一夫多妻 411

This is the problem with many polygamous marriages, as I see it:

In the days of the Prophet Muhammad (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), he propagated Islam. All came together to worship and serve Allah – the purpose Allah created us for. His marriages were to cement relations between tribes etc. He was the leader of his family. He taught them Islam. Everyone that accepted Islam ate, drank and slept it, so to speak.

We have men with multiple families and they are not leaders. They don’t follow the way of the Prophet Muhammad. They don’t rehearse the Quran with their families. I don’t mean to follow the way of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) by wearing a long beard and looking like him (perhaps a cultural thing). I’m referring to Islam and belief – Belief in Allah and all that Allah says in the Quran. Allah tells us what a believer is. Allah, throughout the Quran, outlines who a Believer is, and did not list to wear a beard as a criteria for a Believer. Wearing a beard isn’t righteousness. It’s not what I refer to here.

So we have men with multiple families and the members of the families don’t get along because the leaders of the families aren’t teaching them Islam. They’re just fulfilling their family members basic needs, feeding them, clothing them etc. and fulfilling their own needs (sex), as well. And some of the men aren’t with their families long enough to teach them anything. What good is the husband if he shows up just to see the wife and grab himself some sex here and there? There is no singleness of purpose in the marriages. The marriages are simply separate marriage units in which each member is simply trying to satisfy their own desires. No one cares about the other. They have no reason to come together.

Alex, ideally, should read Quran with me; we should discuss it and we should apply everything we do to it. The same should happen with him at his other wife’s house with her, if she is Muslim. If we were all trying to worship and serve Allah, no one would have a problem doing as Allah says, to give and return the salaam (Islamic greeting), for instance. We would all be cordial to one another. We would be compassionate towards one another etc. Why? Because we would all have the same goal and purpose.

We have husbands that are slack in their duties and responsibilities. They aren’t fulfilling them. Our marriages in Islam aren’t very much different from non-Muslim marriages. The man simply has more than one. Instead of “cheating”, he goes grab himself another marriage. Islam plays a small part in any of it. It simply gives him the permission to engage in polygamy, so it seems.

If the men/husbands stepped up to the plate and were the leaders and commanders of their families, there would be less chaos, craziness, and confusion that we see in our marriages. Islam is not about looking and “acting” the part; it’s about being the part.

This is an open house. No need to knock. Just come on in.

Any questions you have about polygamy or discussions you would like to have about it, we will entertain on this post. You could direct your questions to the forum, to a particular person or to me.

Our goal is to support those that have a sincere interest in polygamy and don’t oppose it. We are here to support and encourage those that live polygamy, believe they may one day live polygamy or have a general interest in wanting to know more about a life of polygamy.

We discourage any debates about whether polygamy in Islam is permissible or not. This is not the forum for those who are against polygamy or have a strong hatred or distaste for it that they want to keep.

What questions do you have for us? What would you like to discuss? Please be certain your questions or discussions relate to polygamy. Even if it’s with reference to your husband’s favorite recipe, his likes or dislikes; if you could tie it into polygamy and marriage, we are here to discuss it with you.

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This is an open house. No need to knock. Just come on in.

After further consideration, based on many emails that we received from concerned people, and discussions with others that I am closely associated with, we have determined there is a serious, high demand for the blog. Thus, 一夫多妻 411 will reopen in the very near future. There will be certain guidelines that we will place into effect that all must follow. 最初の, インスタンスのための, the topic for discussion is solely about polygamy.

We ask all to only:

1. Make statements about oneself. Do not make negative statements about other people.

2. Before responding to someone else’s post, ask questions to clarify that one correctly understands what the other person actually means.

An avid reader and member of our blog family gave very valuable advice and suggested the guidelines above. Additionally, she indicated: “When God makes polygamy possible, this becomes a core fact in one’s life, and it is neither possible nor productive to exclude religious topics.” It is unavoidable that we will discuss religion. It must, しかし、, stay in context. One must connect it to the topic of polygamy.

Please note well: Comments are not welcome from those whose aim is to make this blog personal with regard to anyone. Attacks on anyone would not be tolerated.

My intention is to do all I can to foster a harmonious atmosphere here at polygamy 411, so we could all benefit from the discussions and learn and grow together.

We at polygamy 411 look forward to everyone happily participating again here very soon.

これは、オープンハウスです. 必要はありませんノックして. だけで来る.

Salaamuのアライクムとして & すべてのピース:

私はすべてのあなたと共有する必要がある非常に特別なメールが届きました “マリアムダボ” 人は一夫多妻411でここに私たちのブログの家族の非常に美しいメンバーです。  彼女は述べて:

“こんにちはアナ,

Ohhhh. [OK], ホーム, 私は理解. あなたは正しいです, 人はただではなかった
トピックのせるゴー. 昨日、私はそれがMONTHされていたことに気づいた
同じ問題を議論するの.

あなたがしなければならなかったかをしなければならなかった理由を私は完全に理解する.

私はあなたが犯罪を取るわけにはいきません, しかし、あなたのブログは私の毎日の石鹸のようだった
オペラ. 私は奴に何が起こったか知って欠場することに, 中, とリン. で
自分の体験のすべてを聞き逃す. 含む, ジェニー. はい, 彼女
多くのことを自慢した, しかし、私は思考の彼女の方法が影響していることがわかる
彼女の培養による. より, 多分彼女は自慢されていない, 多分彼女はちょうど
私たちが欲しかった, イスラム教の彼女の姉妹は彼女のために幸せを感じるために.
私は彼女のために満足している, しかし、私は考えていないその苦労している人
財政的にすべてのそれを聞いて感謝.

とにかく, 私は彼がすべてに喜びと幸福をもたらすことをアッラーに祈る
彼の助けのために求める人. 特にあなたがそんなに行っているので、
良好な.

最後の夜, 私はあなたの旅の第5章を終えて. Whewww. それはされている
困難な旅. しかし、あなたは、アッラーとAlhamduillahであなたの信頼を置く
あなたは今幸せです。.

あなたのブログにも助けてくれた. あなたが方法を知っている? 私は非常にされて感動したので、
生まれのイスラム教徒よりも優れてイスラームの知識とそれを実践し.
特にこの. あなたは私のために良い例となっている.

多分あなたは改宗者を助けるブログをやって一日を検討します
イスラム教がよりよい理解. またはこのために何か良いブログを知っている? 多分
このようなブログを行うには、ワリにお勧めすることができます. 私は最初となります
それに続く一つ.

[OK], ホーム. 自分自身の面倒をよく見る. 私はあなたの雑誌を終了し、予定
その後一度戻ってチェックすることで、心の変化があったかどうかを確認する一方です。
と再オープン.

アッラーハーフィズ

マリアムダボ”

***注意してください。: Maryamのは、上記の彼女の文に訂正を行った, 次のようになるです。:

“で  再読み込みは私の以前のメール, と一体何が私がここで言っていた: “あなたのブログにも助けてくれた. あなたが方法を知っている? 私は非常にイスラム教にその知識を健康と生まれのイスラム教徒より良い練習を印象づけるされた. 特にこの. あなたは私のための良い例でした。”

笑. 私は意味, 私は私より上手イスラム教を実践し、イスラム教のように知識が豊富であることなど多くの改宗者を見て感動した. それは私にとって良い例でした, 特にこの. “