I call polygamous marriages “living perfectly flawed polygamy,” because there is nothing wrong with polygamy as an institution. The flaw is in the people who think that people and polygamous marriages should have no flaws. Basically, one’s expectations are the problem. People expect too much from one another.
One of our dear commentators here at polygamy 411, named “Gail”, said, “If everyone listened to reason (husbands giving wives rights 24/7 then we would live in a utopia)” What she said is true. It’s the point that I try to make when I say this life is earth and not Paradise. It is why we have perfectly flawed polygamy.
Allah has given us the Holy Quran to live our lives by. We must remember that mankind will commit sins. Therefore, no one is going to live the entire Holy Quran perfectly, twenty-four hours a day and seven days a week. Although, it’s something that we should aspire to. So, why do some people think that all men who live a polygamous life will always do it fairly, justly, with kindness, and without error?
What makes them think that there are men who will always do all the things that they should do? Many know right from wrong, but don’t do it. Some don’t know right from wrong, which is why they can’t do it. Either way, the way the men conduct themselves results in perfectly flawed polygamy. They will suffer the consequences for what they do.
No one is without sin, which is why I call it “living perfectly flawed polygamy”
We all sin and will sin again and again and again. Allah lets us know that. Additionally, he says a believer is one who repents. He is a Forgiving God and is Oft-forgiving. Those who don’t repent and Allah doesn’t forgive them will suffer the results. Furthermore, Allah’s punishment is severe. All will not go to Paradise. Some will go to the Fire.
It is ludicrous for anyone to think that all men who lives a polygamous life will live it perfectly. What good does it do to talk all the time about the flaws in men because of the way that they live a polygamous life? It’s a waste of time and bears no good fruit. It amounts to mere complaining.
Let’s not forget that a husband will account to Allah for all that he does wrong in a polygamous marriage. Of course we all will account to Allah for what we do. There are those who suffer and are in pain in monogamous marriages as well as in polygamous ones. People talk about how bad men are, but do they sit around talking about how bad monogamous men are? Yet, we hear wives talking about how bad polygamous men are. Which one is the problem? Is it the type of marriage or is it the man?
If one meets a person who is living perfectly flawed polygamy, instead of finding fault, try to help her or him. Remember, if we aren’t part of the solution, we are part of the problem. In conclusion, polygamy is perfect. People have the flaws.
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