I guess you’re wondering how Carolinah, initially, adjusted to polygamy-our (her, Alex and my) new way of life…I certainly wondered! Somehow or another, the conversation came up between Alex and me. He said Carolinah was upset, or angry. I can’t remember his exact words. I knew Carolinah and I both were distressed. Whose fault was it? Alex advised me that ...…
Alex came home one day and asked me to forgive him. After he married Carolinah, on a few occasions he asked me to forgive him. I don’t know exactly what he asked forgiveness for. Was it forgiveness for marrying Carolinah, for hurting me, or both? I never asked Alex for clarification. Maybe I didn’t ask what he meant, as I didn’t seriously ...…
The first vacation that Alex and I took after he married Carolinah was very, very nice. We talked with each other more and enjoyed each other more than we did on any other vacation we had taken before. The excursions and activities took a back seat. What was terribly different though, in a not good ...…
Sometimes women say they are receptive to polygamy and to being an extra wife. They haven’t eliminated the option completely (saying no way, no how, is the easy part). But what happens when a woman actually becomes the other wife and emotions kick in. What happens when she really begins to know the husband - like turns to love; there’s passion, desire….or maybe the ...…
The non-Muslim holidays that came soon after Alex married Carolinah were easy for me to take. Alex was with me those days, as scheduled. I had become used to Alex and me being off work and home together those days, although we didn’t celebrate. I don’t think Carolinah much cared about Alex not being with her those days, as I gathered from ...…
I was getting very agitated. The stress of living polygamy was taking a toll on me. I was really beginning to feel like I didn’t exist-just the way Carolinah wanted me not to exist. I never heard anything from her, hadn’t spoken with her, hadn’t received a message from her…nothing. So one day, during a weekend, ...…
Alex knew I had called Carolinah. He was extremely upset with me. When Alex and I got home, he asked me why I had made the call. He said everything was going good in both household and then I had to make the call. Alex was very distressed, sitting in the chair in the dining ...…
I called my friend again. I advised him that I had called Carolinah and apologized to her. I knew my apology was weak and insincere. I felt extremely bad. I knew what I had done was so very wrong and sinful. My friend advised me to offer Salat and ask Allah SWT to forgive me. He furthermore said, ...…
Anticipating Alex going on vacation with Carolinah was much more difficult for me than him actually going. I kept thinking about Alex and my earlier vacations. I began envisioning Carolinah taking my place. I knew it wouldn’t be very easy for Alex vacationing without me, either. I had become a bit prepared by finding out in advance about Alex and Carolinah’s ...…
Alex and Carolinah were away on their vacation (It’s now July 2007-seven months after their marriage). I thought Alex would have called me while he was away with her. Although, I had told him not to call when he was with Carolinah. I thought about him much and began missing him. I became angrier each day that he didn’t ...…
