Merhaba Dünya!
tarafından Ann on Apr.25, 2009, sırasında benim yolculuk
Tarafların gerçek kimliğini korumak için ve benim yaşam deneyimleri sadık kalmak, karakterler burada isimlerini (çok eşlilik az 411) hayalidir; ancak, benim durum, koşullar, ve deneyimler gerçek.
Ben Anabellah kulüpler. Bana Ana koyabilirdik. Bir çok eşli evlilik etmiş, için birçok polijini olarak anılacaktır, için iki yıl boyunca sadece küçük bir. Kocam ismi Alex. O “married” Carolinah (Şarkı) bana evli iken. Kullanmalıyım evlimarried” tırnak içinde, Alex ve Carolinah düğün töreni değildi çünkü. Ben törenine katıldı kimseyle konuşmadı, ne de ben herhangi bir belge gördün. Alex'in kelime meydana geldiğini kabul etmek zorunda. Alex, Carolinah, ve ben çok eşliCarolinah, hangi yasal Bir Müslüman olarak bana, tüm niyet ve amaçlar için.
Hiçbir şey ki ya söyleyebiliriz burada çok eşlilik de söyledi için Allah'tan mağfiret isteyin 411 o-cekti istemeden, veya herhangi bir şekilde yanıltmak diğerleri. çok eşlilik de Niyetim burada 411 bir yaşam biçimi ile başa çıkma başkalarına yardım etmek. (çok eşlilik) bu benim için iyi ve aynı zamanda buldum son derece zordur..
Seninle burada çok eşlilik de paylaşmak istiyorum 411 benim yolculuk ve cevap sorularınızın çoğuna, gibi dürüst ve mümkün olduğunca çabuk. Insha Allah, Eğer bazı duyguları paylaşacak, düşünceler, bana ve diğer deneyimleri, de.
Ben Allah onu yasal bir adam İslam birden fazla eşi olması için yapılan hatırlamak istiyorum. Bu yüzden, us çokeşlilik tutmak lütfen 411 çokeşlilik bir dayak blogu değildir. Allah'ın size helâl olan yasadışı yapmak istemiyorum. Bu benim mücadelenin bir parçası olmuştur, Hakikat ve benim kişisel arzuları ile ben savaş gibi.
çok eşlilik At 411, I don't, Yapamam, ve olmayacaktır çokeşlilik pratik nasıl kimseye söylemeyin, ne de ben sizin için doğru olup olmadığını bir öğüt vereceğim. Ben sadece ne var paylaşmak. deneyimli, kendim öğrendim, ve diğerleri öğrendim.
Tüm hamd Allah nedeni.
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Salaamu Alaikum gibi!
Hoş geldiniz Polygamy 411! Bizim ev Müslümanlar ve Müslüman olmayanlar için. Çok eşlilik hakkında konuşmak isteyen herkes için, ya da çok eşli bir evlilik ya da herkes bir girmeyi düşünen. Biz şirket olmak gibi. Rahatına ve yorum bırakarak tartışmaya katılmaya. Biz bir süre sonra tekrar ve sık sık burada görmeyi bekliyoruz.
seyahat 4 daha az!
March 2nd, 2009 üzerinde 8:41 PM
As salaamu Alaikum,
I have been married just shy of seven years. My husband married another woman, besides me, just a little over two years ago. I am finally beginning to be at peace with it, and actually feel very happy. That’s weird; I can smile now while writing about it instead of crying. It was a tough road and I felt like I wasn’t going to finish the journey.
We all have a tendency to place blame and rationalize why we don’t like something. The main reason we reject polygamy is because it goes against our personal desires. Tüm bunlardan sonra, who wants to share love, especially a husband – unless we’re just tired of him, therefore encourage him to take another wife. If that is the case, polygamy probably wasn’t our test; something else was.
Nasıl olsa, I’m blogging about polygamy, as I now feel I can be a whole lot more objective about it. I thank Allah SWT much for it, as He has allowed me to see my many faults, my shortcomings, and my weakness in my Faith. It has made me a better person. Insha Allah, it will help me get into Paradise.
Bu açık bir evdir. Gerek vurmak. Sadece gel.
March 3rd, 2009 üzerinde 11:55 AM
Salaamu Alaikum gibi,
I contemplated divorcing Alex so many times after he married Carolinah. Ancak, after giving it much thought, I said I was not going to give her the satisfaction of prevailing. I said I was going to win because, besides having the husband that Allah SWT has chosen for me, I would be victorious over Satan. Satan wants me to be ungrateful to Allah SWT.
Do we feel at times we would rather have no one than to share? Do we ask ourselves questions like, “Why should I have to share?” or do we say, “Not me, I’m not going to do that.” Do we sometimes become arrogant like Iblis, and let that attitude influence our feelings about polygamy?
September 9th, 2009 üzerinde 11:57 AM
As salaamu alaikum wa rahamtullah… my dearest sister in Islaam. I am seriously struggling with this very trial as I type. My husband is intended to a sister now and I feel like I’m losing it. It consumes me constantly. I barely eat to a point where I have lost almost 30lbs in a few short months. Everyone arounds me says I look sickly and like I have suffered a major loss. To be honest this is exactly how I feel. Financially our sitution is not very good. Emotionally our marriage is unstable. I don’t want to leave my husband either even though I asked him to choose between the two. I don’t want to drive him from me I just want him to see and understand what I’m feeling and going through. Help me please!!
September 9th, 2009 üzerinde 10:31 PM
Umm Mahmood, As Salaamu Alaikum wa rahamtuallah. I truly know the severe hurt and pain that you are suffering, as I have lived it myself. It is agonizing more than anyone can imagine without having gone through it. The significant weight loss in a few short months, and feeling constantly consumed by all that is happening to you, as your husband prepares to take another wife, if it pleases Allah SWT, are too well known to me. What you must understand is that what you are feeling is “normal”, are the usual feelings that many sisters have experienced that are in Islamic polygamous marriages. You could read many comments on the blog here and learn that you are not alone in your feelings. Perhaps many others will come forward as well so you could hear from them about their experiences.
You say you feel like you have suffered a major loss. From what I have read from other sources, and have learned here on the blog from many, what you’re feeling is real. If your husband takes another wife, you will leave behind something, whether it will be your husband all together or you will no longer have your husband all to yourself anymore. Either way, there will be a loss as you divorce or transition from monogamy to polygamy, leaving monogamy behind. I’ve heard it referred to by some that the change in your marriage is like a death of it, the marriage. I suppose that is why we grieve the way that we do. We go through the same stages in our transition from monogamy to polygamy as we do when we loose a loved one to death. We experience anger, sadness, denial, depression and much more, örneğin.
The important thing for you to do is try to hold on and be strong as best you can. Turn all your attention to Allah SWT and try to remember Him, as best you can. It is important that you try to stay focused (on Allah and your trial) now at a time when it is so terribly difficult to think of anything other than your crisis situation. The important thing for you to do, as much as you can, is try to take good care of you.
You said you want your husband to understand what you are feeling and going through. I don’t really know if he can. Again I ask the question how a husband can cause his wife so much hurt and pain by taking another wife and still say he loves her. But apparently it is possible. I wouldn’t expect to get many answers from him, if I were you. Your marriage is bound to continue to be unstable for a while, but you must put your faith and trust in Allah that with hardship comes ease and things will get better if you decide to stay.
You should take into consideration that your husband probably loves you just as much as he always has, and that taking another wife does not diminish his love for you. I don’t think it would be that easy for your husband to chose between you and his new intended, otherwise he would have divorced you, if the decision was that easy for him.
You must try not to blame yourself for your husband’s decision to take another wife, although it will be difficult not to. The blame part is a stage as well. You are not to blame for his decision. You must remember that. I still, 2 years and nine months later, play the blame game with myself, and have to squash it.
You’re going to be alright sister. We all are here for you!
Bu açık bir evdir. Gerek vurmak. Sadece gel.