Is Polygamy a Test for Muslim Women

Is polygamy a test for Muslim women

Is polygamy a test for Muslim women? And if so, is the test painful? Should we expect to have pain when Allah tests or tries us? It’s common to hear someone tell another that what he or she is going through is a test.

Before we can answer the above questions, we need to have an idea of what a test for a Muslim in a polygamous marriage may look like. One then must ask herself, how she could pass the test?

In the Holy Quran, Allah tells us that we cannot enter Paradise/Jannah without being tested like those who came before us. Those who came before us were Allah’s Prophets/Messengers and the Believers. Let’s take a closer look at tests.

Allah tests us. They come from none other than Him. We do not select our tests. Choosing a test is not an option that we have. Many times, they come to us unexpectedly.

Is polygamy a test for Muslim women is an important question to answer

I will share with you a little of a story from the Holy Quran about Prophet Moses (PBUH) and his people. You will see how Allah tested them.

There came a time when Pharaoh’s people killed the male children of Moses’ people, and kept their women alive. It was a trial from Allah. How do we know it was a trial, and that it was from Allah? We know it, as Allah said it was. Allah said:

“And remember We rescued you from Pharaoh’s people, who afflicted you with the worst of penalties, who slew your male children and saved alive your females: in that was a momentous trial from your Lord.” Quran: Surah 7, ayah 141

Imagine a trial such as it. What did Prophet Moses (PBUH) instruct his people to do when it happened? He advised them to wait in patience and constancy.

Allah tells us, in the Holy Quran, to seek His help with patience, perseverance and prayer. He says it is hard except for those who bring a lowly spirit.

To bring a lowly spirit means to humble oneself to Allah.It means not to oppose Him with our desires. It’s what Prophet Moses (PBUH) instructed his people to do. Some people don’t like when others tell them to be patience, but being patient is what we need to do.

When you consider, is polygamy a test for Muslim women, remember the stories in the Quran

“Said Moses to his people: ‘Pray for help from Allah,” and (wait) in patience and constancy: for the earth is Allah’s to give as a heritage to such of His servants as He pleaseth; and the end is (best) for the righteous.” Quran: Surah 7, Ayah 128

Nonetheless, the people of Prophet Moses’ (PBUH) were not pleased with him, and they let him know it. Prophet Moses (PBUH), in turn, said, Allah tries us by our deeds.

“They said to Prophet Moses (PBUH): ‘We have had (nothing but) trouble, both before and after thou camest to us.’  He said: ‘It may be that your Lord will destroy your enemy and make you inheritors in the earth; that so He may try you by your deeds.”  Quran:  Surah 7, Ayah 129

Next, Allah drowned Pharaoh’s people in the sea and Prophet Moses’ (PBUH) people inherited the land.

“And We made a people considered weak (and of no account), inheritors of lands in both East and West – lands whereon We sent down Our blessings. The fair promise of thy Lord was fulfilled for the Children of Israel, because they had patience and constancy, and We leveled to the ground the Great Works and fine buildings which Pharaoh and His people erected (with such pride).  Quran: Surah 7, Ayah 137

When asked, is polygamy a test for Muslim women, I feel safe in saying that possibly it is

The stories in the Holy Quran are there for a reason. They have a purpose. We are to learn from them. The stories are not fairy-tales, bedtime stories or to past-time. We are to apply the stories to our lives. All of Allah’s Prophets are our examples.

A woman in a polygamous marriage must ask herself what is happening in her marriage that could be a test, and ask herself how she could pass it.

Is polygamy a test for Muslim women? Muslims who live polygamy sometime wonder if it is a trial or a punishment. Allah may test some of us with polygamy, and he may punish some of us with polygamy.

We need to take a good look at our lives. See if we have or haven’t been serving, worshiping, and obeying Allah as He has ordered us to do. Have we been obeying ALL of His commands?

She may answer “yes” to the question, is polygamy a test for Muslim women?

Then why do she blame her husband for the test? If a husband wrongs his wife, a punishment may await him. On the other hand, Allah just may forgive him, if he repents and asks Allah to forgive him.

If a woman is patient and constant with her tests, she will win through. She must put Allah first in her life. When she focuses on Him and obeys His commands, He will shower His gifts, blessings, and bounties upon her.

Is polygamy a test for Muslim women? It’s a strong possibility. Allah says He tests the believers.

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  • anabellah

    October 2, 2016

    mamahutsana, Wa Alaikum As Salaam, Yay, it’s good to have you back, my dear sister

    I remember you all so well. I love, love, love your name. It’s so cool. Does it have a meaning?

    Why don’t you come join us over on the October discussions thread. Share your thoughts with us or give us some advice, or not. It’s all good. It’s just nice that you popped in and gave us a helloooo

  • mamahutsana

    October 2, 2016

    Asalam walaikum warahmatullahi wa barakatuhu sisters long time back

  • Ayesha

    October 2, 2016 wa likum wa Rahmatullahi wa barakutuhu long time i hvnt contacted but am happy Alhamdulillah am back again i was just reminded by facrbook of the article of trials of 2014 that i shared .