There are crazy acting co wives in polygamy. It’s known that some wives will act inappropriately when they first find themselves in a polygamous marriage. The wives do not understand the marriage, nor do they understand why they act the way that they do.
Are the crazy acting co wives in polygamy really crazy or is it only an act? Most crazy acting co wives in polygamy are not, in fact, crazy to the point that they have psychological problems. Let’s look more closely at the topic. Why do they behave as they do?
Crazy acting co wives in polygamy are those who married their husbands in the order of 1st, 2nd, 3rd or 4th
Generally, it doesn’t matter what order they married in. It is not uncommon for wives in polygamous marriages to become crazy acting co wives in polygamy at some time or another. Over the years, there has been much talk here at polygamy 411 about how wives behave.
There was a writer here, for a couple of years or more, who had married her husband in the order of fourth wife. She shared a lot with us, which was very helpful. She spoke of the experiences that she had with not only one or two of her co-wives but with three of them.
There was a second wife who was here with us who was very helpful, as well. What the two said brought some of us down to earth. It gave us a reality check. A wife who married third was here at polygamy 411, with us today, and what she wrote moved me to write this post.
Why do some women marry married men only to join the group of crazy acting co wives in polygamy?
On the older version of polygamy 411, I wrote a post on why a newcomer to a polygamous marriage falls in with the class of crazy acting co wives in polygamy. Many times when a wife joins an existing family she has not yet become emotionally invested in her husband.
In being with her husband over time, which includes intimacy, she begins to love him. Along with the love she feels for him, she begins to become possessive of him. Jealousy, envy, selfishness and rancor etc set in. She feels what any and all wives feel when in a monogamous or polygamous marriage, and her husband is with another woman whom she suspects he has feelings for.
Instead of calling co-wives who acts crazy, crazy, it would be best to speak of her behavior as being crazy
We need to understand that wives in polygamous marriages are not all that different from any woman on the planet. When she feels another woman has invaded her territory she will react. When a woman loves a man and she thinks he loves someone else, she will react.
What separates one woman from another is her belief or lack of belief in Allah who is God. No wife likes to share a husband. It doesn’t matter if some people think she signed up for it or not. Wives have to learn to subdue their base, low emotions. They need to get their emotions under control with the help and Permission of Allah.
Husbands should help crazy acting co wives in polygamy adjust to the new lifestyle
Husbands should help crazy acting co wives in polygamy get their act together. It helps when the wife has a husband or someone in her life who is knowledgeable about what she is going through. Consequently, he or she could help her get through it.
Notably, men should support and protect women (not only wives), but they are not doing a good job. They don’t know how to stand up and be the head of the household, nor do they don’t know how to get their wives in check. The husbands don’t know what’s written in the Holy Quran that is at their fingertips to help them manage their marriages.
In conclusion, going forward, let’s make our intention to not call wives crazy. No woman wants to take on the look of a crazy acting co wives in polygamy. At least, I hope not. There is a difference between acting crazy and actually being crazy. I don’t think anyone wants to do crazy. It’s not a good look.
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