Do Piety and Polygamy Go Together

do piety and polygamy go togetherDo piety and polygamy go together? A woman who is in a polygamous marriage is not necessarily more pious than a woman who is not. I can say it with certainty. The type of marriage that one is in doesn’t make one pious in and of itself. There is nothing in the Holy Quran that says a woman in a polygamous marriage is better than one who is not.

I can see how being in a polygamous marriage may help a woman on her journey to Paradise. For one thing, I say this because a woman in a polygamous marriage may have to conquer base, lowly emotions that she is sure to have to some degree or another. For instance, jealousy, envy, rancor, selfishness or hatred are some of them that she may have to learn how to deal with. Such negative feelings are sure to rear their ugly heads in her. She will need to learn how to subdue those emotions. That’s if she wants to survive in a polygamous marriage. She will need to face those feelings head on, if she wants to have a successful union.

Do piety and polygamy go together? How do they relate to each other?

Women who are in polygamous marriages have a lot to learn. For one thing, they must learn to share. Of course the husbands will be with their other wives at times. When their husband are gone, they will need to take charge of themselves and their children. It’s about fending for self.

Not only do women who are in polygamous marriages have to step up when they are alone. There are single women without husbands who have to do it, as well. Some women in monogamous marriages may have to rise to the occasion when their husbands are away. They could be away on business trips or in the military and deployed etc. Needless to say, women have a lot in common in respect of having to fend for themselves sometimes.

The important thing we all should learn is to put Allah first. Wives must not make their husbands their priority in life. First, the wife has to turn to Allah for His help in making Him number one in her life.

She needs to get her soul purified, which I cannot stress enough. It’s because no one can enter Paradise with an impure heart. The base emotions that I mentioned above could keep a woman from growing nearer to Allah. For one thing, wives competing with each other for their husband’s love and affection could get in the way of their progress. It could get in the way of them drawing nearer to Allah in His attributes.

In answer to: Do piety and polygamy go together? The answer is: Not necessarily

Allah says the most honorable person is the one who is most righteous. The most righteous could be married, divorced, widowed, or never was in a marriage. Allah knows best who the most righteous of us is.

In conclusion, it’s not the type of marriage that a woman is in that makes her pious. However, a polygamous marriage could be a good start in helping to purify her heart. It is all about turning to Allah and putting Him first.

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  • anabellah

    August 17, 2016

    Marah S,

    Thank you! Your comment/post inspired me to write this post theme. What you said was very important. It needed a post/thread by itself, for those surfing the net. We need to remind one another because this is the type of stuff that we overlook or tend to forget 🙂

  • Marah S

    August 17, 2016

    I love this post, and how honest you are. It’s so important to get this message across. A lot of people have this misconception.

  • Karima

    August 17, 2016

    Salam sis Ana

    great post thank you for being here for us! May Allah bless you and all the sisters here?

  • anabellah

    August 16, 2016

    Oooops, I had to make a correction. In the forth paragraph I had the word “polygamous” where it should have been “monogamous”. Sorry about that.