Finances and Polygamy

When a woman thinks about marrying a man who has a wife already, she should take a good look at her finances and polygamy before the marriage. It is so that she will know how much she will need from her potential spouse. She will need to negotiate financially with him. She should have a…

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How to Tell Children about Polygamy

Many parents wonder how to tell children about polygamy when the child’s father becomes polygamous. “Flower” who is a commentator here at polygamy 411 wrote a reply that is an excellent sample of how a parent can simplify the process. She related the following: “I just wanted to touch on your issue with how to…

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How to Feel Better about Polygamy

Most wives want to know how to feel better about polygamy when their marriages are polygamous. First, they need to give Allah all of their attention. A wife can’t do it if she focuses on her husband and his other wife. Not surprisingly, many don’t know what it means. They think that they must distance…

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Pay No Attention to Others

The best way to adapt to a polygamous lifestyle is to pay no attention to others. Don’t care what they say or think about you. After all, what does it matter what they say or think about you? You can’t get everyone to like you. Generally, people like those who are like them. They think…

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Do Polygamous Men Abuse Their Wives

Often we hear that polygamous men abuse their wives and are unjust to them. Do Polygamous men abuse their wives? First, you tell me; do monogamous men abuse their wives? The answer to both questions is, yes. Some do. There are all kinds of men, and they are in all types of marriages and relationships.…

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Polygamy and the Damsel in Distress

I have a problem with the polygamy and the damsel in distress or what some call the “woman in need” theory. Usually, someone uses those phrases when she speaks about a woman who married her husband in the order of 2nd, 3rd or 4th. Many have embraced the idea that polygamy is for a certain…

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Pakistani Culture and Polygamy

The former US First Lady Michelle Obama sent me a form generated email the other day, and it caused me to think about Pakistani culture and polygamy. It wished Malala Yousafzai a happy birthday. Perhaps you remember that Malala was the young Pakistani girl who the Taliban shot in the head in Pakistan some years…

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A Wife Who Has A Diseased Heart

Every so often, I speak about a wife who has a diseased heart, not a particular wife, but any wife. Let me explain what I mean by it with regard to a wife who is in a polygamous marriage. Particularly, I base it on what Allah says in the Holy Quran. He says anyone who…

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5 Important Things About Pakistani Men

Meena, a commentator at Polygamy 411, shared with us 5 important things about Pakistani men. She based it on the true story of her involvement with one. He was her boyfriend. Her story is as follows: I have been dating a Pakistani man for almost a year and half now. It’s been an interesting journey…

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Do Muslims Idealize Polygamy

Do Muslims idealize polygamy? Meaning, do the men want to become polygamous because the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) was? On this blog, a commentator said men want to be like the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). I wouldn’t say that Muslims use Allah’s Prophet, his wives,and the Quran to glorify polygamy as the writer suggested. Although some men…

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