Did the Muslim wife hurt her sister-in-faith by marrying the sister’s husband? All too often the woman blames the other woman for the hurt that she feels when he married the other. She says the other shouldn’t have done it, and no woman should do it. Basically, those women say it to make the other wives feel guilty. They try to shame a woman into not marrying a man who is already married, as well.
As Allah allows polygamy for men, it means some women will marry married men. It’s the only way that polygamy can exist. Therefore, it’s perfectly okay for women to marry men who ask them to. It doesn’t matter if the man is already married or not. There is nothing in Islam that suggests that a woman should not marry a man so that she could spare her Sister-in-faith any ill feelings. She didn’t wrong her sister-in-faith, nor violated any misconceived notion of a right that the other thinks she has.
Did the Muslim wife hurt her sister-in-faith as a result of marrying the sister’s husband?
Why does she feel hurt in the first place? The other woman equally wants a marriage the same as she has. Generally, most women want a good husband. After all, sharing is good. Besides, Allah rewards us for giving and sharing. Therefore, shouldn’t she want her sister-in-faith to have her husband too?
She should want her sister-in-faith to have an intimate companion to share love with and bear children with. She should want her sister-in-faith to have an honorable way of living and not be alone. It’s a beautiful thing to live the way the “Mothers of the Believers” (the wives of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)) lived.
The above is what it means to want for one’s sister-in-faith what she wants for herself. To twist it around and say that a woman shouldn’t want to hurt another one that way is utter non-sense. It is straight up hogwash and bull crap. Women twists the words to suit their own desire. They make things up that amount to falsehood.
Did the Muslim wife hurt her sister-in-faith? There is no need for a woman to ask that question
The woman thinks the other encroached on her rights, but it didn’t happen. Actually, the woman is in pain due to her diseased heart. In the Holy Quran, Allah speaks of the diseased heart, which is an ugly heart. We’ve spoken of a diseased heart many times before here.
Lowly emotions such as: hate, bitterness, jealousy, envy, pride, selfishness, arrogance and more are in most people’s hearts. Those negative emotions invaded the heart and heart becomes dark.
The woman needs to stop looking at others and start looking within herself. After all, the other woman did only what Allah allowed. He not only allowed it, but decreed that it would happen.
Did the Muslim wife hurt her sister-in-faith? She did not. The accuser needs to own her own pain
A woman who married her husband first needs to know that the newcomer doesn’t have to sacrifice for her. She does not have to go without a husband so that the other doesn’t feel pain. No one is responsible for what is in another person’s heart. A first wife doesn’t have any special right to a pain-free marriage, either.
The woman who married the other one’s husband isn’t a wrongdoer. No where in Islam does it state that a man can only become polygamous if his first wife doesn’t feel any pain in her heart. So, where is that philosophy coming from?
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