There is danger in polygamous marriages, although there is much good in it. The good is certain to outweigh the bad. When a polygamous marriage seems as though it is bad, the husband, wife or both is the cause of it. It’s important for spouses to know that they may meet with dangerous conditions in a polygamous marriage.
For instance, there is danger in polygamous marriages, if the wives commit shirk. Shirk is to give Allah a partner or to make someone or something equal to Him. It is a heinous and unforgivable sin. The person must repent and make amends for it before her or his death and pray that Allah will forgive her or him. An example of shirk is when a wife loves her husband more than she loves Allah.
There is danger in polygamous marriages when a wife gives her husband too much attention
Wives in polygamous marriages sometimes find a need to compete with one another for their husbands’ love. In vying for someone’s attention other than Allah’s, the focus is in the wrong place. Nevertheless, many wives center their attention on their husbands when they should make Allah their center of attention.
There is no benefit for a wife to try to win her husband’s love. The wife could chase her husband and become a slave to him, but it’s all a waste of time. It’s useless, because Allah has already decided how much the husband will love each of his wives. Allah controls the heart, not man.
A wife receives benefits from Allah when she focuses on Him. A husband can only bring benefit to a wife, if Allah wills it. Many women think that they must go through their husband to enter Paradise (Jannah). However, they are wrong. Some men want women to think in this wrong way, so that women can become their slaves.
Of course a wife should obey her husband, if he serves and worships Allah. At the same time, Allah tells us not to obey anyone who does not remember Him. We should worship Allah the way that He commands us to in the Holy Quran.
There is danger in polygamous marriages when the husband has a believing Muslim wife and has a non-Muslim wife, as well
Allah tells us who we should and should not marry. People are wrong who say Muslim men may marry “People of the Book”. Here is a link to a post about “People of the Book” Muslim Men Marry Women Who Are Not Muslim
Allah tells Muslims not to marry non-Muslims, as non-Muslims will lead them astray from the path of Allah. It’s a fact that it will happen. A husband’s unbelieving wife will lead him astray. We defy Allah when we do what He tells us not to do. We suffer for it.
Allah says that among some of our wives and our children are our enemies. The wives and children are not enemies in that they set out to harm us as in kill us. Rather, they are enemies in that they lead us astray from the straight path. Particularly, they disobey Allah and follow lusts. A believing woman in a polygamous marriage has to always be on her game. She must keep her focus on Allah, so she won’t go astray. One must beware that there is danger in polygamous marriages.
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