A Major Benefit of Polygamy

A major benefit of polygamyA major benefit of polygamy is that it could help a wife grow nearer to Allah. Being in a polygamous marriage won’t do it in and of itself. We all know it’s not that simple. In no way is it a condition to enter Paradise.

Most wives who are in a marriage that is polygamous never thought they would be in one or never expected to have so much difficulty in it. Sharing a husband is far from easy. In fact, it is downright hard. Think about it for a moment. A monogamous marriage is trying. Now add another wife to the mix, and it’s doubly hard.

A major benefit of polygamy is that it has a way of turning a wife’s attention to Allah

In her time of need of help and aid, she may offer the five daily salat prayers as she should, when she may not have done it before. Prayer is a must for a Muslim/believer. A distressed and depressed wife is bound to call on her Lord Allah in prayer. He tells us the value of it. Therefore, we must cry to Him. After all, He is the only one who can help us.

A wife needs to read the Quran, as well. It’s because the Quran is our road map, so to speak. It tells us all that we need to know to have comfort and ease in this life and a chance to enter Jannah/Paradise on the Day of Judgement. However, a wife should not think she needs to read the Quran, as though reading it alone will produce magic. She needs to read it to learn it and to live it.

A major benefit of polygamy is that it could take us on a journey

When a wife reads the Quran to learn it and to live it, she can transcend time. Allah says to travel through the earth, and see what was the end of those who came before us. A wife can travel the earth without having to leave her home.

She only needs to read the stories in the Quran that tells us who people were, who they are, what they did, what they do and how their lives ended or will end. The stories are for us to learn and apply to our lives, so that we will have a good end.

Allah tells us when the best time to read the Quran is and the tone to read it in, as well. For all things there is a purpose.

A wife may have been slack in her duties and responsibilities as a Muslim, but now she can get it right before her time is up. This life is fleeting. It is temporary. It will be over in the twinkling of an eye. There is no time to take life for granted, as tomorrow on this planet is not promised to us.

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13 Comments

  • anabellah

    November 24, 2017

    Mari2,

    The way I learned to say the salat prayers in Arabic when I first became Muslim was like this: Back then cassette tapes were what we had. I had Al Fatiha and several of the shorter surahs (chapters) on cassettes, and I had the book to go with it. I’d listen to a sentence or just a few words at a time, and then I’d write down what it sounded like to me phonetically. I did that with each word. Then I just kept reading my words that I came up with based on the sounds, reciting the phonetics over and over again until I remembered the Surah’s. I don’t know if you’ve tried it that way already or not, but I found it easy that way. Within days I was reciting it without having to read my notes.

    When I offer the salat, after saying the Arabic part, I follow it up silently by saying the English. This way I’m always aware of what I’m saying, and I don’t forget. When my husband leads me in prayer, I simply say the English words to myself while he says the Arabic.

    Now, it’s easy just to get Al Fatiha prayer and Surah’s as videos online and you’d be able to pause and replay etc.

  • Mari2

    November 23, 2017

    I too enjoy hearing the Arabic recitation of the Quran. It’s one of the reasons I attend Taraweeh during Ramadan. It is very soothing. However my Arabic is terrible and if I try to pray in it myself, I find that I loose focus on the prayer itself because I am too concentrated on trying to pronounce the words correctly. I love to pray with M and let him do so in Arabic as I say the English version to myself.

  • anabellah

    November 22, 2017

    As Salaamu Alaikum,

    Just an important reminder to all that right before we begin to recite the Quran, seek refuge in Allah from Satan, as Allah, in the Quran, tells us to. I say three times, “I seek refuge in Allah from Satan the accursed” It’s one of the sayings I recite in Arabic. As I don’t have use of my computer now, it would be problematic for me to get the phonetic of the short saying and put it on the blog using my phone.

  • anabellah

    November 22, 2017

    Tasliyman,

    I agree that hearing the Quran recited in Arabic is most beautiful and soothing. I have several CDs of some of the Quran that I used to listen to regularly in my vehicle while I’m driving. Each ayah is recited in Arabic and then the person follows it up in English.

    Your story was funny, too- that it just so happen you commented to your husband on the beauty of the recitation when the ayat about divorce were being recited LOL๐Ÿ˜†

  • Tasliyman

    November 22, 2017

    Aslm,

    I agree that it is very important to read the Quran in a language that you understand but I must add that I absolutely love reading and listening to the Quran in arabic.

    It has such a soothing effect on me I just love it to bits even though I dont understand it without reading the English translation.

    In fact my husband and I were listening to a recitation once when I noticed he had an amused smile on his face. When I asked him why he smiled like that he translated the recitation and it was right at the part where divorce was mentioned. He found it amusing that I was so mesmerized by the recitation and had no idea what was actually being said.

  • Mari2

    November 21, 2017

    Saira,
    I agree that it’s important to read the Quran for understanding. I have read the Quran only in English version. And the first Quran I read was complete with footnotes, summaries, historical notes, etc. So it took me a long time to read this1000 plus page Quran version because I read a verse then went to the footnote or end note to better understand what I read. It was definitely enlightening, but it took time to read, digest and reflect upon.

    But raised as a Catholic with a firm understanding of the Old Testament, reading the Quran was familiar to me. The prophets and their stories, for the most part, remain unchanged and I found that the Quran delved a bit deeper into understanding. What I noted in my readings of both is that Isa (PBUH) and Muhammad (PBUH) both in the bible and Quran warn about the dangers of sectarianism. And yet…here we are as a human race, either Christian, Catholic, Jew or Muslim engaging in some form of cultural appropriation of the intent of God as if we could ever really know His mind.

    My husband can recite the Quran and prayers in Arabic. He cannot translate what he recites during salat. I pray in English with a smidge in Arabic as I am rather confident Allah understands me and I refuse to believe that Jannah is an “Arabic speaking only” destination. However, I understand what I pray, what I recite and what I read.

  • Saira

    November 20, 2017

    Wa alaykum Salam sister Ana
    I agree with you about reading entire Quran in whole ramandan
    It’s barkah to read how ever u want and more u read Allah give u more reward but Allah has told us in many part of Quran to read what is easy for us .
    I am born in Muslim family but after had hardship in life that when I struggle to underhand Islam
    As in our culture many things and storyies u hear which is far from Islam
    They mix culture and label it’s Islam and many young people like me in this culture struggle to know the real Islam
    Like we were told to read full Quran in Ramadan and we must do part of Islam and young kids having to do home work and in top of that reading Quran was not easy and we often use to lie that we read whole
    But when I got divorce I was in read depression and I say to my self and I began to question Islam
    Then I start reading books and listening to lectures and educate my self Alhamdulih now I have no question at all for my religion and I can help my kids in future to understand Islam batter

  • anabellah

    November 19, 2017

    Sister Saira, As Salaamu Alaikum,

    Alhumdulliah, the post was helpful. What you had written inspired me to write it. I’m reminding myself too. Each time I write a post/article I’m reminding myself, as well. We can never have enough reminders.

    Saira, in the early years of me being Muslim, it was always so much easier for me to pick up any and all Islamic books to read rather than the Quran. I don’t know if it was Satan whispering to me to read other books and not bother with the Quran or if I was being tested or what – I just dunno. Then when I would read it, I’d only be able to read a little. Maybe because the Quran is so powerful and my heart was far from pure. Again, I dunno. But I always had the desire and wanted to read it. It was a struggle. Eventually, it got much easier. Some how what you said reminded me of me.

    It’s important to know that just as with any and all things. We can only read the Quran and offer the salat prayers if Allah allows us to. Many don’t realize it. Our intentions and our desires to do good is so important. We need to pray to Allah to allow us to offer the salat prayers and read the Quran. We need to implore and beg Him for His help.

    Remember, as well, that the Quran was not all revealed in it’s entirety during the month of Ramadan. The book was revealed in something like a 23 or so year period. The first revelation came down to our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) during the Holy Month of Ramadan.

    Sis, just keep having your intention to read it regularly to get nearer to Allah and to obey Him in all that He commands of us. Sometimes we’ve got to take baby steps. Maybe start off just reading a few Ayat (verses) each day until it gets easier for you. In time, you’ll read more. Just don’t despair.

  • Saira

    November 19, 2017

    Alhamdulih what a nice post sister Ana
    I wAs reading it and just felt like as if you wrote it a reminder for me
    It’s miracle of Allah how he gets his message acros us
    It’s so heart touching when u wrote Quran is a map for our roads Alhamdulih u can’t explain any batter then that
    Some time lengthy talks won’t enter your heart and some time a tiny word do you good
    Alhamdulih , I been thinking from so many days that I will take time out and try to read Quran and make my habit again reading regular even just few pages
    But In sha Allah will do it
    I agree sister sareena we were tought to finish while Quran and didn’t know what we read in Arabic
    But Alhamdulih Allah gave me ability to think about that and understand Quran am still getting there but hope fully I will keep learning as we can never learn enough
    Alhamdulih what a great reminde JazakAllah khair sister ๐Ÿ˜˜

  • anabellah

    November 19, 2017

    Serena, Wa Alaikum As Salaam,

    I second all that you said about polygamy bringing a woman closer to Allah or further away from Him and closer to Shaytan. I didn’t touch on that in the post. You are definitely right. It’s something that is important to for us all to note.

    There were people who have come to this blog to lead people from the right path. They seemed to me to be agents of Shaytan. It’s why when some come here with that hate polygamy rhetoric or the same ole sorry excuses about why they think polygamy isn’t or shouldn’t be allowed, I don’t post it. It’s very rare that anyone comes here talking that non-sense anymore.

  • anabellah

    November 19, 2017

    Serena, Wa Alaikum As Salaam,

    I’m glad you shared about how a lot of Asians learn the Quran. I know of a couple of people (non-Asians) who were said to have memorized the Quran, and they didn’t have any idea of the meaning. I’d imagine it would be like trying to learn any foreign language. One is just preoccupied in learning to speak it and read it.

    It’s funny that you said you gifted your mum a Quran in Urdu. I was going to ask Saira, if she had one in Urdu. I used to shut people down when they came here to the blog telling people that they need to learn Arabic in order to understand the Quran. Those people were definitely misleading people from the straight path. Could you imagine the number of people who were interested in Islam and didn’t pursue it after hearing they have to learn Arabic? SMH

    It makes more sense that one would read it in the language they already know, so they could learn it, digest it and put it into practice. This life is soooo short. We need to learn how to live right before it’s too late. I don’t have time to learn a foreign language. If I did, it wouldn’t be Arabic for sure.

    As you stated, alhumdulliah that the Quran has been translated in many languages. Allah says if He wanted us all to be the same, He would have created us that way.

    When I first became Muslim, I was told that a Muslim must read the entire Quran during Ramadan. The copies of the Quran that I had back then were divided into 30 day sections to be read during Ramadan. I always knew something was wrong with that supposed requirement. I found myself just trying to complete the reading before the next day, turning pages to see how many more I had left to read that day. It was so frustrating. Then I’d feel badly if I wasn’t able to complete it. I stopped doing that when I read an ayah (verse) in the Quran, and it sunk into my brain that Allah says to read as much of the Quran as is easy for us. He says not to make haste with reading it. We’re to read it outloud in a slow, rhythmic tone.

    I pretty much stop listening to just any ole thing someone tells me. Basically, I tell people to talk to the hand, if they start popping off at the mouth to me about needing to learn the Quran in Arabic. From nearly day one of becoming Muslim I’ve said all my Salat (5 daily prayers) in Arabic and recite five short surahs in Arabic during salat; I know the greeting and simply sayings and it’s about all I need to know about speaking Arabic.

    I read the Quran in English over and over again from start to finish and it’s good enough for me.

    Allah teaches us. Allah is the only one who gives us understanding. Every time I read the Quran, it’s like I’m reading it for the very first time, as I’m constantly learning.

    Just like you, I am amazed with the content. I get excited just by writing here about it. Serena, I’m so glad you spoke on it. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Serena

    November 19, 2017

    Ana

    A lot of Asians learn the quran as kids and their is pressure on them to finish the whole quran in Arabic. They are not taught the meaning. Also emphasis is on learning the quran off by heart in Arabic yet not understanding it.

    I know it’s changing slowly but there is a long way to go. We really need to understand what we read in order to put it into practice. I used to be like that. Wanting to finish the whole quran especially in Ramadan. Alhumdulillah the quran has been translated into many languages.

    I remember some years ago I gifted my mum an Urdu translation. She was happy that she could understand what she was reading and would often tell us what she read and understood.

    I remember the first time I read the whole Quran’s meaning. It was such an amazing feeling. I wanted to finish it all in a few days. Just imagine you have been reading a book you never understood and when you understand you are amazed with it’s content.

  • Serena

    November 19, 2017

    Asalaam alaikum

    The woman have two choices either get closer to Allah or get closer to shaytan. When a woman is in polygamy she should try to talk to her righteous friends and family who should encourage her to turn to Allah.

    Depending on who she talks to it will either have a positive or negative effect. Some people out there will do the job of shaytan and encourage the woman to have horrible thoughts and lead her away from the right path.

    Polygamy is a real wake up call. It’s like when some people are tested with illness or a death of a loved one it makes them turn to Allah. Same for polygamy take it as a test and get closer to Allah.

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