Some mothers say polygamy hurts them and their children. When their husbands leave them alone and go to their other wives, they think it is unfair. They say the children do not get to see their fathers much. The mother is left alone to raise the children by herself, as though she is a single mom.
I get why the women feel the way they do. After all, most grew up in monogamous societies. They grew up thinking that a husband should have one wife and children, living together. It’s their ideal family but not always a reality.
Some mothers say polygamy hurts them, but lack of real knowledge is more of the problem
Most people don’t know that their lives would be easier, if they learned the lessons that are in the Holy Quran. Those stories are for us to live our lives by. This is to say, they are not fairy-tales, nor are they there to read as a past-time. Rather, they should help Muslims mold and shape their lives.
When the mothers say polygamy hurts them, they should consider the story of Mary, the mother of Prophet Jesus (PBUH). For one thing, she was all alone, pregnant and gave birth with no human being to help her. She relied on Allah to provide all her needs. Thus, he helped her through it.
We must believe that Allah provides, protects and takes care of us. A wife shouldn’t base whether her life is good or bad on what her husband does or doesn’t do. All our lives are the way Allah designed it.
Some mothers say polygamy hurts them, but do they know the story of Prophet Abraham (PBUH)?
Prophet Abraham (PBUH) took one of his wives out into the desert and left her and their son there. Can you imagine? Of course, Allah took care of them. He provided all their needs as He tells us that he would. Emphatically, He is the only One who provides.
Additionally, we have the story of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), as well. He was an orphan. The only family he knew was his Uncle. His uncle was an unbeliever. Allah had the Uncle care for the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). Allah provided for them.
Muslims should learn from those lesson that Allah provides and takes care of us all. Therefore, a wife shouldn’t feel a need to rely on her husband. Allah is the One who has everything to give. He is the One who helps, protects and guides.
Some mothers say polygamy hurts them, but they need to ask why they feel and think the way that they do
They should re-evaluate how they see life and their situation. First thing to remember is that Allah says He tests the believers. Furthermore, he says we cannot enter Paradise without being tested. The persons whom I spoke of above had monumental tests, and they passed them.
Some mothers say polygamy hurts them; however, polygamy is not the problem. In other words, their expectations about life is what hurts them.
A Muslim has a guide and a mercy, which is the Holy Quran. It has the keys to life and the meaning of life in it. It’s what a wife needs to learn.
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