Most wives want to know how to live in a polygamous marriage pain-free. The pain and suffering they endure are the biggest problems that most of them face when they are in polygamous marriages. For example, they become depressed and can’t eat or sleep. Most can’t stop thinking about what their husbands and the other wives are doing together. The wives feel an agonizing pain in their hearts that words can’t describe.
A most often asked question by women in polygamous marriages is how to get rid of the pain. I will address the question based on what I have learned. Most Muslim women in polygamous marriages never expected to live the lifestyle. They certainly never wanted to.
Nearly no woman anywhere is free of having an issues with polygamy when she is in it. Mainly it’s because she didn’t grow up in societies that readily accept polygamy. The lifestyle is new to most women. Not to mention that sharing a husband is foreign to them.
Of course, I’m not speaking of women who voluntarily seek out an alternative lifestyle. Choosing a lifestyle that isn’t the norm is not the same as finding oneself unexpectedly living polygamy. I’m speaking of Muslim and non-Muslim women who have Muslim husbands. They are the ones who should know that one day their husbands may take on other women to marry.
Some people have suggested things a woman could do to help her live in a polygamous marriage pain-free
For instance, they tell the woman to stay busy and do things that she enjoy. She’s told to socialize with others to help her feel better. It’s said that it would get her mind off her polygamous marriage. However, those things are just band-aids.
Surely one can stay busy, be around people, but it doesn’t stop her from worrying about her problems. It’s not easy for her to do socialize and stay busy when she is in a state of depression.
A depressed person loses the joy and enthusiasm for the things she used to do. It’s difficult for them to get motivated. They can barely do their usual daily chores and duties. Taking care of their responsibilities is a chore.
What does a woman really need to do to live in a polygamous marriage pain-free
First, she needs to understand she is unhappy because of her thoughts. She needs to keep her thoughts in the present, not in the past, not in the future, not on something unknown, and not on something imaginative. If they aren’t in the present, the thoughts are from Satan.
Satan whispers things to us to make us feel sorry or badly about ourselves. Furthermore, he whispers things to make wives imagine what their husbands and their husbands’ other wives are doing etc. A woman must know her thoughts and where they come from as the first step for her to feel better. She then is on her way to winning the battle she has with Satan.
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