Polygamia 411

This is the problem with many polygamous marriages, as I see it:

In the days of the Prophet Muhammad (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), he propagated Islam. All came together to worship and serve Allah – the purpose Allah created us for. His marriages were to cement relations between tribes etc. He was the leader of his family. He taught them Islam. Everyone that accepted Islam ate, drank and slept it, so to speak.

We have men with multiple families and they are not leaders. They don’t follow the way of the Prophet Muhammad. They don’t rehearse the Quran with their families. I don’t mean to follow the way of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) by wearing a long beard and looking like him (perhaps a cultural thing). I’m referring to Islam and belief – Belief in Allah and all that Allah says in the Quran. Allah tells us what a believer is. Allah, throughout the Quran, outlines who a Believer is, and did not list to wear a beard as a criteria for a Believer. Wearing a beard isn’t righteousness. It’s not what I refer to here.

So we have men with multiple families and the members of the families don’t get along because the leaders of the families aren’t teaching them Islam. They’re just fulfilling their family members basic needs, feeding them, clothing them etc. and fulfilling their own needs (sex), as well. And some of the men aren’t with their families long enough to teach them anything. What good is the husband if he shows up just to see the wife and grab himself some sex here and there? There is no singleness of purpose in the marriages. The marriages are simply separate marriage units in which each member is simply trying to satisfy their own desires. No one cares about the other. They have no reason to come together.

Alex, ideally, should read Quran with me; we should discuss it and we should apply everything we do to it. The same should happen with him at his other wife’s house with her, if she is Muslim. If we were all trying to worship and serve Allah, no one would have a problem doing as Allah says, to give and return the salaam (Islamic greeting), for instance. We would all be cordial to one another. We would be compassionate towards one another etc. Why? Because we would all have the same goal and purpose.

We have husbands that are slack in their duties and responsibilities. They aren’t fulfilling them. Our marriages in Islam aren’t very much different from non-Muslim marriages. The man simply has more than one. Instead of “cheating”, he goes grab himself another marriage. Islam plays a small part in any of it. It simply gives him the permission to engage in polygamy, so it seems.

If the men/husbands stepped up to the plate and were the leaders and commanders of their families, there would be less chaos, craziness, and confusion that we see in our marriages. Islam is not about looking and “acting” the part; it’s about being the part.

This is an open house. No need to knock. Just come on in.

Any questions you have about polygamy or discussions you would like to have about it, we will entertain on this post. You could direct your questions to the forum, to a particular person or to me.

Our goal is to support those that have a sincere interest in polygamy and don’t oppose it. We are here to support and encourage those that live polygamy, believe they may one day live polygamy or have a general interest in wanting to know more about a life of polygamy.

We discourage any debates about whether polygamy in Islam is permissible or not. This is not the forum for those who are against polygamy or have a strong hatred or distaste for it that they want to keep.

What questions do you have for us? What would you like to discuss? Please be certain your questions or discussions relate to polygamy. Even if it’s with reference to your husband’s favorite recipe, his likes or dislikes; if you could tie it into polygamy and marriage, we are here to discuss it with you.

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This is an open house. No need to knock. Just come on in.

Po ďalšom zvážení, na mnoho e-mailov, ktoré sme dostali od dotknutej osoby, a rokovania s ostatnými, že som úzko súvisí s, sme zistili, že je vážny, Vysoká dopyt na blog. Teda, Polygamia 411 sa bude opäť vo veľmi blízkej budúcnosti. Bude určité zásady, ktoré umiestnime na tom, že všetci sa musia riadiť. Prvé, napríklad, téma na diskusiu, je len o polygamiu.

Žiadame všetkých, aby iba:

1. Robiť vyhlásenia o sebe. Nerobia negatívne vyhlásenie o iných ľudí.

2. Predtým, než reagovať na niečí príspevok, klásť otázky, bolo jasné, že jeden správne chápe, čo ten druhý vlastne znamená.

Vášnivý čitateľ a člen našej rodiny blog dali veľmi cenné rady a navrhol vyššie uvedených pokynov. Okrem toho, ukázala: “Keď Boh dáva možnosť polygamia, to sa stane kľúčovou skutočnosťou v živote človeka, a nie je ani možné, ani produktívny vylúčiť náboženských témach.” Je nevyhnutné, že budeme diskutovať o náboženstve. Je potrebné, však, pobyt v kontexte. Človek sa musí pripojiť na tému mnohoženstvo.

Vezmite prosím na vedomie a: Komentáre nie sú vítaní od tých, ktorých cieľom je, aby sa tento blog osobné, pokiaľ ide o niekoho. Útoky na nikoho nebude tolerovať.

Mojím zámerom je urobiť všetko, čo môže podporiť harmonické prostredie tu na polygamiu 411, a tak sme mohli všetci ťažiť z diskusií a učiť sa a rásť spoločne.

My v polygamiu 411 tešíme sa na všetky zúčastnené šťastne tu zase čoskoro.

Jedná sa o deň otvorených dverí. Nie je treba klopať. Len poďte ďalej.