Some Muslim wives are in what I will call a polygamous marriage nightmare. Surprisingly, they do not know why. They say they are good wives to their husbands and good mothers to their children. If it’s the case, then why are their lives in such turmoil? Why are they extremely unhappy? How it is that they don’t know what they’re doing wrong? They have no clue about why their lives aren’t getting better?
I have written a few posts in which I tried to explain what a wife has to do to have peace, tranquility and contentment in her marriage and in her life. Yet, some people may not hear me, or I’m not getting my message across well. In this post, I will try to explain it a bit better, if it pleases Allah. I will speak about why wives seem to live in a polygamous marriage nightmare.
Most Muslim wives live in a polygamous marriage nightmare as they are Muslim in name only
Specifically, they don’t do what Allah, in the Holy Quran, instructs Muslims to do. Most of all, they don’t believe what He instructs us to believe. They think because they are loyal to their husbands and they take good care of their homes and children, they need to do nothing more. Wrongfully, they think it makes them good Muslims. However, they are so far from being right. Non-Muslim do the same thing. So what makes the Muslim different?
Being a good Muslim is not about her husband, house or children. Rather, it’s about Allah. unfortunately, most women can’t understand that. Thus, they wind up in a polygamous marriage nightmare. She needs to wake up and realized that her husband, children, and home has to take the back seat. The wife has to put Allah in the forefront. Particularly, she has to constantly think about Allah. It doesn’t mean think of Him every now and again.
A wife must believe all that Allah says in the Holy Quran. She must believe in all of His Messengers, His angels, all His Books mentioned in the Holy Quran (Hadiths are NOT Allah’s books), the Hell Fire, and Paradise etc. She must believe in Allah’s promises, which are true. There is so much more, but I can’t sum it all up in a few paragraphs.
A wife lives in a polygamous marriage nightmare when her life isn’t turning out as she’d like it to
A wife will be in a polygamous marriage nightmare as long as she thinks life is about her. How she sees her life in her mind and how she wants it to unfold is all that matters to her. However, how she sees it is furthest from reality. Her life will be nothing like what she imagined. On the other hand, it will be the way Allah has created it. He wrote the script for her life before she was born. She has to carry it out not knowing what He wrote. For this reason, she needs to just go with it.
If a wife does not believe or understand that Allah controls her life, then she will be in a polygamous marriage nightmare. She shouldn’t believe as the non-Muslims do. They believe that they make their lives what it is. Many Muslims believe the same. Many Muslims think just because they call God Allah and they believe in the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) as His Messenger that they are good to go. Of course, they are wrong.
A Muslim wife will have a polygamous marriage nightmare as long as she does not accept her life as Allah created it
The only way she will avoid being in a polygamous marriage nightmare is if she accepts her life, as Allah created it. She must know when she should act and when she shouldn’t. A wife learns it by reading and studying the Holy Quran. To end a polygamous marriage nightmare, the wife must submit to Allah’s will. She must embrace what He places her in. If she is in pain and suffering, she should turn to Allah for relief. Allah tests Muslims and He punishes them, as well.
Allah may test a wife in a polygamous marriage. If He does, she must pray, exercise patience and persevere. Allah will eventually relieve her of the suffering, if He wills it. Allah promises the Believer that after hardship there is relief. He didn’t promise it to the Muslim who is Muslim in name only. He did not promise it to those Muslims who live and think the same as the non-Muslims do. The Muslim whose life looks like the non-Muslim is an Unbeliever.
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