US Dollars Offered Gaza Men to Wed Widows of Martyrs
로 앤 on Jan.16, 2010, 동안 미디어 polygamy
GAZA, 행진 24 (Xinhua) — The Islamic Hamas movement has encouraged Gaza men to marry “a widow of a martyr” with a reward of 3,000 U.S. dollars for each, but the project sparked criticism by pro-women groups, according to a Hamas women activist Tuesday.
Nadia Nasser told the press that the cash reward ” is to encourage the youths marry women who lost their husbands by the Israeli army fire.”
”The project aims at providing a stable life for the widows, especially the young who lost their husbands days or weeks after the marriage,” Nasser said, adding “this is the best way to protect the Muslim women.”
In December and January, Israel conducted an unprecedented offensive in the Gaza Strip, killing more than 1,300 Palestinians. 약 43 percent of victims were women and children and the rest were men, most of them youths.
However, the Hamas project sparked criticism by pro-women groups. Samira Abdel Aleem, the Director of Women Committees said that it “degrades the dignity of the Palestinian woman who always sacrificed alongside the man.”
”The woman has the right to choose her husband,” Abdel Aleem said, demanding the authorities to amend the personal status law and outlawing the polygamy.
Hamas said those who want to get advantage of the project should be fiscally capable of “providing for two wives or more and must be ready to look after the children of the new wife.”
They also must be committed to the moral and religious principles and provide “a private place for the new wife.”
Credit for the above info: 2009-03-24 10:28:04 GMT2009-03-24 18:28:04 (Beijing Time) Xinhua English
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Salaamu의 Alaikum으로!
일부 다처제에 오신 것을 환영합니다 411! 우리 집에는 무슬림과 비 무슬림입니다. 그것은 polygamy에 대해 이야기하고자하는 모든 이들을위한, 또는 polygamous 결혼에 있거나 누구 하나를 입력하는 것을 고려하고있다. 우리는 회사를 가지고 같은. 편하게하고 의견을 떠나는하여 토론에 참여. 우리는 앞으로 또 곧 자주 모습을보고.
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January 16th, 2010 에 7:00 PM
I strongly disagree with the martyr stuff. Allah tells us in Quran not to kill ourselves. Inocent people are being killed as well as Believers.
에, 그러나, like the requirements that men should meet to take advantage of the cash reward to marry widows:
.Be fiscally capable of Providing for two wives or
more
.Be ready to look after the children of the new wife
.Be committed to the moral and religious principles
.Provide a private place for the new wife
I don’t know how any Muslim man could purport that he follows the sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), and not provide each of his wives separate dwellings. If Muslim men can’t afford to house the wives in separate dwellings due to the high cost of housing in 2010, then they shouldn’t have more than one wife-simple. The excuse that the women prefer it that way is unacceptable. It’s not the way of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). It’s an innovation.
What do you think about the housing situation for Muslim men, practicing polygamy?
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January 17th, 2010 에 3:27 PM
Interesting. In terms of the housing situation, I’m not sure. I’m trying to place myself in that situation. Having only been in that situation briefly myself, I’m not so sure how I would want to play it out long term.
Would I want to go without seeing my husband for a few days at a time, or would I want to watch him have this attraction and be intimate with another woman? I’m not referring to sex although knowing that is going on would be tough. I mean kisses etc….
I’m sure that the women cannot make the decision as to what they want and/or can tolerate can they?
January 17th, 2010 에 4:56 PM
knowing me, I wouldn’t be able to handle seeing my husband slapping his other wife’s behind, or them making goo goo eyes at each other, hinting they sneak off to the bedroom. I could envision myself outside their bedroom door at night when it’s not my turn, trying to easedrop on the conversation. I certainly don’t want to hear any love making coming from that room. What I don’t know, see, or hear, can’t hurt me. So with that said, I’d rather go without seeing my husband for days than subject myself to that mental and emotional anguish.
Alex knows better than to approach me with the suggestion that he, Carolinah, and me live in the same house. Alex always knew that wasn’t Islamically correct.
I think Muslim women settle for cohabiting with their husband’s other wife out of a desire to have a husband that they wouldn’t have otherwise. Why else would they not want their own home? I could understand a woman having her own home and not requiring her husband to contribute, as he doesn’t have the money. She relinquishes her rights. I can’t see multiwives in a polygamous marriage cohabiting in Islam.
I like your question, Live, Laugh, Love and I thank you for sharing your thoughts on the subject. Like you, I’m interested in knowing what more readers out there think or feel about it.
Live, Laugh, Love, you asked, “I’m sure that the women cannot make the decision as to what they want and/or can tolerate can they?
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January 17th, 2010 에 5:23 PM
That’s just it. The situation you described is one I ended up in and it was without a shadow of a doubt beyond horrifying.
I’ve grown a lot since then but I still have thoughts that if placed in that situation again I would react the same way as I did before. I was so hurt from it the first time with the way hubby and other wife acted during that brief period of time towards each other and their disregard towards me and my feelings.
I do know though that there are women out there that can handle and do love the poly lifestyle and would not trade anything with living in the same house together with their sister wives and husband.
January 17th, 2010 에 5:50 PM
I’ve grown a lot too, but I don’t think there’s that much growing in the world for me. God doesn’t put a burden on us more than we can bear, we put the extra burden on ourselves. A man and a wife were meant to live together in peace and tranquility. I think that can happen between a Muslim husband and a wife, living together with their children in their own home-just the husband and one wife. How could there be peace and tranquility otherwise?
Without a doubt, I could imagine how horrified you were to have that stuff going on in your face.
Like you, I know there are men and women who are very content all living together in polygamous marriages. I don’t know much about their religion, but I think it’s done with a higher purpose in mind, which helps them adapt and seek peace and I respect that.
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