一夫多妻 411

Here is one well known medical research article on polygyny, written by Alean Al – Krenawi, PhD., a well respected Muslim mental health professional who has devoted his clinical practice to the study of the effect of polygyny on women and children.

A Comparison of Family Functioning, Life and Marital Satisfaction, and Mental Health of Women in Polygamous and Monogamous Marriages

Alean Al-Krenawi
Ben-Gurion University

John R. Graham
University of Calgary, Calgary, カナダ

Background: A considerable body of research concludes that the polygamous family structure has an impact on children’s and wives’ psychological, social and family functioning.

Aims: The present study is among the first to consider within the same ethnoracial community such essential factors as family functioning, life satisfaction, marital satisfaction and mental health functioning among women who are in polygamous marriages and women who are in monogamous marriages.

Method: A sample of 352 women participated in this study: 235 (67%) were in a monogamous marriage and 117 (33%) 一夫多妻の結婚であった.

Results: Findings reveal differences between women in polygamous and monogamous marriages. Women in polygamous marriages showed significantly higher psychological distress, and higher levels of somatisation, phobia and other psychological problems. They also had significantly more problems in family functioning, marital relationships and life satisfaction.

Conclusion: The article calls on public policy and social service personnel to increase public awareness of the significance of polygamous family structures for women’s wellbeing.

International Journal of Social Psychiatry, Vol. 52, で. 1, 5-17 (2006)

一夫多妻 411

私は、一夫多妻制についてのブログとそれは私を助ける. 私はそれを願って  他人を助けるだけでなく、. 私は今2歳11ヶ月の一夫多妻結婚されてきた. 私は一夫多妻411.comブログを始めました 私の後に 住んでいた 一夫多妻 2年間でほんの少し. ブログはそのような短期間で向上のために多くのまわりで私の人生を変わった方法絶対に驚くべきである – 10ヶ月。  私の精神的健康と感情はよくされて飛躍的に向上しました.

どのように一夫多妻制についてのブログは私を助けている?  も, 私は一夫多妻ブログときにはトーク療法や "話す治療"のようなややです。 セラピストを見に行くとは対照的に, およびグループカウンセリングを持つ, 私はブログで私の治療を行っています。  私はブログ上で人と話す 同様の問題は、一夫多妻または一夫多妻制に興味を持っており、それを学ぶか、それについて話をしたい人を誰が住んでいた。  私はそれについて書くこととそれを気に他の人に話すことによって一夫多妻制についての私の苦痛を和らげる. 私が書くと苦痛の同様の状態にある他の人に話す, または一夫多妻でもあった。  私は一夫多妻制について他の人と話すとき、それは私が私の気持ちと私は考える方法を見つけるのに役立ちます, これは私がよりよい一夫多妻に対処するのに役立ちます. 疑いもなく, 生きている一夫多妻は私のために困難であった.

一夫多妻制に焦点を当ててブログを持つことだけでなく、より多くの方法で貢献してきました。  それは話は無料です, 書き込みやブログで読む, 心理を見に反対. 私が保存したお金について考えてみましょう。 私はセラピストのオフィスに行って私の家を離れる必要はありません。  私が持つことができ “心理療法,” いわば, 毎日, 1日を通して, と1回または週に2回に限定されるものではない. 私は個人的な情報を表示する必要はありません, 文書化されるでしょう私の本当のアイデンティティ. 私は私が薬にセラピストの件名をする必要はありません, 私は頻繁に良い以上の人に多くの害を与えると考えている.

はい. 一夫多妻制についてのブログは私を助けていると私はそれが役立っていると思う他の人を支援しています, 同様に。  誤解しないでください; 私は、彼らがそれを必要と信じている人のための専門の心理療法の代替として一夫多妻についてブログを示唆している、または推薦しないです, 決して. ブログは困っている人のための医療に代わるものではありません。  この記事で示された見解は、私自身と個人的なもの.

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私はかなり知っている方法 1^セント 妻は感じると何が通る, 私は一人として, a 1^セント  妻.  私が興味がある, しかし、, 他の妻たちからより多くを聞いたの, 特に 3^RDS と 4^THS, 我々は彼らから多くのことを聞いたことがないので、.

私は既婚男性と結婚する妻のことを考えると私に出没続けて一つのことは、彼らが、彼らはすでに結婚した男性と結婚したときに着手されたかを知ったときに彼らがそう不当と傷つける感じる方法です。  私は夫が彼女をさせないことにだまされている妻は、彼は別の妻は痛みと心痛の多くを経験することができなかった知っている方法を理解する. しかし、, 私はかなり積極的かつ意図的に一夫多妻の結婚を入力した女性はそれを好みません文句を言うことができるか把握することはできません.

であれば誰でも, 特に 2^ND, 3^RD'と 4^目 妻たち, 件名にいくつかの光を当てることができ, 私は非常に感謝した. 我々は、すべてここで学ぶしようとしています, ので、我々は皆から任意およびすべてのコメントを歓迎.

私は妻の値は、彼女であるが減少するわけではありません 2^ND, 3^RD, または 4^目 それらの番号によって. それは私が順番にそれらを置く方法を知っている唯一の方法です。.

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私が最初に考えた “一夫多妻制クラブ” マレーシアでは悪いアイデアではありませんでした。これは、通りから売春婦を得ることができますし、世話を; それはしません? 今、私はマレーシアでは "一夫多妻制クラブ"すべての後に良いかどうかを疑問視し始めている.

私は道徳の問題が場に出たと思います. と言って誰ですか “改革” 売春婦はまだ醜態の完全ではありません? おそらく、元売春婦が改革されておらず、彼女の道徳は、まだ壊れている. すべての後に, 収入を得るために売春を生活のターンを獲得することはできませんできないすべての女性. "改革"売春婦に言っても誰だ, 現在ラベル "妻", 彼女の夫は彼女を与えることが金銭を補うために追加のお金のために彼女の体を販売して続行されません? どのくらいのお金は彼女のために十分である?

私が尋ねるいくつかの更なる質問:

"改革"売春婦は夫の内のいずれかの民間の売春婦になっていない “一夫多妻制クラブ?” それは単に地理の問題です表示されます。. 市販 “改革” 売春婦は単にある場所から別の場所に移動します. 彼女は、通りや売春宿から削除されている,とに行われ “一夫多妻制クラブ。”

改革売春婦は売春婦であることから愛人に行きません?

健康リスクは最初の妻のために関与している? 最初の妻じゃなかった元売春婦のインスタンスを言う. 彼女の夫は第二として、 "改革"売春婦と結婚, 第三または第四の妻. "改革"売春婦は、彼女の夫と彼女はありません日に売春に戻ります。, 彼女の夫は彼の他の妻の1人の場合と同様. 最初の妻や元売春婦ではなかった他の妻のために問題を提示しないこと, しかし、貞淑な, 彼らは、性感染症を契約リスクとして?

私はもはやマレーシアでは "一夫多妻制クラブ"で良いの重要な契約を参照してくださいませ. 売春婦、彼女はもうその職業を望んでいないかを決定しましょう (売春), イスラム教を見つける, 改革と彼女の夫を見つける. その後、彼女は改革とイスラームを受け入れたことをする可能性がより受け入れが少ない問題があり.

市販 “一夫多妻制クラブ” マレーシアでちょうどそれらを軽減または単に1つの場所から通りや売春宿別の-から "一夫多妻制クラブ"に問題を移している可能性がありますとは対照的に多くの問題を作成している場合があり. あなたはどう思いますか?

"一夫多妻制クラブ"の詳細については、, 以下の記事をお読みください。:

httpの://polygamy411.com/2009/10/08/the-polygamy-club-in-malaysia /

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Are you a “secret wife?”  If you are, 理由? Does a man commit shirk when he marries a woman and make her a secret wife?  My understanding of shirk, for those unfamiliar with the term, is associating any created thing or human being with the Creator – Allah. Shirk is unforgivable!

“Secret wives” is undoubtedly an interesting topic. If polygamy in Islam is permissible, why make a wife a secret?  In earlier posts we briefly touched upon reasons for the secrecy. The reasons were: The husband’s parent(の) didn’t approve of the wife that the husband selected or the husband’s first wife didn’t approve of polygamy, と wouldn’t accept it.  The husband, したがって、, makes the other wife a secret.

Firstly, we must assume that the husband accepts polygamy as being permissible in Islam, which is why he engaged in polygamy in the first place.  If a man has acted upon his right to engage in polygamy, then why does he let the fear of repercussions from his parent(の) or his recognized wife prevent him from dealing with his other wife in a fair and just way? Why must she be a secret? Why not let her be recognized, be rightfully known, and be respected as a wife?

In secret wives situations, it seems the husband fears man (human being), in this case meaning his parent(s) or the recognized wife more than he fears his Creator. Does the husband place his recognized wife and/or his parent(s) above or equal with his Creator when he concerns himself with pleasing his recognized wife and parent(s) while depriving his secret wife of her right to be known and respected as a wife in Islam? The husband that has a secret wife should ask himself, “Who 行う I serve?”   

Who does he fear?  Does he fear his parent(の), his recognized wife or his Creator?  It appears the husband fears his parent(の) or recognized wife more than he fears his Creator when he has a secret wife. In that case, does the husband commit the unforgivable sin of shirk?

I think it becomes a tricky situation when the man makes unlawful what his Creator has made 合法 for him. The man who hides his wife, in essence, has made her unlawful at the same time as making her lawful.  He married her in a polygamous situation; しかし、, 同じ時間で, hides her out of fear of others when we should fear no one except Allah.

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I am a bit concerned with where exactly polygamy is leading Muslim men, particularly my husband Alex, in the 21st century.  Is polygamy in Islam an obstacle to Paradise for some Muslim men? It seems to me that Alex has added a huge burden to his life, as he now has a second wife, Carolinah, and has the challenge of dealing with us as equals.  One marriage is a tremendous trial in and of itself for a man without adding a second marriage.

I think in 2009, having only one wife gives a man a better chance to enter Paradise.  Life is not as simple today, regarding marriage, as it was in the time of the Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him). Living conditions are not the same. Some wives married to the same man don’t live in close proximity to each other, so the man has to travel farther.  It’s significantly more costly to clothe, feed and house wives today than it was years ago. How do men manage and maintain two households, two women or more, with all the stressors of modern day, today?

An additional obstacle to a man in Islam entering Paradise could be regarding the controversy that exists about when and why polygamy is permissible.  Some Islamic scholars and theorist believe polygamy was permitted to ensure the welfare of orphans. Polygamy was linked to the treatment of orphans and it was believed that men were given the responsibility of managing the welfare of orphaned children. If the men were incapable of doing so in a just manner, they could take them as wives to avoid any unjust mismanagement.

だから, if the above is the case, what will become of the man who married a second wife that was not widowed with orphaned children? Some scholars believe he should have married the second wife to prevent unfair treatment of her orphans. An orphan has been defined as a juvenile who has not reached puberty, and has lost his or her father, and lives with his mother.

Granted, there are cases where polygamy could be a means to help a man enter Paradise, if he is charitable, helping a woman with children, などを. しかし、, truly, I would like to know how many men are practicing polygamy to seek the good pleasure of Allah SWT and how many men are practicing polygamy merely to seek their own good pleasure.

I think a safer, easier route for a man to take when striving for Paradise may be monogamy. I wonder whether many men consider that polygamy in Islam may be an obstacle to them entering Paradise. あなたはどう思いますか?

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I understand some Muslims are entering marriage contracts in which a clause(の) is added that forbids the husband from practicing polygamy, during their marriages. The man agrees he would not marry another woman while married to the first wife.

I think a clause(の) in an Islamic marriage contract forbidding the husband from taking another wife is haram (not lawful).  Allah SWT has made polygamy permissible, so who would I be to add a clause to my marriage contract stating my husband couldn’t take another wife while married to me.

I think it is perfectly OK for it to be indicated in the contract that the husband would consult the wife if he decides he’d like to engage in polygamy and that he would be compassionate enough to give the first wife amply time to adjust to the decision and decide whether she’d like to stay married to him.

Putting a clause in the contract forbidding the husband from practicing polygamy during the course of the marriage amounts to a woman telling Allah SWT that she doesn’t like a portion of the book (コーラン) and she rejects it. It’s like her saying I accept everything you say, but I don’t like polygamy, so I’m not having it.  I think it becomes a serious situation when we start picking and choosing parts of the Quran that we want to accept and rejecting other. I’d caution Muslims to be careful in engaging in marriage contracts that prohibits polygamy.  We shouldn’t make unlawful what Allah has made lawful. We don’t know what Allah SWT has decided for us for tomorrow.

Do we sometimes become like Iblis (Satan), become arrogant and tell Allah SWT what we’ll accept and won’t. Allah SWT made polygamy permissible, so who are we to make polygamy impermissible for our husbands.

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We know secret wives exist in Islam. しかし、, are secret wives viewed as mistresses, 同様に? What are the benefits of a woman being a secret wife in Islam? 一夫多妻制はイスラームで許されています. Islam permits a man to have more than one wife at one time simultaneously, as long as the number does not exceed four at a time.  So, why would a man keep his second wife a secret from his first wife and family, his relatives, maybe even her family, and society? Keeping polygamy a secret is an issue in and of itself, but what happens when a secret wife is added?

There are men who keep secret wives in Islam as they know or believe their first wives would not approve of them having second wives. The men don’t want to displease their first wives and his and her families. The woman that he wants to be with besides his first wife becomes his secret wife, the equivalent of mistress, as it is a secret marriage.

Islam elevated the status of women and allowed Muslim men to marry them as second, third and fourth wives.  In Islam, the marriage (Nikah) should be made known to the public, and should be followed by a Walima feast. Is that not so?  The Islamic system rules and regulations encourage modesty and Chastity and make an effort to close all loopholes of evils and corruption. Isn’t this the reason Islam regard publicity of marriage (Nikah) very essential?  The marriage should be publicized to close all loopholes through which immorality can gain access in society.   

If the marriage is not given publicity, people would bring their illicit sexual relationships also under marriage, thus opening a backdoor for the sin to find access to society.  Modesty and chastity are the objects of marriage and not the gratification of sexual appetite alone.

If a husband does not let society know that he has a second wife, does it not open the door for people to suspect the man of having an affair and the woman as being his mistress?  Does a man that has a secret wife deprive that wife of the honor and respect of being known as wife? Polygamy is many times secretive. Do some people add secret wives to the secret lifestyle of polygamy?

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女性と結婚しているという事実, イスラム教, 第一または第二の妻として密かに暮らす  全く新しいと私には外国人である現実である。  最近まで, 私がいた 知らないそれが存在する, と イスラム教のイスラム教徒の間で流行している。  最近, 私は彼らが妻であると言う女性から約あちこちで多くを読みました, とひそかに生きている ”秘密の妻。”  秘密のリアリズム 妻へ の考え方があるように私は驚くべきものです 一部の人にとっては一夫多妻制.

とにかく, 私はずっと思っていました 秘密の妻について, と与えている コンセプト 大量の 注意. 私はそこを理解する 秘密の妻については遊びに来て文化的な問題です。, 同様に。  私は〜です 学習と私は多くを知ることに関心を持っている.

私がこれまで集めたものから, 一部の女性は秘密です。 上に配置要求に起因する第一または第二の妻 息子から 両親, 特に母親に. 親が選択されます 特定の 結婚する息子のために女性や女性のタイプ. 親は息子が大好きで、結婚したい女性を承認しません。, 従って 妻の不承認 になる息子の最初の秘密か 2番目の 妻。 彼は密かに女性の不承認と結婚するので、息子が母親を軽視したくない. 私も聞いたことがあると思いますそれはいくつかのことで言った “パラダイスは足である 母の”, これはなぜですか “尊敬” 非常に重要である, もし私が間違っています。  これは私を混乱させるものである.

息子はまだ彼の両親の女性と結婚, より具体的には彼の母親, の不承認, と本質的に軽視 彼の両親や彼の そうすることによって母. 息子は母の尊重にあまり重点を置いていた, しかし同時に、, 彼は彼の母親はの不承認同じ女性と結婚し、彼女の後ろで彼女を軽視。  親の承認があれば 彼のチームメイトであった その 重要と 彼の親は、特定の承認されなかった 水への彼のために女性, 理由 彼が結婚した (秘密) 女性? 親が秘密の妻を知っていないため、ちょうどそれがOKになります?  息子はその母親の福祉を心配していた場合、, と彼女の尊敬を獲得または維持する, なぜ息子はちょうど人の母親の女性と結婚していません を承認? それはとても矛盾している.

私は私が単に混乱していると思う. 私は思った イスラム教は女性の地位を上げた, と男は複数の女性と結婚することができそうな女性 妻のタイトルで尊重されるだろうととして知られている そのような. ものを持っている それは男性が秘密として離れて、女性を押し込む時に来て, の原因と 女性への の特性を帯びる “愛人?”

利己的な秘密の妻の犠牲者である, 整体, 制御, 貪欲な, の感情や脆弱性を食い物にうそをつく人々 女性たち,  とを活用する 女性の優しい, 自然を愛する?  イスラム教の妻は秘密になった時? もう一度, 私は、イスラームは女性の地位を上げたと考えられ, と  それらに完全な保護を与え, 夫からの尊敬と名誉, 子どもたちと社会.

私は不思議と秘密の秘密を熟考しました.

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Polygamy is costly. A vast majority of people probably know how costly polygamy could be without having to live it. When I speak of how costly polygamy is, in this particular post, I’m referring to the husband that actually provides for and maintains his wives that live in separate households.  I am not referring to the husbands that let the “system” pay for their wives or the husbands that don’t provide and maintain at all, the ones that are in what I would describe as similar to the polygamy dating game, moving from one home to another without any financial responsibility.

I tried to explain to my husband Alex just how costly polygamy could be. I can’t remember whether I admonished him before we became polygamous or only after. I was so devastated about he, 彼女, and me becoming polygamous; consequently, I may not have broached the subject prior to our polygamous marriage.  Nonetheless, immediately after he married Carolinah, I tried to explain to Alex that he was no millionaire and that many persons with one household were struggling to make ends meet.  But no…he thought he had it all figured out. I told him that if things get tough, he had better not even think about cutting me (reducing the monies he gives me); he had better cut her (Carolinah).

Now tough economic times have hit us in America. What to do? I like organic food; it’s nothing new. When Alex and I got married, I went all out organic. I’ve always been health conscious since I could remember. Well, a short while ago or so, Alex began bringing home non-organic food. Organic products are very costly; most people probably know (I’m not trying to insult any one’s intelligence. I’m just trying to be clear). I asked Alex what he was doing bringing that stuff home, as he knows I eat organic.  He said, “Well buy your own if you want organic.”  On another few occasions he started bringing home store brand products.  I don’t do store brand (no offense to anyone).  I’m not liking what’s going on now. どのような?  I have to change my lifestyle because the reality of how costly polygamy is has set in and times are hard.  NO! I DON’T THINK SO!

Alex said to me on a few occasions that he was trying to cut costs in every way he could think of. It was as though he was asking me for help or suggestions. I had none. I’m thinking-look, you wanted polygamy. You got it. Now figure out how you’re going to pay for it.  I said nothing.  I’m not going to suggest he cut anything over here (私と一緒に).  I wanted to say-you need to get rid of that extra butt. But no, I don’t want to be blamed by him, if he does leave her. So I opted for the silent treatment.

とにかく, the other day I emailed Alex (It was Carolinah’s turn to be with him). I explained to him that he is to add to my life, not take away. I advised him that I ate organic before, and was going to continue to eat it now. After he tried that whole door closing thing on me (Carolinah likes the doors in her home closed), I’ve began to fume. I advised him not to impose his way of life “道路下に” with Carolinah on me. I advised him to always remember which one of us (his wives) he is with and what we each like.

Is polygamy costly? Whose problem is it when the husband didn’t consult his first wife before he engaged in polygamy?  Whose problem is it when he thought he had it all figured out?

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