Wives can have peaceful polygamous marriages, but they must learn a thing or two about human nature. Living a polygamous lifestyle in the 21st century is not easy for any woman. It’s because most women don’t want to share a husband.
A woman wants a husband whom she can call her own. People are possessive by nature. Everyone wants to own things. The more things we own, the more accomplished we feel. Wives feel a sense of ownership when it comes to their husbands. When she has a husband whom she thinks she owns, she feels accomplished.
Wives can have peaceful polygamous marriages, but must first learn no one owns anyone
Wives can have peaceful polygamous marriages but must first learn that no one owns anyone. We all belong to Allah who is God. Everyone and everything, including our husbands, belong to Allah. Nothing is ours, not even a husband. We certainly realize it quickly once our husbands marry other women. When it happens, it’s no longer just the one woman and her husband. It’s no longer my husband and me. It’s a wake-up call for any wife to learn that her husband has married or will marry another woman, which makes their marriage polygamous. Wives can have peaceful polygamous marriages when they recognize and admit that their husbands belong to Allah. They must admit that Allah has full control and rule over their husbands. It’s the first step to being at peace in a polygamous marriage.
Wives can have peaceful polygamous marriages once they learn the meaning of life
Wives can have peaceful polygamous marriages once they learn the meaning of life. Many people spend much wasted time trying to learn the meaning of life. When we know we have a purpose in life and know what the purpose is, we have a good start. We have a nice beginning. We need to ask Allah to allow us to read the Quran with sincerity and ask Him to teach and to guide us. The meaning of life is in the Holy Quran. Allah says the Quran is a mercy and a guide for the Believers. Following what is in the Quran is a means for a wife to have the peace and comfort in her life that she longs for. It makes for a peaceful and tranquil marriage.
Allah tells us very simply in the Quran that He created us to serve and to worship Him and Him alone. We should devote our time and attention to the worship of Him. It will get us into Paradise/Jannah. Worshiping our husband’s won’t. Some people mislead women into thinking that the way to Paradise/Jannah is by being devoted to and serving our husbands. It’s a fallacy. There are no intermediaries when it comes to worshiping Allah and reaping rewards from Him. I think men manipulate women into becoming subservient to them. They mislead women to believe the way to Paradise is by way of them (the husbands). The way to Paradise is strictly by going directly to Allah.
Wives can have peaceful polygamous marriages once they’ve subjugated their desires
Once wives accept that their husbands belong to Allah and not to them, and they know the meaning of life, they need to subjugate their desires. Wives can have peaceful polygamous marriages once they’ve subjugated their desires. All of what we’ve learned in this world life about going after and getting what we want, we have to unlearn. Much of what we learned is useless knowledge. It won’t help us to grow nearer to Allah in His attribute, nor help us reach our goal in life. We should do what we must to enter Paradise/Jannah, making it our goal in life. We should do all we can to obey Allah to enter Jannah/Paradise. We know what to do and how to do it by reading the Quran. When we read the Holy Quran, we know what Allah expects of us.
Wives can have peaceful polygamous marriages when they learn to accept what Allah decrees. If a woman is in a polygamous marriage, it’s because it pleases Allah. Allah willed it. Allah knows what is best for us. He planned our lives out for us. He wrote the script.
Our lives are never what we expected. Sometimes we don’t know what to expect, but we expect something. We always seem displeased. We’re always searching for something to fill a void in our hearts and make us fulfilled. Worshiping and serving Allah properly will do it.
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