Sometimes a wife asks how she can make her polygamous husband happy. A wife may think that she must make her husband happy for him to continue to love her. She wants to please him especially if she wants him to love her more than he loves his other wife.
It’s important for the wife to realize that if she tries to make her husband happy, she will continue to have problems in her life. As a matter of fact, they will be major problems.
It’s not the husband who the wife should try to make happy. She should make it her goal to do the things that will make Allah pleased with her. After all, life is about Allah. It’s not about a husband and a wife. The spouses’ happiness isn’t what is most important in life.
It could be why Allah has placed the wife in the polygamous marriage, because her priorities were wrong. Allah may want good for the wife, and as a trial placed her in the marriage. It could be so that she will turn to Him and do the right thing by Him. To do the right thing is to worship Him. It goes without saying that only He can fix things for her and her husband.
How she can make her polygamous husband happy is more about pleasing Allah
If she turns to her husband and begins to kiss his butt, so to speak, sucking up to him and trying to please him, she may find that it disgusts him. Allah want us to turn to Him, not to a spouse. If we turn to Allah’s creation instead of to Him, He turns His creation away from us. Thus she gets the exact opposite of what she wanted.
A wife shouldn’t become a subservient slave to her husband in trying to please him to win his love. It will hurt her. When she turns to Allah to serve Him properly, she becomes a good person and does good things. She does good deeds. Particularly, she will be a good wife to her husband (if Allah finds that her husband deserves good treatment).
In conclusion, it’s important to note that everything lies in the opposite. If she turns to Allah, He may turn her husband towards her. If she turns to her husband, Allah may turn her husband against her. She can’t make herself happy let alone make her husband happy. Allah can.
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