My co-wife disturbs my peace intentionally. Now what should I do about it? Probably, it’s what every woman in a polygamous marriage has said at one time or another. It doesn’t matter if she married her husband in the order of 1st, 2nd, 3rd or 4th; she still has the problem.Wouldn’t it be nice if the other woman who married her husband didn’t cause her trouble?
The complaint goes somewhat like this: My co-wife disturbs my peace in that she sends me nasty texts and calls me. She calls my husband in the evenings, as well. It’s when he and I are having or trying to have quality time with each other. Sometimes he takes the calls, and other times he doesn’t. Nonetheless, it disrupts the serenity that we are having or are trying to have. I think she’s just trying to rattle my cage.
My co-wife disturbs my peace intentionally is one of many complaints that women in polygamous marriages have
When she lets what her co-wife does bother her, she has forgotten Allah. She has forgotten what He says. She fails to remember that Allah says that He tests us with one another. Perhaps He uses one wife as a test for the other one.
I suppose that when her co-wife is messing with her, she doesn’t see it as a test from Allah. Rather, she sees it as her desire is not being fulfilled. Specifically, she wants her co-wife to stop it. She wants her co-wife to leave her alone. Sometimes the other wife just won’t listen, and things get worse.
When we remember Allah, He lets us see alright. We can see things clearly and know what to do. A way to pass the test is to remember that Allah wrote the script. He had written that the woman calls and says whatever she says etc. Allah had her do it.
The next time a wife thinks, “My co-wife disturbs my peace intentionally”, she should remember to ignore ignorance
It’s what Allah tells us to do. It could be that the co-wife is unaware that she is hurting her own soul by causing mischief. Allah, however, sees all things. With that said, the one wife shouldn’t let the co-wife get under her skin. First of all, she should ask the co-wife not to bother her anymore. We mustn’t despair when a co-wife acts like an ass.
It could still be a test for the wife who gets pestered. Patience and perseverance are important for her to have. It’s what Allah wants us to have. To persevere is what He wants us to do. Additionally, we are to turn to Him for help and guidance.
It wasn’t for the good of her soul, if she did something evil. She will account to Allah for what she has done and will suffer the reward for it. It’s not the reward that she was expecting. The reward is evil. On the other hand, maybe she has reached out to her co-wife to do good, for which Allah may reward her with good.
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