A writer asked how she could have success in a polygamous marriage. To do so one must know the meaning of life. One must know that Allah created us to serve and to worship Him and Him alone. We should do every act to please Allah. He tells us to serve Him with exclusive and sincere devotion.
There aren’t many who know what the meaning of life is. Allah says those who will be foremost in faith and foremost in the Hereafter from later times (our times) will be few. It lets us know that not many will obey Allah and His commands.
Many give all kinds of reasons why they became polygamous or want to. For instance, a man may say he wants to do it, so that he could follow the way of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). Others say they simply want to take care of women. Many men may use those reasons in hope that no one would question them more about it. After all, one would think that those are admirable reasons. However, they are not good enough.
A man should want to marry women, so he could worship Allah with them as a family. For instance, wouldn’t it be nice if they could offer Salat (five daily prayers) and fast the Holy Month of Ramadan together? They should have one goal in mind, which is to enter Jannah (Paradise).
How did the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) have success in a polygamous marriage?
He was all about serving, worshiping and obeying Allah. To help him do it, he married women from various tribes to bring them to Islam. He taught the worship of the One and only God (Allah). His mission was to spread Islam.
He didn’t marry his wives to fulfill any desire other than to seek the good pleasure of Allah. Unlike the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), for most Muslims marriage is all about fulfilling their desires.
The desire for sex or variety or ego stroking or immigration or wealth or a desire for a beautiful wife or to obey a command of a parent(s) are not most important to have success in a polygamous marriage. Those things shouldn’t define marriage.
Will marrying another to get refreshed help a man have success in a polygamous marriage?
A male writer here at Polygamy 411 said polygamy refreshed him. Polygamy may make some men feel alive again. For instance, some men may want a spark to give them a jump-start or get their engine going, so to speak. Hence, they become polygamous.
Another writer asked if to feel refreshed was a shallow reason to marry again. If wanting to worship Allah is not the reason to marry, it is not good. The person misses the point. The spouses will have serious problems in their marriage, if they don’t live to serve and worship Allah.
The husband may get a jump-start, but what happens after that? What’s to stop it from going downhill? To become refreshed and to stay that way in a marriage and in life in general, one must focus on Allah.
To have success in a polygamous marriage, one must make the worship of Allah most important
One must know and understand our religion. It’s done by reading the Quran to learn it and to live it. Muslims should ask Allah to teach them and to give them understanding.
It’s important to know that Allah did not create this life for sport and play. We are not on this planet for fun and games.
Muslims need to have a single purpose. That purpose is to worship Allah. One such way to do it is to view marriage as an act of worship.
Ask yourself what to have success in a polygamous marriage means to you?
If you do not know clearly what you need to do to have success in a polygamous marriage, you will have problems in the marriage. If you are not clear on why Allah created you, you will have much trouble in life.
Surely, a believer who places all his or her attention on Allah would have a good marriage. Don’t forget to ask Allah to help and to guide you.
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