Polygamous Husband has Sex Pics

polygamous husband has sex picsWhat happens when a polygamous husband has sex pics of one or more of his wives on his cellphone? First, it could be harmful to the marriage. There is a chance that others could see them. The pics (photos) may fall into the hands of those who shouldn’t have them. Furthermore, they could end up on the internet.

There is a 21st century new wave called ‘sexting.’ It’s when a person sends another an explicit sex message or pics by way of a cellular device such as a cellphone. Usually it’s teenagers who send them. Although, adults in polygamous marriages have been known to send sex pics, as well.

A husband and his wives could have serious problems, if his wife goes into his phone and finds pics of his other wife. It’s possible that she will keep the pics and sent them to his other wife to hurt her. She may send them to other people, as well.

When a polygamous husband has sex pics of one wife, the other wife who finds them may feel hurt

Problems may arise from ‘sexting’ when a husband is polygamous, meaning he has more than one wife. We have heard stories here at polygamy 411’s from commentators about how sexting has hurt their marriages. For instance, some have said that they found porn pics or sexually explicit pics on their husbands’ cellphones. The pics were of their husbands’ other wives or of the husbands.

In Islamic marriages, husbands and wives are to live with each other in peace and tranquility. When a polygamous husband has sex pics of his wives, it could ruin the peace and tranquility in the marriage. In other words, it could get in the way of them being happy. Polygamous marriages are difficult enough without adding a husband’s indiscretion to it. He should have enough sense to know a wife may look in his phone, if it’s lawful to do so or not. The lawfulness of looking in his phone is not what this article is about.

If a polygamous husband has sex pics on his phone, it’s a sign that he is not a sensible man

First of all, sex is a private matter between a husband and a wife. Furthermore, if he wants to foster a healthy, harmonious polygamous marriage, and protect his wives, he wouldn’t keep those type of pics on his phone. Men are responsible for protecting women. Subjecting them to possible sexual exposure makes him remiss in his duties.

Should the wife who learns that pics of her landed in the hands of the other wife have concerns? She should. Especially, she should because modesty is an important part of Islam for a Muslim. It is a sign that the woman who took the pics of herself and sent them by way of the air waves had no modesty. It’s a reflection of her character. She should know those pics could get out there to others.

When a polygamous husband has sex pics on his phone, there is danger that another person could re-text them

It’s not always just another wife who could finds the pics. In fact, the husband could lose his phone and whoever finds it may see the sex pics, as well. We never know in whose hands the pics will fall. Particularly, what will the person who finds the pics do with them? The person could place the pics on the internet. After which, they could go viral.

In conclusion, below is a video called, “The Dangers of Sexting.”  It’s from, “It’s your call” with Lynn Dole. Her guests were an attorney; a clinical psychologist; and a NJ Assembly Woman. The Assembly Woman sponsored a bill to protects kids from the dangers associated with ‘Sexting.’ Basically, they spoke about ‘Sexting’ as it relates to teens, but some of what they said could apply to adults, as well.

The psychologist said some people text sex pics as an attention grabber. For instance, the girl intends to grab her boyfriend’s attention or she wants to grab a person’s attention whom she wants as a boyfriend. The psychologist said a teenager’s brain is not formed to understand the effects of their behavior. Apparently, it applies to some adults’ brains as well. They simply don’t understand consequences. The attorney said people who sex text do not respect their own physical person, nor their own privacy. It’s quite interesting.

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32 Comments

  • anabellah

    November 8, 2014

    Sis Ina,

    I’ve been biting my tongue. Yes, I have. I don’t want to encourage you to do anything wrong. Better you than me (about sitting by and letting the girl whoop on you), cuz I know me. How does the saying go? You need to open a can a whoop @$$ on her.

    Now don’t get me wrong. Don’t initiate anything and don’t provoke her. BUT, the next time she messes with you, you may want to retaliate – an injury for an injury. She may think twice about messing with you anymore. Some people need to get a taste of their own medicine.

  • Ina

    November 8, 2014

    LOL Gail and Ana. Love the way you two write. I think it’s easier for me to deal with the boy now. It’s my turn to have a little fun winding him/her up. I know many sisters advised me to ignore him/her but I am not going to stand still and be a punching bag any longer.

    Gail, don’t worry I can’t imagine ever being friends with her.

  • anabellah

    November 8, 2014

    Gail,

    Oh, my gosh, you never cease to stop cracking me up the way you write. You are one funny woman. I’m with you on what Ina is about to embark upon when hubs comes back home. I’ll tell you one thing, the girl is scary.

    I’ll have you and coco know, I watched most of “Norbit” last night till I got sleepy. I did get a good amount of laughs right from the very beginning when they threw the baby out the car and the orphanage guy said he was an ugly baby. That Asian guy who ran the orphanage was way too funny. Insha Allah, I’ll finish watching it this evening. I was surprised, I’m having fun with it. I enjoyed what I’ve watched thus far. Thank you both for the recommendation.

  • Gail

    November 8, 2014

    Ina,
    From your post u seem like u r doing some better which I hope is the case.
    Ina I am happy u r starting to also see that it is the girl.This is good for u because now u know exactly what this girl thinks of u and the lengths she will go to try to disturb u and your family.
    Ina your husband is under her spell right now with the marriage being new so yeah anything u try to say to your husband he won’t be able to hear right now.
    Honestly he screwed up big time Ina and as much as u r hurting right now this really is going to be your time to shine if u choose to see this through because your value is fixing to jump sky high after she starts taking bites out of his A$$.
    Ina don’t think she will just reserve her hatred just for u dear.She will also start going crazy on him.
    Ina I don’t know for the life of me why this girl and her family agreed to marry a married man when she obviously hates the idea of Polygamy but it happened.
    Ina I think u r also fixing to find out this girl is going to have many faces and what I mean by that is she is acting nasty now and hiding behind some made up boys ID.She will eventually figure out nothing she does being nasty will work on u so she may very well change tactics and start trying to befriend u.Please watch out down the road for a change in attitude from this little Devil.I have no doubt once she figures out her pics and nasty words r not working on u she will change tactics.
    As far as your husband calling u an old auntie don’t worry the girl will be calling him Grandpa after awhile u will see.LOL What goes around comes around it is just the way it goes.Also believe me Ina your day will come when he will come to you depressed or upset over this little monster and then u will have the choice to either hug him and give him advice or kick him right in the b@lls the choice will be yours.I assure u though that day will come and maybe sooner than later.LOL

  • anabellah

    November 8, 2014

    Ina,

    It sounds as though it’s going to be the type of situation in that when he comes home, she will contact him CONSTANTLY. Allah knows best. Just be prepared for it to happen.

    She is quite young and this is all new for her. She’s not going to like him being away from her. She’s had him as a husband for at least three weeks, just the two of them. Now, he has to leave her to go to you and they must begin a schedule. No newly wed wants that. It’s not the life she dreamed of having.

    You have to get your mind right and prepared as much as you can for what is about to come. I think there really isn’t anything to prepare you enough for it. It’s something you must experience – him constantly communicating with her while with you.

    You have to be patient with him. What do you intend to do, if he spends every waking moment dealing with her on the phone? Scream, yell, go crazy, freak? It won’t help, and will keep you upset.

    Here comes the test. Could you be patient, turn to Allah, persevere, and know Allah will resolve the matter in due time? – not your time, but His time. It’s a struggle. It’s your battle with self. It’s your test – perhaps…

  • anabellah

    November 8, 2014

    Ina, As Salaamu Alaikum,

    Your husband absolutely won’t believe anything you show him that is negative about the girl. It’s because he DOESN’T WANT TO believe anything negative about her. It’s not because he doesn’t believe what you present to him because it’s inaccurate. You could give him 99% proof that it’s her, but he doesn’t want the proof. To believe what you’re saying means he’d have to act. He’d have to leave her or discipline her, which he doesn’t want to do. He’d rather turn a blind eye to it.

    I doubt she will stop. It’s just the beginning. She is really pissed off that she’s married to a man who has another wife and she doesn’t like it at all. She may have known he went off to call you, so she emailed you. Poor girl can’t even enjoy her honeymoon cuz she’s so busy thinking about you. She’s all messed up. And you think those two are in a happy state of bliss. Think again, Ina. Girlfriend is probably agonizing as we speak. It’s what she gets for being devious.

    When we do wrong, we only hurt ourselves. We’ve all been there. Until she gets herself right with Allah, she’s going to have issues and she will be very, very unhappy. She will make your husband unhappy too. See what happens when he returns to you. She’s not going to have it. Be prepared for her to go craaaazy. I like the saying to, “You can’t fix crazy”. I think Marie said it. Someone correct me, if I’m wrong. I don’t think the girl is really crazy. She just acts crazy. It’s one thing to act crazy and another thing to really be crazy LOL

  • Ina

    November 8, 2014

    Waalaikumsalam Ana and everyone,
    I love some of the comments about my situation like “you cannot fix crazy” and “kill her with kindness”. I suppose there is not much that I can do since I do not know for certain who this boy is but he is back to try torment me again. Hubby called last night and a few hours later I get emails from the boy. Another coincidence? It seems more and more likely that it’s my co-wife. It makes no sense that someone who is supposed to be obsessed with co-wife continues to hassle me after the wedding! Everybody is right, hubby will not listen/believe me if I said anything to him. It looks like co-wife resents the fact that hubby ask her to block me from her facebook so she is sending me things she posts via this boy. Things which are suppose to make me jealous/hurt me. Maybe eventually she will dig herself into a hole with the things she/he sends me so I am just going have to be patient.

  • anabellah

    November 7, 2014

    As Salaamu Alaikum,

    I could see how Ina may be perceived by some people as being the trouble maker, if she found some negative information and brought it to the attention of the husband or the girl’s parents. In Ina’s case, however, she is clearly the victim. Someone sent the information about the girl directly to her. Even if the boy did it and not the girl, the sex pics are definitely of the girl. What is the boy doing with the pics to be able to send them to Ina? Even if we were to believe the boy hacked the girl’s email, the pics are there. They are real. The girl definitely needs to be held accountable. She is not innocent in the matter. Ina could act or not act. Either way is okay. Regardless, the husband is blind, so no one could expect him to do anything. One can only expect him to act, if he catches her red handed – in bed with another man or something devastating that hurt him directly. It’ll have to be something huge.

  • Anisa umm Imran

    November 7, 2014

    Asalamu alikum ladies

    subhan Allah it really does sound like it’s this girl sending all the pic and messages … your hubby should be alot more bothered by this for instance .. why is this girl allowed to be chatting with other boys/men …are you sis Ina allowed to chat to other men if not why is she and why isnt he making more of a fuss about it

    my exco use to send dirty text messages to my hubby while they were married adn he told her to stop for the sme reason ana mentioned it is appropriate and someone else can read and see … this is the time for your hubby to take a stand and deal with this before something bad happens

  • anabellah

    November 5, 2014

    It’s easy to tell when men marry for lust. They marry women who don’t want anything to do with the exiting family.The men don’t care about the effect the marriage will have on the existing family.

    The women let the men know at the onset that they only want the men, and prefer monogamy, but were consenting to polygamy only to get what they wanted – the men. Both the man and the woman who he intends to marry only care about satisfying their own desires – what they can receive from each other.

    Later into the marriage, the man wonders why his life is in chaos. Did he really think Allah would bless such a union? I doubt the husband or the new wife cared anything about Allah when they were plotting and planning their union.

  • Mari2

    November 5, 2014

    Ina,
    It is odd though, if girl is boy, that she is actually harming herself and her own marriage by sending you pics and stuff. It could backfire on her at some point. I agree with Ana…do nothing. Download whatever has been sent to you onto a flash drive. Then tuck it away in case you (or your husband) may need it somewhere down the road. Who knows, perhaps in the future he may need to prove her instability if his eyes are opened. It would be to your benefit to document any and all communication with her. And don’t be alone with her ever. Always let your husband or another trusted person be with you. This is so she cannot say you said or did something. Do not argue with her. Remember, you cannot fix crazy, nor can you rationalize with her. So don’t bother to try. You’ll just spin your wheels.

  • Gail

    November 5, 2014

    Ana,
    I laughed when u mentioned “What About Bob” Hands down it is one of my all time favorite movies.It was my 1st husbands who died almost 3 yrs ago all time favorite movie.It reminds me of his personality.Lord that man used to act like Bob and nearly drove me to the loony bin! hahahaha

  • anabellah

    November 5, 2014

    Gail,

    When a woman has a co like Ina’s (And you know I know about having a co like Ina’s) she’s got to view the co like the co is her husbands “ho”. LOL It’s not about Islam – sisters-in-faith -. The cos want to play games; they can’t converse or articulate themselves, so forget about communicating with them. It’s as the psychiatrist in the video above stated; their brain is not formed.

    Some married men have girlfriends. Some men have more than one wife (The girlfriend/mistress) is considered a wife. Many men “cheat”. Many men are inclined to have more than one woman/wife. When a woman finds out the woman who her husband is married to is of a shady character or isn’t about anything that polygamy should be about, it’s best not to have anything whatsoever to do with the woman. Let the husband deal solely with the woman. See her as the husband’s “whatever” and keep it moving. She should make it her intent to have the best marriage she can with her husband and see the other woman as “whatever”. The husband is simply being a man.

    I had a colleague who said that when she gets married, she won’t care what her husband does just as long as he knows where home is. I assumed she had a dad who had a mistress, but he came home every night. I assumed she thought it was something she, too, could handle, as her mother did. What she said sounded good to me. I’m like, wow, yair, liked that philosophy. Nonetheless, she ended up getting pregnant in college. She wedded the guy, had the baby and later divorced. I guess her philosophy didn’t work so well for her. I see how it could work for me, though. LOL

    Ina,

    Hang in there. You’ve got to take it slow and easy. You have to take baby steps as Gail and I say, baby steps, baby steps, baby steps. You’ve got to see the movie, “What About Bob.” It’s so funny LOL

  • Gail

    November 5, 2014

    Ana,
    In all honesty Ina’s situation reminds me alot of my own. I don’t know if Ina knows my entire story about my own excowife and where she talked behind my back so negative and if that was not enough tried to poison me on more than one occasion not to mention she totally acted so horrible with mine and husbands biological child and flat said she only cared about her kids and not mine even after I have been raising her kids with my own.That really made me want to hold her by the hair and punch her in the face.
    The way Ina’s cowife is acting is the exact same way my cowife acted also.She did it in a different way but sneaky nonetheless.In my cowifes case she befriended me only to talk about me and call me a liar behind my back and to my face in Punjabi the nasty heffer.lol
    I hope Ina takes our advices and just leave that mess alone for her own sake.What a friggin nightmare! Poor Ina.

  • Laila

    November 4, 2014

    Dear Ina, when I said spunk I was not saying indirectly that the new wife is way intelligent etc etc compared to you. I’ve experienced this s*** with my co. I know to what extent she would go to to get your husband’s trust and believe me, once your husband buys into her crap it will be very difficult for you. My co when I first was to get married and when we did get married made my life a nightmare. She called me non-stop! 30 to 40 calls in a day. She would text real nasty mean stuff. She just was so hell bent to make me die I think. She even once threatened me by saying the exact name of my address…. the guess what?! I SNAPPED!! Now she does not mess with me at all. She even threatened me once that she would call my parents and bitch. I kept telling hubbs and he kept defending her. One day I just turned up at her daughters school. I waited in my car and I called her and told her I am at the school gate. Boy…. she just went berserk. She quickly drove home and cried like baby to hubbs. Hubbs came home and went all ape s*** [ Gails term ] on me. He even slapped me. I FOUGHT BACK. I showed him all her messages and I just told him we are over. Her stupidity was her text messages. Now she does not text. She learnt her lesson. She knows now that if she threatens me, I will give her her own poison. I even told her very clearly in the past, that if she harasses me again, I will lodge a report at the station and I will take it to court. She knows my older brother is a lawyer. So…. I am not condoning her actions. I just am reminded me that she is somewhat like my co. A crazy b****. You are pretty laid back in the sense that because you are wiser you do not do anything. But she may look at it as sign of being meek. My co always bullied me in the past, she now knows I can be a tigress in my own right. So we or I do not believe in my form of communication. But yet she does carry stories about me to my in-laws. I look at it as a sign of boredom in life. I suggest you keep quiet and let this boy / girl get sloppy. Let her bark. Once you have enough evidence, do not even think twice. Just BITE WHERE IT HURTS. Sometimes new wives need to learn their place and learn that as perky as hey can be, or as beautiful as they are, respect is still a two way street. If you sense that your hubbs is not on your side, do not cry tears of blood. Collect evidence and shove it in both their faces. Just recently my so called step daughter made mess. I just took it in my stride. When push came to shove, I showed her father her great texts and just coolly demanded a formal apology. Which by the way, Ive never received. So nowdays, I am very sarcastic when it comes to his daughter. He’s noticed that I am close to my friends daughter who is of the same age as her. He always says that the girl is poor in her studies to which my reply is this, “no point being superbly smart if you cannot even respect your elders” ….. get my drift? …. I just do not allow nonsense to fly my way. High time you did tht for yourself and not just be accepting all the time.

  • Gail

    November 4, 2014

    Laila,
    I totally here u and yes the girl has a heck of alot of spunk no doubt.I have a feeling she is going to stop at nothing to make Ina mental.She may very well be doing this for what I call Sh!ts and giggles and enjoying this as a game.The more she sees Ina is mentally disturbed the happier she is to keep up the game.DO I think she is serious yeah I think she has alot of energy and alot of time on her hands to make Ina miserable if Ina lets her.

    Ina
    I think u missed what Laila was trying to say.If I am correct Laila is trying to say this girl has alot of willpower and is not scared to go after what she wants and what she wants is your husband all to herself it seems.She obviously has no morals since she is trying to mentally torture u.I don’t think Laila meant at all that this girl is intelligent or doing a good thing with u.I do agree with Laila as u should to the girl is hell bent to bother u and does have alotttt of spunk.lol

  • anabellah

    November 4, 2014

    Ina,

    Don’t touch it. He won’t believe anything you tell him or show him. You could spell it out to him so that it’s as clear as day. He will make excuses in his mind for it. She will deny it and he, wanting to believe her, will believe any excuse she comes up with.

    You’ll only aggravate yourself to death trying to get him to see something Allah may have blinded him to. Don’t worry. That girl is no blessing for him. She is there to agonize him. You have to keep yourself right, so that they don’t take you down with them.

  • Ina

    November 4, 2014

    Ana, I can’t believe it either. It will make a good sequel to fatal attraction. Honestly, I thought stuff like this only happens in the movies. I don’t know if I have enough stamina for a ride this rough…

    I want to tell hubby about my suspicions but I don’t have any proof so not sure how I should go about it.

  • anabellah

    November 4, 2014

    Oh, Ina, I understand better, now. It was appears it certainly was your co whose been trying to torment you. I can’t believe she went to such measures. Get prepared for a ride of your life. It won’t be fun.

  • anabellah

    November 4, 2014

    @Ina,

    I’m surprised your husband is so lackadaisical about the whole matter. From what you’ve stated, he doesn’t seem bothered by the fact that either the girl or the boy who hacked the girl’s email sent you those sex pics. It’s a big deal, but he’s taking it lightly. You said he’s supposed to be a “religious bearded” guy too. What’s up with that. This woman is supposed to be his wife. Has he no shame? Something just is not jiving. What does he say about it? Does he simply dismiss you and what’s happening? It’s bizarre. We all have been racking our brains trying to make sense of the matter when your husband should be to shed some light on it.

    Regardless of who sent those sex pics, they ended up in your possession. It is a big deal. People sent them to hurt you. This man who is your husband is supposed to maintain and protect you. Even if there isn’t much he could do about it, he should show some concern other than say it saddens him to read the messages. It’s friggin does more than sadden you. The crap hurts.

    Ina, there is nothing you can do about it other than ask Allah to let you put it to rest and allow you to move on with your life. Those two are bad news.

  • Ina

    November 4, 2014

    @ Laila, if that’s what you call spunk then I am happy to have no spunk. When I had the lightbulb moment that it could be my cowife, I checked the dates of when the facebook fiasco started. We clashed on FB mid April and this boy’s fb account was set up early May. Coincidence?

    The “boy” then contacted co-wife on her facebook to express his interest in her. She complained to hubby that he was not fighting for her on fb so hubby had to make a few comments to fight off this “boy” who was interested in his fiancee. I remember thinking at the time that she probably made up these boys on fb to make hubby jealous. Prior to this boy, there was someone else who did a similar thing and he only joined facebook recently too.

    I think I was thrown off because when the boy first contacted me he was asking what my relationship was with xxxxx (my husband’s name).

  • Ina

    November 4, 2014

    @ Aisha, the story I’ve been told is that the boy hacked into cowife’s email account and got hold of her emails and pics. It was strange because in some of sexier pics he sent me, hubby said the boy was trying to protect the girl as her face is not clearly shown. We thought this was because the boy wanted to protect her reputation in case the wedding did not go ahead. Now it makes sense that the boy is my cowife and she is just protecting herself. I am still in shock that it might be my co-wife who’s been sending me these nasty messages. Whilst I was on holiday, I could not understand why this boy was so hellbent on destroying my marriage. He had nothing to gain especially when it’s only days before hubby’s marriage. It makes more sense that it’s cowife who’s been trying to destroy my marriage.

  • anabellah

    November 4, 2014

    Talk about “Sexting” and nasty pics, men in Egypt received a three years sentence in prison for watching a marriage video of two gay men. All they did was exchange vows, exchanged rings and embraced. It’s incredible. I don’t condone homosexuality, but leave people be and let Allah deal with everyone. It’s my philosophy.

  • anabellah

    November 4, 2014

    Ina,

    Be mindful that the girl/boy is not harming you. She is harming her own soul. She will not accomplish what she’s setting out to do. Nothing good comes from evil. Eventually, she may realize that all she’s attempting to do backfires on her and she becomes more unhappy. You’re older and wiser than the girl. You know much more than she does about Islam and about life in general. Once you’re able to overlook her, and keep getting on with your life (worshiping Allah) the more content and at peace you will be. The girl is like a kid you’re playing with. Whose got time for it? Let her go get a puppy or something. You’ve got grown folk’s things to take care of.

    The girl is creepy.

  • Aisha

    November 4, 2014

    Wow sis lna this is just weired I mean how does a girl in her right mind tell a boy about her sexual affairs with her intended…it all doesn’t add up,and how does your husband over look all this?doesn’t he wonder how can someone have all this information about his affairs?..I find it some what suspicious!he knows what is going on here but he wont tell u

  • anabellah

    November 4, 2014

    Dear Laila,

    I agree with you and Gail that the girl is serious, could be dangerous and Ina should keep herself and her children away from the girl at all cost. I have never known anyone in real life to be as ruthless and persistent as she is. Although, I’ve seen it in movies. It’s scary!!!

  • Laila

    November 4, 2014

    Dear Ana and all. Nope Ana…. shes not lost her marbles. Shes just hell bent on hurting Ina and making her husband insecure. Trust me this girl has a plan…. and shes following it to the last stage. As amature as she may be, shes clearly not happy with Ina and she wants to also shake things up. Ive got to say this though and no offence to any of u guys. This girl has got spunk. She really is going all out to get what she wants and shes least bothered of the negative outcome. I think she probably got upset about the Facebook picture fiasco.

  • Gail

    November 4, 2014

    Ina and Ana,
    Ina by u saying the boy told u about the sex pics now I am certain in my mind that it is the girl and not some boy at all.There is no way a woman esp a virgin girl is going to tell ANYONE that she has sent naked pics to her man.Ina she is out for blood dear and I mean your blood.She is going to stop at nothing to mentally disturb u and try to get u divorced.I really believe in your case it is a must u r going to have to handle Miss Disaster with a very firm hand.Ina keep her away from u and your children at all cost is my advice again.DO NOT let her near your children I don’t trust her even around the children since she stopped at nothing to go on your sons blog.It proves to me very very clear she could and would say something disturbing to the children.Don’t chance it Ina.U must lay down the law to your hubby and make your intentions very clear u believe the girl is the one that wrote that crap and she is hell bent on destroying your marriage.Your hubby will no doubt brush it under the carpet I assume since he just married her but u stick to your guns girl and do not give in.Make him keep her away from u and your kids.I don’t even know the girl but I get this sick feeling she will try to destroy u with her jealousy if u let her near u.In time she may mature but that is not your problem if she does or doesn’t.Do not talk to her look at her or engage with her on any level Ina is my sincere advice.

  • anabellah

    November 3, 2014

    Ina,

    It’s even more reason to believe it is the girl who’s sending the messages to you, and trying to get you to believe it’s someone else. There is no way a girl would send sex pics of she and her intended to another male. It’s just unheard of unless she is some type of nasty, sleazy, skank, but you said she is a self proclaimed virgin. It just doesn’t add up. Regardless, it’s incredulous that she would send her own sex pics to you. She sounds like a real doozie. She musts have some lose marbles (something malfunctioned in her brain).

    I thought the person I knew, and had spoken of on the blog was a serious piece of work. You’ve got yourself a real winner.

  • Ina

    November 3, 2014

    Hubby has a password on his phone. Neither me or kids can use his phone. One time, I asked to use it to call for a taxi for a customer because my phone was low on battery and he got very nervous. I was annoyed at his reluctance but I did not know at the time about the sex pics. Now it’s understandable why he is so secretive about his phone.

    I did not get to know about the sex pic and cybersex by snooping. It was all revealed to me by the boy. I remember there was a lot of discussion on the old blog about snooping and how it only end up hurting the people who did the snooping. In my case someone did the snooping for me. Result is the same though.

  • Gail

    November 3, 2014

    Ana,
    It is something I really never thought about before although I have never even thought to send a naked pic of myself as I would be scared if we broke up he would show his buddies in the past.Men could be strange like that so I never took a chance.Even I remember my first love last year asked me to send a body shot of myself and I said WHAT!!! thinking he was asking for a naked pic and he said Good lord woman I mean with clothes on.Still I did not ever send even that much as I felt my head shot was enough.lol

  • anabellah

    November 3, 2014

    I had an interesting experience today that was inline with this post/tread. I was in a store and a lady came in who said she found a cellphone that someone had dropped. I thought it may have been mine, as I had left my handbag in my car and the car was still running. I was just going to run in and out of the store quickly and sometimes I have my cellphone in the pocket of my hoodie. Anyhow, to make a long story short, I looked in the phone and it wasn’t mine. The phone had no password on it.

    It just goes to show how easily people lose cellphones and other people pick them up. She gave the phone to the person working in the store. The phone may pass to a number of people before the owner claims it. Just suppose it’s a phone with naked sex pics on it of someone’s wife and imagine someone other than the husband seeing those pics. I’ve been with people who have laid their phones down, and had to go back and search for them. It’s easy to do.