Many polygamous marriages lack peace due to the wives lack of faith in Allah. There are so many unhappy women and men in polygamous marriages, and they don’t know why. In this article, I’ll take a look at women and why some of them have trouble in their marriages.
A common reason for the problems is that they don’t know their religion, Islam. It means to have the wrong belief in Islam, as well. If a woman believes that she is in control of all her affairs, she will never have peace in any marriage that she is in. It wouldn’t matter if it’s a polygamous or a monogamous one. Furthermore, if she believes men are in control of their affairs or all human beings are in control of their affairs, she most likely would blame others for her problems.
Many polygamous marriages lack peace because the spouses blame each other or others for what Allah has done
They believe that they and others have power along with Allah. It means they think that they make things happen, which includes that they choose their mates. On the contrary, Allah created our mates. He decreed who we will marry.
When a woman believes that she chose her mate and her mate chose to marry another woman, which makes him polygamous, she has given Allah partners. She has said that she decides and her husband decides. They think they make decisions and share power with Allah. It’s an erroneous belief.
It is shirk (setting up partners with Allah or making something or someone his equal). Shirk is an unforgivable sin if the person doesn’t repent, and Allah doesn’t forgive the person before Allah seizes his or her soul. Those who Allah created are not His equal, nor are they His partners.
Many polygamous marriages lack peace when wives try to control their husbands
It includes when they try to control who their husbands marry, as well. A lot of times a woman is content with her husband, but as soon as he desires to marry another woman, she freaks out about it. She doesn’t like it and begin to rebel, causing problems in the marriage.
She fail to remember Allah. The wife doesn’t accept that Allah has allowed polygamy for men. Women don’t understand that Allah has placed a desire in many men for more than one wife. They don’t know that if the man marries another woman and becomes polygamous, it’s because Allah decreed it.
A woman does not know her problem is not with her husband or his potential other wife or the other wives. Her problem is with her Lord, who is Allah, who is God. It’s with her Creator. No one wants to hear someone say she lacks faith, but the truth is that she lacks it.
Many polygamous marriages lack peace when a wife is arrogant and haughty the same as Iblis (Satan) was
Usually, the wife who marries first thinks that she is superior to the wife who married her husband after she did. On the other hand, the wife who married the husband second thinks she is superior because the husband must have found something in her that the other wife lacked. Each wife tries to find reasons to make herself seem better than the other wife, and it’s wrong.
It’s common for a wife say to the husband’s other wife – he said he would divorce you, if I want him to. The fact is, “if” doesn’t matter. It’s the action that counts. Until or unless he leaves the other wife and makes it a reality, “If” is useless. It is not real.
Many polygamous marriages lack peace because the wives don’t deal with reality. What is real is that the wives are equal. Righteousness makes one wife better than the other. The person who is the most righteous is the most honorable one in the sight of Allah.
In conclusion, the wife should seek righteousness. She should make serving Allah most important to her, so that she could be the most honorable servant of Allah. It’s a must, if she wants to enter Paradise.
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