Since the day my husband Alex married another woman Carolinah and became polygamous, I wondered if she and I needed to be friends. Is there a need for polygamous wives to be friends with each other or one another when they share a husband?
The answer to the question for me is “No!”-not only because I don’t like Carolinah, but because I believe there is no reason for me to be her friend in Islam. I understand polygamous wives that live together have a need to befriend one another for peaceful living conditions. Is there the same need for friendship between the wives when they don’t live in the same household with each other?
One thing I believe I need to do regarding Carolinah is to say “As Salaamu Alaikum” to her and return the greeting if and when she says it to me. I think I should be kind and cordial to her, if we ever communicate, and shouldn’t bother her otherwise.
Are we to be best friends to every Muslim we meet? If not, then what makes my husband’s wife any different than other Muslims? Oh, she’s his wife…so what.
Instructions are given to men in Islam that opt to engage in polygamy. I have come across no instructions for me as a Muslim female with regards being married to a polygamous man.
Should I try to make life easier for my husband Alex by befriending his other wife Carolinah? Would being her friend actually make my husband’s life easier or more complicated?
My husband’s wife Carolinah and I are not friends, nor do I desire to be her friend. Why do wives of polygamous men befriend their husbands’ wives?
This is an open house. No need to knock. Just come on in.