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“Court ‘upholds’ tent blaze death”

KUWAIT CITY, May 26: The Court of Appeals upheld Wednesday the ruling of a lower court, which sentenced a Kuwaiti woman, identified as Nasra Al-Enezi, to death for setting fire to a wedding tent in the suburb of Oyoun, Jahra after discovering her husband’s plan to marry another woman, resulting in the death of 58 women and children and injuries to many others.
During interrogations at the Criminal Investigations Department (CID) and Public Prosecution, Nasra told the authorities she went mad after finding out her husband’s intention to marry another woman. She has threatened him, but he ignored her and pressed ahead with his wedding plans.
On the day of the wedding, Nasra took a taxi from her family’s house in Rabia, went to a petrol station where she bought some petrol, and headed to the tent. When she arrived at the location, she poured petrol on the edges of the tent, set fire to it, and hurried back to the taxi, which took her back to her family’s house. However, she denied the charges when she appeared in court.
The fire caused the death of 58 women and serious injuries to some.
On March 30, 2010, the Criminal Court sentenced Nasra to death.
The session was presided by Judge Faisal Khuraibet.

Agencies add:
“We still believe it’s a harsh sentence. We will challenge the verdict at the supreme court,” Zaid Al-Khabbaz told AFP by telephone after the ruling was announced.
The lower court sentenced Nasra Yussef Mohammed Al-Enezi, 23, in March after convicting her of “premeditated murder and starting a fire with the intent to kill.”
The Aug 15 inferno engulfed the women-and-children-only tent in minutes and triggered a stampede. The final death toll was 58, including Saudis and stateless Arabs as well as Kuwait’s.
Enezi was initially believed to be the groom’s ex-wife but defence lawyers said she was still married to him, as men are allowed to have more than one wife in the conservative Muslim emirate.
Enezi and her husband have two children together, both of them mentally handicapped.
If her death sentence is upheld by the supreme court, she would be the first Kuwaiti woman to be executed in the Gulf state’s history.
Women from other nationalities have been hanged in the past, however.
Kuwait has executed a total of 72 people, three of them women, since it introduced the death penalty some four decades ago. Most of the condemned have been convicted murderers or drug traffickers.

Credit for above info: arabtimesonline.com/ 12/19/2010

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Minister may seek legal changes to pursue alleged polygamist

Immigration Minister Eric Besson says France may consider revising current laws in order to strip an Algerian-born man accused of polygamy and defrauding France’s social services of his French nationality.

French law could potentially be revised to strip polygamists of their acquired citizenship, Immigration Minister Eric Besson told French radio on Monday amid an escalating controversy over Islam, immigration and women’s rights that has captured national headlines. 

The incident began on Thursday when a Muslim woman told the media that French police had given her a traffic fine for wearing a niqab, a Muslim face veil that leaves only the eyes exposed, while she was driving in the north-western city of Nantes in early April.

Police issued a €22 ($29) fine, saying her clothing impaired her vision and therefore posed a safety risk.

Lies Habbadj could lose his French citizenship.

The immigration minister’s comments on Monday followed a request by Interior Minister Brice Hortefeux to look into whether the woman’s husband, Lies Hebbadj, could be stripped of his French nationality.

Hortefeux said he had obtained information suggesting Hebbadj was a polygamist who lived with four women, all of whom received single-parent welfare benefits.

Those allegations are yet to be proven, but on Monday Hebbadj defended himself at a press conference in Nantes, говорећи:, “As far I know, mistresses are not banned by France or Islam. Maybe by Christianity, but not in France.”

Hebbadj is said to have acquired French nationality through marriage in 1999.

The law and the veil

According to French civil law, neither polygamy nor welfare fraud can justify revoking a person’s nationality.

Howerver, according to Maitre Brah Rached, a lawyer and expert in rights of foreigners in France, “a person’s nationality may be revoked if it is proven that he or she lied about his or her marital status when granted citizenship.”

If Hebbadj was already married in Algeria before wedding a Frenchwoman, his citizenship may be considered void, the lawyer explains.

In an interview with RTL radio station, Besson admitted revoking a preson’s French nationality was a controversial legal matter.

Кредит за горе информације: France 24/7 – France 2/by Josh Vardey, 4/26/2010

Divorced last year, 30-year-old Amina is slowly rebuilding her confidence.

KUWAIT: Фатима, in her mid-forties is a mother of three sons, all of whom are adults now. Fatima got married to the father of her children when she was in her early twenties. They had an unsteady married life; her husband married a second wife ten years into their marriage and deserted her for over a year. He then decided to finally divorce her after she began to live with the reality that he was married to another woman.

Fatima is now married to a man in his early fifties, who is also divorced. The couple lives together in peace in a big house that they both bought. Fatima says she will retire by the end of this year and start living “the rest of the life” she has always dreamed of.

Fatima says she never felt rejected as much as she did when her husband married his second wife, an older divorcee with five children from two failed marriages. “I knew that he was not faithful to me, but somehow that didn’t bother me as much as the news of his marriage,” , рекла је она. “I always repeated what my mother told me over and over: ‘It is just a phase. He will come back to his senses. It is just a phase.’ But when I found out he was actually married to her, my whole world was shaken.

Fatima says that this was followed by a series of questions from her friends and relatives. “Did he complain about your weight? Do you satisfy him in bed? Do you cook for him? Do you keep the house clean? Do you spend a lot of his money?

I asked for a divorce, and he refused. He left the house for me and the kids and only visited occasionally. When he did, I slept in the living room or in the children’s room. One day he called me while I was at work and told me that he wanted to get a divorce. I felt completely worthless, as if I had no say at all in anything. He kept our marriage just to spite me, and when I was actually making the effort to get used to it, he decided that we needed to get a divorce.

Growing trend of multiple marriages

Fatima’s story illustrates many other similar narratives in society today. Whether in secret or publicly, a lot of men marry before they take a second or third and even fourth wife for no good reason.

Kuwait Times spoke to social counselor Khaled Al-Mohannadi, who shared his opinion based on his experiences with such cases. He said that a lot of men marry for selfish reasons and sacrifice the future of their family without even caring.

If you notice, the majority of second-marriages are not arranged marriages. The man who is already involved in a marriage meets a woman outside his marriage and they plan their commitment together,” рекао је. This does not mean that arranged marriages are completely wrong, argued Al-Mohannadi. It means that people should encourage themselves to speak openly about their feelings and not force themselves into doing anything at all that they aren’t convinced about.

After some time, there is a big chance that the couple will realize they don’t want to be together; they have nothing in common. This, ideally, results in a divorce. But because of the social stigma of divorce, and because in many cases the couple comes to this realization after having had a child or two, they remain married but become emotionally-separated, or as we refer to it, ‘emotionally divorced.’

Emotional divorce usually occurs when a couple fails to communicate. When both neglect their duties to each other and become less emotionally committed to each other, “they desert each other and become strangers who just happen to live with each other,” said Al-Mohannadi. This can lead to the dissatisfaction of the wife, whether emotionally or sexually, and that leads her to seek different ways to satisfy her needs. These solutions, says the counselor, are sometimes illegitimate and destroy the marriage.

Polygamy as a sign of weakness

Al-Mohannadi continued to say that from his observations, the problem with polygamy is that the husband is usually weak. “The husband, in many of instances that I dealt with, is very emotional. It is always apparent that he loves this wife more than the other, and this is not right. He either gives them equal love and attention or the wife has the complete right to get a divorce. She has better chances with someone else. Staying in the marriage will make her feel unwanted, and it can cause a lot of distress for the entire family,” рекао је. This usually reflects on the way the wife treats her children, and it can cause a lot of instability.

With regard to what would push the woman to be a second (or third or fourth) супруга, Al-Mohannadi said that it is mostly the pressure of society. “Да, in some cases it is love, which can blind the woman from seeing that she is destroying the stability of a whole family. But in many other cases, it is social pressure. In our society, we label an unmarried woman in her late twenties a “spinster.” We judge a woman by her looks, her academic qualifications, the history of her family. A lot of women in our society are taught that they cannot find true love.

The solution to all problems is conversation, says Al-Mohannadi. He advised, “Conversation is an essential part that all Kuwaiti families lack. We don’t talk. We don’t converse about our feelings and our needs. If the picture isn’t clear to us, how are we supposed to do anything right? Communicate, be honest and learn how to think as a ‘we’ rather than a ‘мене’ when you are married.

Credit for above info: Kuwait Times – Published Date: Јун 18, 2009
By Hussain Al-Qatari, Staff writer