There are polygamous husbands who promise not to have sex with some of their wives. It usually happens when one wife tells the husband not to have sex with his other wife. Sometimes a woman will make it a condition that the man must abide by for her to accept being his second wife. Surprisingly, he agrees to the condition or he lies about it. For instance, he may say he won’t have sex with his other wife; however, once he marries the second one, he does.
I know that when a woman first finds herself in a polygamous marriage, the thought of her husband being intimate with his other wife is very painful for her. In fact, it causes her an extreme amount of heartache. It’s a severe pain that seems as though it will never end. However, I know, that in time, if a woman focuses on Allah and knows what our purpose in life is, her pain will go away completely.
We all need to know that our purpose in life is to serve and to worship Allah. When a wife knows it and does it, her husband being intimate with his other wife will no longer faze her. She won’t care about his other marriage. Rather, she would have peace, contentment and joy in her life. She would go about her life carefree. She would have no time to devote to trivial things.
Polygamous husbands who promise not to have sex with one of his wives at the request of another, hurts all parties involved
Polygamy is about a husband having more than one wife. It’s not about one wife replacing another. Nor is it about the husband having to dismiss the other wife or treat her badly.
A wife who asks her husband not to have sex with his other wife really needs to deal with this serious issue. The problem is the need for her husband to tell her that he has sex with only her. A wife shouldn’t need her husband to deny that he’s intimate with his other wife to make her happy.
Spouses having sex with each other is a natural, healthy part of a marriage. A wife is so wrong to encourage her husband to not have sex with his other wife. Why would she think that he shouldn’t have sex with his wife? The one who asks it hurts herself and can have no religious growth in her life when she thinks that way.
Polygamous husbands who promise not to have sex with his wife when his other wife asks him not to, causes an injustice
We’re supposed to want for our brothers and sisters-in-faith what we want for ourselves. If her husband were to tell his other wife that he doesn’t have sex with her, how would she like it? She needs to think about how she would feel if her husband wasn’t having sex with her. Particularly if he had made a promise to his other wife about it.
I know how I’d feel, if my husband made such a promise. It’s wrong. No wife who calls herself a Muslim should ask such a thing of her spouse. It would be best for her to have him not keep the promise. She has no right to tell that man not to have sex with his other wife. If she thinks any good will come to her with the mentality that she has, she better think again. After all, we should practice fairness and what is just.
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