Carolinah didn’t like that Alex had gone away on vacation with me, and had celebrated his and my anniversary at that time. She had found out about it from text messages I sent her. (What Allah wants revealed, no one can conceal. What Allah wants concealed, no one can reveal.) So, Carolinah decided she’d take matters into her ...…
So, it’s Alex and my wedding anniversary day. Alex is a very romantic person. For example, he does the flower thing on no special occasion. He was looking forward to our anniversary before Carolinah started her attempt to dictate how things would be, where Alex would be and when. Alex did not mention our anniversary the entire day. I asked him if he ...…
Commentator CM, in a comment on my recent post, “Wali Intervenes in Polygamous marriage” , asked how I am doing. (Please see my reply http://polygamy411.com/2009/06/06/wali-intervenes-in-polygamous-marriage/#comment-301) Until I woke up this morning and found the schedule, I was feeling very good. What should three people in a polygamous marriage do when the husband is clueless about how to make ...…
I thought we had solved all the problems with the polygamous schedule, but we had not. Alex emailed me on Monday (It was the first time I had communicated with Alex since his telephone conversation with my wali on Saturday. During their conversation, Alex and my wali finalized our (Alex, Carolinah, and my) polygamous schedule) - so I thought, anyway. In ...…
Once and for all we resolved the conflict over our polygamous marriage schedule. So I hope. After a night of intense arguing and sleeping apart from Alex, he emailed me from work the next day. In the email, he asked me to send him the dates that we had before agreed upon. He said he ...…
Is it common for husbands in polygamous marriages to get confused about the schedule, and wonder which wife’s turn it is? Well, I experienced it the other day with Alex. Just to rehash what’s been going on-Alex was away at Carolinah’s (his other wife’s) house recovering from minor surgery for the last thirteen days. They were on vacation, ...…
I’m always waiting for another issue to pop up again about our (Alex, Carolinah, and my) polygamous schedule. Living polygamy with marriage on a schedule is a whole different way of life. It is not the norm for marriages in America. Although not the norm, I’m getting used to it, slowly but surely. Alex had to cancel a ...…
Scheduling polygamy is still a problem in my marriage. It seems the problem just won’t go away. Just as much as I’m tired of dealing with the problem and talking about it, I gather you all are just as tired of hearing about it. How could something so simple be so complicated? I’ll try to ...…
Settling into polygamy is awkward indeed. So how is it done? For Alex and me it was three nights with me and then three with her….three days here and three days there. While Alex and I pleasantly conversed one evening, he said he would be away on a business trip for a few days. I said, Oh, OK, so ...…
After Alex said he wanted me to “meet and teach” Carolinah, he came home one day and said he wanted me to make the schedule-to make our polygamy schedule. Did you hear me? He asked me to communicate with Carolinah and make his schedule. I guess living polygamy for Alex was becoming more complicated than he had imagined. I ...…
