When it comes to having a baby in a polygamous marriage, sometimes the spouses have different desires about it. Some of the wives may want more children when the husbands don’t. Some of the commentators here at polygamy 411 have spoken of it. What should the wife do when she wants more children and her husband doesn’t?
The best thing that a wife could do is take her husband out of the equation. Basically, I mean don’t see the husband, but see Allah. First thing to remember is that when you see Allah, you can have peace. Now, you may ask, how do you see Allah and not your husband? Well, you do it by finding out what Allah in the Holy Quran says about pregnancy, babies, and birth.
Having a baby in a polygamous marriage has all to do with Allah
It important to realize that Allah says that He decides who will bear children and who won’t. For instance, he decides who will be barren, as well. It means that how long the baby stays in the womb; which ones are premature; and which ones arrive later than usual are all decided by Allah. Furthermore, He decides what sex the baby will be. Ultimately Allah decides it all. He says so in the Holy Quran. Although I didn’t cite His exact words, I’m sure you get the gist of it.
Therefore, you need to find out why you blame your husband for not wanting more children. In fact, he’s only following his desires. On the other hand, you could ask why he’s finding fault in you because you desire more children. Likewise, you’re dealing with desires. One must remember that Allah Governs and Regulates all things. The husbands and the wives don’t. Allah lets us know this.
Many times having a baby in a polygamous marriage has a lot to do with desires
In fact, we all have desires. Some of them are good and some aren’t. Allah says those who let their desires lead them have a diseased heart. They follow their desires and don’t listen to Allah. When desires control a person, it’s bad. Furthermore, to not know the Truth about Allah and His All Mighty Power is bad.
At times, the spouses desires conflicts with each other and causes contention between them. Particularly, it causes the spouses to have ill feelings towards each other.
The husbands and wives are so busy thinking about what they desire and trying to figure out how to get their desires fulfilled to the point that they forget Allah. They’ve forgotten what Allah says about it all, which includes what we get; how we get it; and when and why we get it etc.
In short, having a baby in a polygamous marriage will only happen, if Allah decides it
All the bickering back and forth about it between the spouses won’t change what will or will not happen. It doesn’t change that Allah is in control. The spouses could voice how they feel and what they want and then see where Allah takes them about it. Evidently, there is no reason to get upset with each other. Allah is the One who will decide whether there will be a child or not.
I’ll end in saying that what passes us by was never for us, and what is for us will never pass us by. If Allah has decided that a woman will have a child, nothing can prevent it. If He has decided that a woman won’t bear a child, there is nothing that she can do that will make it happen.
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