I’m wondering how polygamous husbands cope with wives that have different styles. How does a polygamous husband combine the different styles of his wives into his life? Let me give you an example: (Remember, Carolinah and I have separate homes.) Alex married Carolinah, as his second wife, just a little less than five years of he and ...…
As the date for the marriage drew closer, I felt a need to have more details about it from Alex. So, I asked. I already knew the date the marriage was going to take place. They scheduled it for a weekday, the beginning of the week. He said he was going to go to work the day of the ...…
The day Alex married Carolinah was surprisingly uneventful for me. Allah SWT gave me ease. Alex, I’m assuming, went to work. He married Carolinah that evening. I went to work. I went shopping with a friend after work, and then went home and actually went to sleep. No boo hooing….just peaceful sleep. But the next day… two and three, weren’t ...…
When you are in polygamy, you have a lot of ignorance to ignore. Alex really knew how to annoy me when it came to his other wife Carolinah. One day when Alex and I were away and were dining out – I asked him if he loved Hafsa (his ex-wife) when they were married to her. He ...…
On one of those unusual occasions when Alex and I had a civil conversation about his marriage to Carolinah, one late evening, he said Carolinah worried a lot that he might leave her. He said, “She thinks I’m going to leave her.” He said he promised her that he would never leave her. He said he promised her that he would ...…
I’m hopeful polygamy 411 will be an encouragement for us all to check ourselves. I was living polygamy in agony. I agonized myself. Although I know Allah SWT knows, sees and controls all things, I thought I’d keep watch over Alex. When he was home with me, I was almost like his shadow. If he weren’t in the ...…
My best friend chastised me, not only once, but often, about how I spoke of Carolinah and my hatred for her. He said, if anything, I should be angry with and dislike Alex. Alex married Carolinah. He wanted to marry her. Alex had no compassion in his heart for me (shown by the way he treated me right before he began to engage in polygamy). My ...…
I have received many questions about husbands from both single Muslim sisters and Muslim wives in polygamous marriages - questions such as: Does a husband feel more inclined to be with one of his wives more than the other? Is there something in particular that he likes more about the one wife than the other that makes the inclination strong? Does the excitement ...…
