A writer here at polygamy 411 asked how a woman can control ugly jealousy in a polygamous marriage that she feels from time to time. Jealousy is an emotion that all women feel at one time or another when she is in a polygamous marriage. Some feel it often. Certainly, we all know of it. It is when someone feels discomfort in the heart upon knowing another is given love or affection.
Jealousy doesn’t feel good. No one knows how ugly it is better than one who sees or hears it in another. It could make one who sees it cringe. Jealousy hurts the person who feels it and damages her soul.
The only way to control ugly jealousy in a polygamous marriage, which is a low emotion, is to turn to Allah for help. First thing to remember is that Allah, Great and Glorious is He, controls the heart. Another key point is that Allah heals. Only He can make someone feel better. Jealousy is a sign of a disease in the heart.
Allah is the only One who can help a person control ugly jealousy in a polygamous marriage. He can lessen the negative emotion to a point that she can manage it. One needs to notice the emotion when it surfaces, and then shut it down.
To control ugly jealousy in a polygamous marriage, some women think all they have to do is ask Allah for help. It is then a done deal
A woman who feels the base emotion of jealousy needs to know how important it is to worship Allah, so He could help her. She has to make sure she is giving Allah full-time worship. Allah tells us in the Holy Quran not to give Him part-time worship. To ask Allah for help is a must to get rid of jealousy or tame it.
Jealousy comes about all to often in a woman who is in a polygamous marriage. To control ugly jealously in polygamy, the woman must to do her part, if she wants Allah’s help. Has she carried out her duty to Allah? It is not good enough to turn to Him only when she is in a jam. She needs to turn to him not only when she needs help. She must worship Him all the time.
A woman needs to recognize what she feels. If it doesn’t feel good, it isn’t good. Although, all things that feel good isn’t always good. One thing we definitely know is that jealousy is not nice. The first thing many Muslim women say is that the Prophet Muhammad’s (PBUH) wife Aishah was jealous. Although she may have been, it’s not an excuse that we should use.
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