It seems many Muslim women claim an entitlement to wealth in a polygamous marriage. They think that they could do whatever they want to do with the money that they have. From where did they get that idea?
Some women here at polygamy 411 have urged women to keep all the money that they have or to spend it mainly on themselves. It goes against what Allah tells us in the Holy Quran. They may not intend to encourage others to hoard. They do so without knowing it.
Don’t get me wrong. I am not saying that a woman should not have her own money. Nor am I saying that she should not have a say in what she does with it. However, it seems women think that they don’t have to do what Allah says in the Holy Quran about spending.
Everyone should spend his or her wealth the way that Allah tells us to in the Holy Quran. Allah tells us on whom to spend our wealth. Furthermore, He tells us how much to spend. Allah makes it all clear for us.
Does this entitlement to wealth in a polygamous marriage coincide with what is in the Holy Quran?
There are many ayat (verses) in the Holy Quran that address money, wealth, and spending. They apply to both men and women.
It’s important to realize that in surah (chapter) 4, ayat 36 – 38, Allah tells us who He does not love. He does not love the “niggardly” or those who enjoin “niggardliness” on others. Just because man is the maintainer and protector of women, does not excuse women from spending as Allah instructs us to.
In Surah 4, ayah (verse) 4, Allah says, “And give the women (on marriage) their dower as a free gift; but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, Take it and enjoy it with right good cheer.”
It says to me that it’s okay for a wife to give to her husband and help him the same as she helps anyone else. Her husband could take it and enjoy it. No one should tell a woman that she should keep all her money and not share it with her husband.
When it comes to a woman and an entitlement to wealth in a polygamous marriage, she should check herself
Does she keep all her money in hope that it would prevent her husband from marrying another woman? Does she try to keep it all to herself? Hence, in doing so, her husband must spend more on her. He would have less for another wife. What does it do for her soul, and what does it say about the kind of person that she is?
We Muslims are one brotherhood. We should take care of one another. It’s not about a women only getting her wealth to try to secure her future. When she spends the way Allah tells us to, she will gain rewards in this world. More importantly, it could go towards her good deeds to help her enter Jannah/Paradise.
A wife should contemplate what entitlement to wealth in a polygamous marriage means
Allah says, “But seek, with the (wealth) which Allah has bestowed on thee, the Home of the Hereafter, nor forget thy portion in this world: but do thou good, as Allah has been good to thee, and seek not (occasions for) mischief in the land: for Allah loves not those who do mischief.” Quran: Surah 28, Ayah 77.
We should spend what Allah has given us to please Him. It’s to strengthen our souls, as well. Trying to stop her husband from marrying more women is not what a woman should set out to do. A wife shouldn’t keep her wealth to cause problems for her husband in hope that he won’t marry another. She’s wrong, if she tries to make life difficult for him.
A wife shouldn’t hoard her wealth for fear of poverty, either. Fear of poverty is a sign that one does not believe in what Allah says. It’s a sure sign that she lacks faith. Allah says fear nothing and no one but Him.
A wife who thinks only about her right to her husband’s wealth and wants to keep her own, misses the big picture. She doesn’t know what this life is all about. Therefore, she gets in her own way. She gets in the way of having the good in this world. Most importantly, she gets in the way of her chance to enter Jannah/Paradise. In conclusion, we should use wealth the way that Allah tells us to.
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