On this blog, we have heard that intimacy issues visit polygamy sometimes. Some wives say they want their husband to have more intimacy with them. They think he is too tired for it or maybe he has more of it with his other wife than with her. She may think he is not attracted to her any longer.
When intimacy issues visit polygamy in that the husband is not attentive to his wife, the wife looks for answers. She asks why it is and what she should do. I must say, there is more to think about than counseling or dressing sexy to seduce him or trying new positions etc. A wife needs to know what Allah tells us in the Holy Quran. He says we will not enter Paradise without making sacrifices like those who came before us. The Prophets of Allah and those who followed them made sacrifices solely so they could enter Paradise.
When intimacy issues visit polygamy, wives must ask themselves if it is a means to grow nearer to Allah
Allah tries us by way of our desires. If something happens that isn’t very important to us, it would not be a test, would it? We get tested with what means most to us. It desires that mean the most to us. For many women a marriage is most important to her. When a wife has a husband who does not satisfy her sexual desires, it could very well be a test that Allah has given her. Allah says He tests us with one another. A wife could very well be tested by Allah by way of her husband when intimacy issues visit polygamy.
Life isn’t always the way we want it. We don’t control our lives. If a wife thinks she has control, one day she will get a wake-up call. She will find out that she does not control anything. Allah tells us in the Holy Quran that we can bring no good or harm to ourselves or others unless He wills it. What happens between a husband and a wife happens because Allah willed it. Allah wills all things.
When intimacy issues visit polygamy, how do the wife get through it?
A wife needs to sacrifice some of her desires if her goal is to enter Paradise. If she opposes Allah with her desires, according to Allah, she is one who rejects faith. Her faith decreases. If she accepts what Allah has decided for her, she increases in faith. Allah will change her condition. She will get relief, comfort, ease, and peace in her life.
If a husband isn’t intimate with his wife the way she wants it from him, it’s because Allah decreed it. Maybe the husband simply isn’t able to. When intimacy issues visit polygamy, Allah decreed it. Exercise patience, and Allah will improve your condition. Allah loves the patient ones.
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