say the least. Keep it up sister
January 16th, 2010 の 9:24 PM
As Salaamu Alaikum Khadijah,
I was able to find another previous comment from you under “Polygamy411 Thank’s Everyone.” You could put the title in the “keyword search” box. I think the “keyword search” box only picks up words from post titles. I have to see what I can do about keyword search for comentators.
それでもなお, I’m really happy you’re back with us and still like the blog.
I have to say WOW about you being number 4. It’s amazingly wonderful! I can’t believe I feel that way now. Life is amazing! For the moment I feel I could be a number 4. Don’t hold me to it though; I must be having a good day. I may not feel this way tomorrow
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January 23rd, 2010 の 2:50 PM
salaam alayk ana, how have you been? I want to say what many would not like in here and it is that, I have a problem with people who have a problem with wife numbering. As far as I’m concerned, a first wife IS a first wife, and a second, third or fourth is exactly that. whoever wants to marry my hb better not come with the “there is nothing like first wife” attitude. If you so don’t want to be referred to as a second wife, how about you marry a brother who does not have a wife. Its as simple as that.
BTW, I just updated my blog, please check it out.
January 23rd, 2010 の 5:01 PM
Mena, サラームとしてWAアライクム! Welcome to polygamy 411. It’s the first time you’ve commented here and I’m happy you did.
In your comment about numbering wives, you said “Its as simple as that.” も, simple works for me. Really though, there’s no way of getting around the numbering. It’s all about identification. I agree with you that second and subsequent wives have to come to terms within themselves about the numbering thing.
The only way seconds, thirds and fourth can compete with wife number one is in righteousness. We can compete for righteousness. Other than that, ooops sorry, you’re second. 今, why did I say that? Satan can certainly bring out the worst in us. I have no problem with seconds, thirds, and fourths here or anywhere. We’re all friends. It’s not personal like with me and Carolinah. Please remember that. We’re all just keeping it real.
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January 25th, 2010 の 3:29 PM
Asalaam Alaykum dont worry okhti you’ll find soem days are very good and others feel as if the ground has been pulled out from under you. Best to take each day with what ever comes one day at a time and say Alhumduillah for all pray and Allah will ease it for you. I’m glad to be back its my router, inshaAllah will be fixed soon, and shukran for wanting me back i find this to be a pace to get a laugh, a new idea and even a good cry, and i pray this page dose the same for us all,
January 25th, 2010 の 4:57 PM
Salaamuのアライクムとして, Khadijeh Z
That was very sweet. インシャーアッラー, I’ll make duah for you that Allah makes all your dreams come true.
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1月26日, 2010 の 7:06 PM
I’d suggest the wives not to fixate themselves with the “number game”. A good husband doesn’t differentiate between his wives
June 21st, 2010 の 3:52 PM
Hello everyone i was just checking out the site and I am looking for a site where i can get more information from other 2nd wives. I am a second wife and I have been for the last 5 年, now my husband is wanting a 3rd wife and i am a little uneasy right now with the situation. I feel like i am not important anymore. Can someone please help me. thank you
June 21st, 2010 の 4:07 PM
Hi Brittnay, You’re new to polygamy 411. We welcome you. I think what you’re feeling right now is equivalent to what a first wife feels when her husband takes a second.
I think the novelty of your marriage wore off. The newnest is gone. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or that you are not important to him. Marriage gets old for everyone when the routine sets in. Men look for new XXXXX. They like new. Just my thoughts.
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