Polygamous marriages contain ease for the Muslim wife and the Muslim husband who actively live the religion Islam. Islam is a way of life. It’s not just something that a Muslim does on a Friday, such as go to Jumu’ah prayer. Neither is it only about fasting the Holy Month of Ramadan or eating Halal foods. Neither is it all about the clothes a person wears. All of it, of course, is part of living an Islamic way of life, but it is not all that Islam is.
All the parties to a polygamous marriage should look at themselves individually, as they aren’t necessarily all on the same page. They may not have the same level of belief in Allah. In fact, some may not believe in Allah at all. Many times a wife in the polygamous marriage isn’t Muslim. In this post, I will talk about the wife, but what I say can apply to the husband, as well.
Polygamous marriages contain ease for the wife who devotes her life to the worship of Allah. Allah created us to obey, serve and worship Him. To get the ease that comes from Allah, a wife must have belief along with righteous deeds. We need those two things to enter Paradise. Some of the righteous deeds I noted above.
So what is belief in Allah? It is to accept as true all that Allah says in the Holy Quran. A wife does not believe if she accepts only the parts of the Quran that she likes, and rejects other parts. Belief is not to take exception to any part of it.
Polygamous marriages contain ease for the wife who believes in Allah
So, what is belief in Allah? It’s to believe that not only did Allah place her in the marriage, He chose the man whom she married. He chose the other woman or women that her husband married, as well. The wife wasn’t part of the selection process. The believing wife lives life as though she makes decisions, but in her heart and mind she knows full well Allah does it all.
A wife with the correct belief in Allah doesn’t deceive herself as to why she’s in a polygamous marriage. For instance, she doesn’t says that she stays in it for the sake of Allah, but stays for other reasons.
Some of the reasons that a wife may stay in a polygamous marriage is because she fears being without a husband. She may fear raising the children without their father. Furthermore, she may fear not being able to support herself financially without him. Another fear is that she will never wed again. Fear is not good because Allah tells us to fear no one and nothing but Him. Yet, many wives are full of fear.
Polygamous marriages contain ease for the wife who does not make life about herself
She has ease only if Allah has allowed her to read the Holy Quran and lets her understand what she reads. Furthermore, Allah only guides those who seek His guidance. A wife must seek Allah’s guidance with a sincere desire and goal to serve Him.
Additionally, a wife must sincerely care about entering Paradise in the Hereafter. She mustn’t get wrapped up in living this life. For instance, she mustn’t make her life all about her marriage, husband, or children. If she’s living her life the same way non-Muslims are in that she is only concerned about this life, then she will find no ease in her life.
Polygamous marriages contain ease for the wife who believe in all that is in the Holy Quran
A wife must read the Quran to learn it and live it. She must accept all that is in the Quran even though she may not understand it. Belief is to accept something without needing proof. It is belief in the unknown.
We have limited understanding, as we are not Allah. A Muslim/Believer accepts what Allah says without questioning it. If a wife listens to those who do not know why Allah created us, and do not believe in what He says, she will go astray. She will not have ease in this life. Most importantly, she won’t enter Paradise.
If a wife thinks she could pick up the Quran, read it, and begin to pray so her husband will love her or love her more than the other wife, and get results, she is mistaken. The Quran is not for a person to pick up and turn to in the time of a crisis. It is for a Muslim to read and turn to daily, at all times for the rest of her life. After all, life is about Allah.
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