Allah allows men four wives in polygamy at one time. Some people dispute about it. There are some Muslims who complicate it, although it is quite simple. They make it difficult only because they don’t like polygamy. In particular, they don’t like the concept of it. They try to find any reason to prove that it is not lawful.
Many Muslims who are against polygamy go to one specific ayah (verse) in the Holy Quran to say Islam discourages those marriages. The ayah says that if a man cannot be just then he should marry one woman only. Justice as it relates to the ayah is about justice to the orphans. It’s about children and not justice to wives. The care of the children and dealing justly with them is what it’s about. However, many people misunderstand it.
Allah allows men four wives in polygamy, if the men can deal justly with the children
First of all, Allah tells us to deal with all people justly and with kindness. In fact, He speaks many times in the Holy Quran of how important it is that we are “just” in all matters. Moreover, being just is next to piety. Allah loves those who are just.
Allah lets us know that orphans are very special people. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) was an orphan. Thus, just dealings with them is huge.
One needs only to read the other verses in the chapter of the Holy Quran along with the one we’re speaking of to know that Allah is referring to the children. He speaks of how we are to conduct our affairs with them.
When men marry women who have children and those men aren’t the father of those children, those children are sometimes subject to abuse. There are some men who do not take a liking to children who are not their own.
Sometimes, if the men have their own children, they lean towards their own and, neglect, abuse, or ignore the children who aren’t theirs. I’m sure all have heard of children whose stepfathers abused them. Furthermore, they’ve heard of foster parents who abused foster children.
Although Allah allows men four wives in polygamy, if they don’t like other men’s children, they should marry only one woman
Basically, he should marry the woman who has no children or has children by him only. He may not know how he will be with the women before marriage. However, he knows whether he likes children that are not his own. A man clearly knows if he likes children or not.
He doesn’t have to live with the children to know if he does or doesn’t like them. Before the man marries the woman who has children, he needs to judge if he could deal justly with those children. If he feels and thinks he cannot, it would be better for him to only marry one woman who has no children or a woman who has only children by him.
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